Appearance affects the formation of personality. "Judging people by their appearances" hurts children's self-esteem, and parents' love is very important.

Once I went shopping and met a very fat young girl.

She was chatting happily with her companions when a couple and their son walked past them. The little boy stared at the fat girl for a long time, and then shouted, "Dad, Mom, look! That elder sister is so fat. I don't want to be like her. "

The noise was so loud that everyone around her heard it. The fat girl blushed, bowed her head and hurried away with her companions.

Obviously, the child's words hurt the girl's self-esteem.

A person's appearance includes not only his face, but also his fat figure, height and disability.

And often people's first impression of people will be their appearance!

When I was in the first grade, I watched the girls' sprint competition in the school sports meeting, and a chubby short girl caught my attention.

In my impression, people who are good at sports will not get fat. As a result, the girl won the first place and will represent the school in the county competition every year for the next three years.

I have a friend who is very beautiful. She is the kind of person who should pay more attention to her when she meets. The boss likes her and her colleagues are willing to get along with her.

Many people will say that you should look at a person's heart, not his appearance. I quite agree with this. In the process of educating children, Bao Tong is also taught to respect everyone.

But each of us can't deny that when we know a person, we start from appearance and are influenced by appearance to some extent.

Take Bao Tong to the park. Her favorite is a row of stone balls in the park, and she will play there for a long time every time she goes.

There was a little girl playing there when we went that day. When we didn't go, we could see that she was having a good time, but when we got closer, she pulled her mother away.

I quickly said, "Never mind, you play with your sister."

Her mother also said, "Yes, play with my sister. It's more fun to play together. "

"No, let's go. There's nobody there. Let's go there. " The little girl was a little confused when she spoke. I found that she was a child with "rabbit lips"

"Bao Tong, go and say hello to your sister."

"Hello, sister!" Bao Tong stepped forward slightly and said to the little girl.

But eventually the little girl took her mother's hand and walked away. I saw a helpless and sad expression on her mother's face.

The little girl looks only five or six years old and has understood her physical defects. She is different from others. Maybe many people's surprised eyes often affect her. This child obviously rejects others.

? Short and thin children may be timid and shy; Children who think they are ugly will be introverted and don't like to show themselves.

? Tall and flexible children are more lively and bold; Children who are often praised for their beauty are more confident and brave.

? Compared with normal children, disabled children are more unsociable, inferior and withdrawn.

I have forgotten what caused one of my former teachers to talk about her daughter in class, but I will always remember the story he told:

His daughter has been in poor health since childhood. She is always ill and looks very weak.

At first, their family just took care of it carefully, not letting them eat cold food, not letting them blow, and so on. The child stayed indoors all day for various reasons that were not conducive to her health.

One day, his daughter came back from kindergarten and was very unhappy. She asked what happened, but the child didn't say anything. The family only thought it was a conflict with the child, thinking that the child would soon forget.

The result was the same the next day and the same until the third day. He finally decided to ask the teacher.

The kindergarten teacher told him this way: "Your family is in charge, saying that the weather is not good these days and children are not allowed to play outdoors. Every time she can only watch other children play on the window, so that children will feel different from others and affect the formation of character. "

When he got home, he went to chat with his daughter again, and finally realized that not only did the teacher say it, but the children kept laughing at her, saying that she was so thin and thin, just a small flower in the greenhouse, and could not hide the sunshine.

He decided to help his children change this situation. He started running and exercising with his children every day, and later he took her to play basketball when she was older.

When the teacher told us this story, his daughter was old, healthy and sunny, and played basketball with boys all day.

A weak child can change his physical condition through exercise; A fat child can also lose weight through proper exercise. As long as parents encourage his children, he will definitely change.

When children are young, their personality has not been finalized. Even if his looks are not outstanding or even disabled, as long as parents are willing to infect his children with love, teach them correct values and let them understand that they should pursue their own ideals, they will not be depressed.

In addition, helping children find the right direction to develop their abilities will make them more confident.

On the contrary, even if a child is outstanding in appearance, if his parents don't care about him, or if his parents' education methods are improper, it will also cause his personality defects such as self-confidence and cowardice.

In short, appearance will have an impact on children, but it is not decisive. What really plays a decisive role is the love of parents and their correct education.

Ma Tongbao has something to say:

While educating children to be confident and overcome their shortcomings, we should also educate children to respect others and understand their own hearts, instead of staying on the surface of "judging people by their appearances."