Why does humor produce affinity?

There are two kinds of people in life, who do you prefer to associate with? One is humorous, always with a smile on his face. When someone is unhappy, he will tell a joke intentionally or unintentionally to make people happy; When the atmosphere is dull, he will use local materials and be silent; When everyone recited scripture as a greeting, he lost no time in gagging to narrow the distance between them. As long as you are at home, you can talk and laugh with him.

The second is lack of sense of humor and unsmiling. When you are bored walking between buildings, he hangs his head and says nothing, as if to seize the opportunity of "ignorance to find money"; You chat with him, and he answers in an orderly way, which is more boring than eight-part essay; When you want to capture the smile on his face, he looks "heroic sacrifice". Even after a long period of running-in, your relationship is familiar again, and you dare not joke with him, because he may be abnormal at any time, which makes you extremely embarrassed.

I believe everyone is still willing to communicate with the former, because their words will make you laugh constantly, let you share the happiness of life, and you can feel more affinity from them. The so-called affinity refers to "the dynamic level and ability of intimate behavior when people get along with each other." The affinity between people often depends on a person's gender characteristics and personality characteristics. For example, some people don't like to laugh when they are born, some people don't like to be close to others when they are young, and some people have lively sex ... but these are not the most important things. As long as you know humor, you won't lose your affinity. If you lack a sense of humor, unfortunately, it means that you have lost your affinity at the same time! Once Bernard Shaw was walking in the street and was knocked down by a reckless cyclist. Fortunately, he was not injured, but a false alarm.

When the cyclist saw that it was the famous Bernard Shaw, he suddenly felt a little flustered. He knows that he can't make such a mistake. So I quickly picked Bernard Shaw up and rushed over to apologize. However, Bernard Shaw didn't blame me, but pretended to be sorry and said, "You are really unlucky-sir, if you kill me, you will be famous all over the world!" Bernard Shaw's open mind endowed him with charming affinity. It is this humor and affinity that reduces the embarrassment of the other party and saves a lot of words; It was this humor and affinity that enabled him to establish a profound friendship with many scholars at that time. Bernard Shaw has a friend named chesterton, who is a famous novelist. They have a very good relationship and often play jokes on each other freely. Chesterton is tall and strong, while Bernard Shaw is tall and thin. The two of them stood together in sharp contrast.

Once, Bernard Shaw wanted to make fun of chesterton's obesity and said to him, "If I were as fat as you, I would hang myself."

Chesterton smiled and said, "If I want to hang myself, I must use you as a sling." I wanted to be quiet with each other, but I was sarcastic. Bernard Shaw didn't get angry, but smiled.

This is Bernard Shaw, humorous and friendly. On the other hand, some people swear when they are hit by a car or driving. When others make fun of it, they will fly into a rage. It's hard to see affinity from them. This is the gap between a rigid person and a humorous person. Because of rigidity, people are often stretched and bound everywhere, which makes interpersonal relationships tense; Because of humor, people become balanced, flexible and popular. Tom got lost in a foreign country, and an enthusiastic passer-by came up and asked, "Are you lost?"

Tom smiled and said, "No, I'm still here, but I did lose the train station!" " "

So, passers-by were infected by his humor and took him to the station in person. This is the power of humor, and its affinity is unparalleled, which makes others unconsciously extend a warm hand to you and reduces many twists and turns in your life.

Someone vividly said: a language without a sense of humor is a document, a family without a sense of humor is a hotel, and a person without a sense of humor is a statue. Yes, a person without a sense of humor is a statue, cold and inaccessible. Let's learn humor and add a charming affinity to ourselves!