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How to eliminate jealousy? Especially people who hate themselves?

Some students are always intolerant of others in class. When you see others who are beautiful and dressed beautifully, you say that you like to show off. Seeing that others have better grades than themselves, they say that others cheated in the exam; Seeing that others are better than themselves, they are unhappy and anxious, and always want to vent or attack others. These manifestations are typical jealousy. Psychology believes that jealousy is an emotional experience of being unconvinced, unhappy and resentful when personal desires are not satisfied. In fact, when a person is jealous of others, it is often himself who is most hurt. Because when you are jealous of others, the parties are usually in a state of tension and anxiety. Jealousy is a bad emotion, which makes people humble and intolerant. Make people lose their reason and confidence and fall into a dangerous situation of self-harm or injury; Make people give up self-pursuit, belittle the success of others with hatred, and thus become a mediocre generation. Envy in interpersonal communication often leads to mutual resentment within the collective, which will make many people waste time and energy and form internal friction. Pupils can overcome jealousy by 1. Be good at learning from others and make up for your own shortcomings. 2. Cultivate interest, actively participate in activities and get out of the narrow circle of self. 3. Improve self-cultivation and strengthen psychological exercise.

The difference between jealousy and envy is that jealousy adds hostile actions to envy.

First, control jealousy within the scope of envy and don't take any action. Tell yourself that jealousy is irrational, and it is an act that harms others and does not benefit others. That's stupid!

Second, make yourself stronger, do what you are good at, and shift your energy to this matter.

Remember, we must adjust our mentality and act in a good way.

I once had the same troubles as you. I used to be very upset about it. I have my own opinion on this matter. But now I haven't eliminated this kind of psychology.

First of all, face up to this kind of psychology. We should know that this kind of psychology cannot be eliminated, because it is an ability that our ancestors had in order to survive in the age of apes, and it exists in each of us. So the first thing we can do is to allow ourselves to be alone, because we are alone, so we will have these feelings of envy and jealousy. Born to be human, please allow to be human. So we don't have to be ashamed of this mentality.

Second, accept this kind of psychology. When we are jealous of something someone has done or owned, it shows that it is what we yearn for and desire, and we also want to pursue or own it in our hearts. This is positive, it seems to inspire us to pursue, but also reminds us that we should work hard, because those we desire have not been obtained.

Finally, if we can face up to this kind of psychology and accept it as a terrible thing, then jealousy will naturally lose control of us and be controlled by us instead. We can have this kind of psychology, in fact, we also have the ability to deal with it. First, take so-called positive measures to pursue what you envy and become a better self. Second, put yourself in a correct position, know that no one is perfect and can't have everything in the world, adjust your mentality and enjoy what you have.

As long as we don't want anything, we will still have jealousy and disgust. Don't feel guilty about it, but don't hurt others for it.

Try to accept it, and you will find that it is only a temporary emotion.

Jealousy is an internal motivation, not necessarily a bad habit. It's also a good thing if we can make rational use of jealousy and improve ourselves with jealousy.

Once upon a time, there was a village where a poor family and a rich family lived. There are no cows in this poor family, only some chickens. This wealthy family keeps 10 cows. One day, the poor man went to the mountain to cut wood and met a god. The gods say they can help the poor realize their wishes. All the listeners will think that the poor may pray to the gods to give themselves 10 cows. As a result, what the poor said was to let the gods make 10 cows of the rich family sick and die. . .

This joke is about not making good use of jealousy.

I met a female visitor during the consultation. When talking about her childhood experience, she told me one thing: she was very playful when she was in junior high school. Middle and lower grades. Although her parents invited many tutors and scolded her, she had no motivation to study. She especially dislikes a girl in her class, and this girl also stole her favorite male classmate. Their academic performance is almost as bad as others, and they all belong to a very general level. Until one time, the score of that female classmate was obviously higher than her. She recalled that she went home and cried all night that day, even going crazy. The next day, she gritted her teeth and vowed never to let the girl surpass her. Later, the female visitor was admitted to a key high school and an ordinary high school. It can be seen that the so-called positive energy did not stimulate this girl's learning motivation. Instead, it was vicious jealousy that forced her to improve her grades.

Jealous people don't have to correct this view. Others study better than you and earn more money than you. Better than your job. Your best friend is thinner than you. Then you must find ways to improve yourself and surpass others. Jealousy is a good motive.

See what grudges, big and small, big grudges are rarely put aside, and small grudges are personally unnecessary, and there is no need to worry about a little thing. You only hate him in your heart. You hurt yourself and nothing can change it.

The other is to see what makes you hate him and whether he has corrected it. Hate is a very tiring thing.

Everyone will be jealous, because it is our nature to be competitive and competitive, but we should know not to be far-fetched and learn to improve and change moderately. This goal can be achieved through our own efforts.

For those who hate themselves or are dissatisfied with themselves, this kind of jealousy will be stronger. They always want to surpass that person and then make themselves feel self-esteem or superiority.

Suggestion: 1, there is nothing wrong with jealousy, it is a part of human nature, and it is wrong to evaluate your jealousy; 2. Let jealousy arise, let us see the gap between our present situation and our goals, and make our own growth rhythm reasonably. 3, learn to be grateful, thank the people you hate, let yourself see your emotions and shortcomings, grow up with a powerful opponent, and thank him for coming to your world;

Jealousy arises because you see that others are stronger and better than me, and you see that others have me or not! In fact, you should congratulate yourself at this time, because you see your own shortcomings and deficiencies, but you may not realize a deeper point, that is, you are afraid of having them. For example, some people especially envy people who can make money and have a lot of money, but subconsciously they are afraid of having a lot of money, which is the lost point of their childhood. When they were young, their family conditions were good and their parents made a lot of money, but money didn't bring happiness to their families. With money, their parents still quarrel every day, so he thought.

Secondly, we also need to see a person who often makes us jealous, a person who we think is at our own level, a person who is taller and stronger than ourselves, and we have no comparability; Not as good as our own, we are too lazy to compare, there is no need to compare. In this way, you will never jump out of your circle and go to a higher level. Therefore, we should change our way of thinking: praising others' success means praising ourselves; Since you can have it, I can have it.