See clearly the weakness of human nature

Carnegie wrote "The Weakness of Human Nature", which is a world-famous masterpiece. We should face the weakness of human nature correctly and correct it step by step.

Different people have different weaknesses, and many weaknesses exist in most human nature. Overcome these human weaknesses and you will become the master of everything; Really powerful people are also masters who know human nature well, and they can overcome these weaknesses of human nature.

This book can always use some examples close to our lives to illustrate some methods and conclusions of communication with people, which is very practical.

We are afraid to be a low-level and small-scale person, whether it is being a person or doing things, but some behaviors and details will expose some of our shortcomings.

If you want to know how to do it, then this book is definitely worth reading. If you want to make yourself better, you must get rid of three low-level performances in life.

The lower the level, the more you love face.

As the old saying goes, "Man struggles for a breath, while Buddha struggles for a wick of incense".

Throughout the ages, one of our people's favorite topics is face. But at the national level, face is dignity, glory, not vanity, not arrogance.

But in life, people who love face often misinterpret the meaning of face, thinking that face is where people are proud, where face lies, and everything can be lost, but not face.

In the final analysis, it is related to personal level. The higher the level, the less they care about these nothingness; On the other hand, the lower the level, the more you love face and feel that you can't suffer.

I heard a colleague say such a thing before.

A girl is going to marry her boyfriend, but her parents told her that there must be a high bride price and a luxurious wedding reception. The girl asked her parents if they could make everything simple. Now they are young and don't have that much money.

As a result, she was scolded by her mother: "No, even if the bride price is less and the wedding is not glamorous, it will be laughed at by others and it will be shameful."

So she borrowed a lot of money from her boyfriend and friends around her, paid enough bride price and held a large-scale wedding banquet. The wedding was grand, but she owed a lot of foreign debts.

Later, when I got married, I didn't dare to have children, because I had been making money to pay off my debts and said I was afraid I couldn't afford to have children.

Is face really that important?

Thinking of this, I think of a speech made by Li Xiaowen, an academician of Chinese Academy of Sciences, which became popular on the Internet a few years ago, only because in that speech, Academician Li Xiaowen wore a pair of "one-legged" cloth shoes on his feet and looked like an old man in the countryside.

If it weren't for his identity in that speech, I'm afraid no one would have thought that this old man in plain clothes would be a leading expert in the field of remote sensing in China.

Coincidentally.

Grandpa Yuan Longping, who has been away from us for several months, is also a "disgraceful" old man. I bought 35 yuan's simple clothes in the shopping mall and used a dozen ties to support hundreds of millions of people.

What is face? In the eyes of these predecessors, decency is enough, and exaggerated face engineering is unnecessary. Face does not need material accumulation, but self-confidence that emanates from words and deeds and the heart.

Life depends on down-to-earth, down-to-earth, and face is not material accumulation, but inner enrichment.

Surely you still remember the "campus loan" incident? Those students who exchange nude photos for money, and those who start spending in advance in various software, are not all caught in the money trap because of vanity and good face?

The higher the level, the stronger the heart will become and the eyes will be placed in a longer-term place.

The lower the level, the lower the horizon.

There is a hot discussion in Weibo, which is # How much influence does education have on life #.

In the hot comments, I saw all kinds of human beings, and at the same time I saw a clanking fact, that is, if you don't suffer from reading, you must suffer from society.

HR, who works in Apple, said that she needs hundreds of resumes of visitors every day, but she won't be picky about her major or even suitable for this position, but the minimum threshold for the school is Fudan.

Another person in charge said that in their institution, the salary of postgraduate doctors is definitely higher than that of undergraduates in the same position, not to mention junior college students, who will not be admitted at all.

Many people think that 985,211school is enough, but in the top investment banks in Beijing, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, the so-called "financial migrant workers" are all from the financial management of the resumption of diplomatic relations between Qing and North China.

What pokes the heart even more is the summary of a netizen-in fact, at first, some people said that "education is not important" and just wanted to light a lamp of hope for the life of people with low education, but now it has unexpectedly evolved into an excuse, that is, "What happened to my low education?"

Some people are in their thirties and resolutely embark on the road to study. Some people became presidents at the age of 60, while others began to learn painting at the age of 90 and eventually became painters.

There is a very popular saying on the Internet:

"It is said that education is not important. If you believe it, you will be poor."

The lower the level, the lower the field of vision, because TA can only see what is within its own field of vision, but can't jump out to see the wider world.

The weakness of human nature once said: "For those immature people, they can always find some excuses to cover up some of their shortcomings or misfortunes."

For us ordinary people, if we want to avoid becoming an inferior person, we might as well start from the following three points. After trying for a while, we will find that our state has changed:

1, keep watching. Reading can change a person's thinking, let us think in different ways with the help of the author's perspective, so as to jump out of our own perspective and enrich our thinking ability.

2. Try to do one thing best. Even if you are doing an ordinary job now, you should try your best in your post. This is the best, even if it is not for the company, not for the leadership, it must be for yourself.

Don't criticize others at will. Vision determines the pattern, and people with patterns will not criticize others easily. To be a man, we should take ourselves as the center and try our best to be ourselves. As for others, we just need to focus on ourselves, which is already great.

The lower the level, the more you can't let go.

People live all their lives, most afraid of not letting go of anything.

But the book "The Weakness of Human Nature" says that when you have nothing to be disappointed, that's when you start to get it.

This has hit the nail on the head, but Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, doesn't understand.

At that time, Xiang Yu was preparing to cross the Wujiang River eastward (now Anhui). Director Wujiang said to Xiang Yu, "Although Jiangdong is small, Fiona Fang is thousands of miles away, and hundreds of thousands of people are enough to be king. Only I have a boat now. May the king cross the river at an early date. If the Han army comes after me, there will be no way out. "

But after hearing this, Xiang Yu chose to die in the battlefield instead of crossing the river.

At that moment, the shame and guilt of being defeated welled up in my heart. If he chooses to put it down and start over, the pace of unifying the world between Hanwang and Liu Bang may not be so chic.

I really wanted to tell Xiang Yu at that time, "Stay in the green hills, you are not afraid of burning firewood", and the old saying that we have been circulating in China for so long can stand any test.

In our life, many people are "Xiang Yu".

Obviously, you can choose a new beginning, but you always have to dwell on your past feelings. Often at this time, people have been bound and can't do anything.

Yang Mi, a top actress, is called "the clearest person in the world". In an interview, she was asked if she would look back.

Yang Mi calmly replied that it doesn't matter to me what happened before and yesterday, good or bad, that was yesterday.

Indeed, if you dwell on the past endlessly, you will be bound.

Whoever can climb to the top must have something we don't have for the time being. And exploring these qualities that make people better and stronger is exactly what helps us get rid of low-level power.

Whenever I feel sleepy about my work and life, I am willing to pick up the "weakness of human nature" and savor it carefully, and I can think of many real examples in my life.

This book is praised by the western media as "the first successful book in the world", and all walks of life also evaluate it as "the most classic and practical reference book for dealing with people in the world".

I think that when Carnegie wrote this book, he must not have thought that the experience he shared was infinitely useful to the world. This year, this book is 85 years old and still shines brilliantly.

Some common weaknesses in human nature

1.

Laziness: laziness is the worst root of human nature.

Laziness is the greatest weakness of human nature. In human nature, there are elements of leisure and elements of hating work. The only difference is that some people can overcome this weakness of human nature, while others cannot.

Laziness will not destroy a person at once, but it will slowly erode like a spiritual corruptor. Once people succumb to inertia, they will breed all kinds of bad habits, and life will fall to the bottom without any suspense.

The key to overcoming inertia is to have confidence, determination and perseverance, and learn to be self-disciplined and self-reliant. Only in this way can you overcome all kinds of difficulties in life and become a master of everything.

2.

Procrastination: without action, everything is empty talk.

In life, we will encounter all kinds of complicated things, which will bring us trouble, make us hesitate and escape, and gradually form the habit of procrastination.

Procrastination seems to be a human weakness that accords with human feelings and common sense, but because of this, it is more harmful, which will delay many important things and events invisibly and even lead to failure directly.

The best way to overcome procrastination is to act. Action is a sign that a person changes himself and saves himself. Without action, everything is empty talk.

3.

Impulse: Impulse will ruin your future.

Impulse is the devil, it will drag you into the abyss of pain, lead to irreparable tragedy, devour your life and bring harm to others.

Most successful people are masters of controlling emotions, especially those who can control impulses. Once you control your impulses and stay rational and calm, many problems will be solved.

The key to restraining impulse is to cultivate a peaceful mind, not to be happy with things, not to be sad for yourself, to be in adversity, not to be impetuous and calm as water.

4.

Greed: Don't be blinded by desire.

Greed is an ancient weakness of human nature. In myths and legends, the devil turns into a snake and lures people to eat God's apples. Once he eats this fruit because of greed, he will be driven out of the Garden of Eden by God.

Greed will lead people to the abyss of sin and make them lose all their senses. No matter how clever a person is, he will make the stupidest mistake because of greed.

In real life, we must overcome greed and not be confused by desire. Remember, if you give up, you will get what you want. Put down the burden of desire and you can go into battle lightly.

5.

Jealousy: Don't let jealousy confuse your mind.

People who love jealousy can't tolerate others being better than themselves, always like to compete with others, always hide their good things, and always torture themselves with their good things.

Jealousy is harmful to others and yourself. Therefore, we should overcome jealousy, broaden our minds, learn to tolerate others, and be able to accept that we are inferior to others. After all, there are people outside.

Of course, you can also turn jealousy into a driving force for self-improvement. Instead of being jealous of those masters who are stronger than themselves, we should learn from them and make ourselves stronger and better.

6.

Selfishness: You are not the center of the world.

Selfishness is an instinctive desire hidden in people's hearts, and it is also the deepest weakness of human nature. Proper selfishness is normal, but being too selfish will only lead to isolation.

Overcoming selfishness, a human weakness, is not to completely put an end to selfishness, but to learn to exercise restraint and avoid doing things that hurt others by hook or by crook because of selfishness.

Overcome selfishness and learn to share with others. The world advocates cooperation and sharing. The more others share from you, the more happiness and happiness you get.