What is mental internal friction?

Before talking about spiritual internal friction, it is necessary to popularize a cold knowledge, that is, the spirit of ordinary people is divided, that is, there are many selves in the body, which shine with different characteristics from different angles. Generally speaking, these different egos are divided into two factions, one is in favor of the faction and the other is the opposition (some scholars are also divided into the hawk faction and the peace faction; Optimists and pessimists; Rational school and perceptual school, different schools have different points, according to the color).

Then when faced with the same problem, the two factions often quarrel, just like the US Senate and House of Representatives. For example, if I work overtime at night and go back to see a delicious roast leg of lamb, the two factions will start quarreling. One school said, eat, eat less tomorrow. One school says that if you can't control your mouth, what hope is there in life, what future is there in life, and how can you succeed? Therefore, they have their own opinions, and even fight when there is a big conflict, which eventually leads to the exhaustion of our bodies carrying these spirits.

This explains what mental internal friction is. Spiritual internal friction is the collision of different viewpoints in one's spiritual world, which leads to the consumption of one's spirit. In layman's terms, it means "thinking too much will make you tired."

So, how to improve this situation of mental internal friction? Knowing its underlying logic, there is a way to deal with it, that is, let the two factions shake hands and make peace. Either side wins the other side, which is a strong and weak model. People in this mode will generally deliberately strengthen one faction and deliberately suppress the other. For example, people who live a carefree life in Buddhism will strengthen their pro-sects and deliberately suppress the opposition. Either coexist peacefully, and the two factions elect a common spiritual leader, that is, a peacemaker. When things are undecided, this peacemaker appears to ease the contradiction between the two sides, temporarily put aside the problem and divert attention.

First, constantly strengthen psychological suggestion.

Tell yourself that you should do this, don't do that, don't struggle, yes, then there will be bad consequences, which is also a part of life, there is no need to regret, and there is no need to pursue perfection. Through continuous strengthening, I have developed my own consistent formal style, making decisions quickly, not dragging my feet, and daring to bear the consequences for my decisions.

Second, divert attention.

When you find that two factions in your heart are quarreling, it means that one party can't suppress the other. At this time, you must divert your attention, invite spiritual leaders, do what you are happy to do, and put aside contradictions for the time being. For example, when you are struggling to break up, you don't divide or divide. Don't think about this problem yet, put money and career in mind first, and then look back on this relationship after you have experienced some life.

Therefore, the first condition to reduce mental internal friction is that you must admit the existence of internal friction and its rationality. Only in this way can you improve mental internal friction.