The state of mind of a man when he finds out that his wife is cheating.

I feel hurt. "If my wife cheats, I will be extremely depressed and indignant, which is the biggest harm to a man's ego (I know that women also have egos, and it will be sad to find out about extramarital affairs). In my affair with 83 women, I was jealous several times. Several times I found my lover having sex with other men, and they were still my women. Every time, it was an unbearable insult that hurt my idea of becoming the greatest man in bed ever. Once I' forgave' her and asked her to come back (we were friends for five years), and we were very close until she died 12 years later. But I have never forgotten that it was an unforgettable pain. " Compared with the infidelity of the other half, it is more about emotional confusion and struggle. "I, the real me, have extramarital sex. My wife knows that she seldom wants to have sex. I don't care if she is having an affair. I really don't care about her at all. The influence of extramarital affairs on me is confusion and fierce internal struggle-I am really completely trapped. Now that the children know about us, they may not agree, but they want to know why I have a lover. I'm honest with them, sometimes it's not easy, but I did it, and it seems to be going well so far. I am very happy to be single again. " As the saying goes, "everything is inevitable", a large part of the reason for a man's derailment is that his wife can't control him well, and so is a woman's derailment. In the face of the derailed wife, men not only beat and scold, blame their wives, but even take it out on the derailed man. Should men reflect on why their wives cheat? If she had done well enough before, would she have betrayed her? How to find out that my wife is cheating? Change 1: Going out is greatly increased, and there are always different reasons. A wife who is enthusiastic about housework suddenly neglects housework, often goes out in a hurry, and says she won't go home for dinner tonight. It's as strange as always being a close friend, and suddenly it becomes close. These two people either have ulterior motives, or they have hidden dangers and changed their faces to show their tails. Change 2: I am preoccupied, in a trance, and my mood becomes moody, and I often get angry inexplicably. A wife who changes her mind and finds another lover, no matter how she disguises or creates false appearances to confuse your judgment, as long as she observes carefully, it is not difficult to find the clues of her change of heart, because at this time, she will suddenly become more moody, critical and heartless than before, and no matter how good you are to her as a husband, she will always play tricks on you and often send you a strange fire, which is easy to hurt. The mentality of a man after discovering his wife's infidelity II. A grumpy couple cheated on each other. A grumpy husband will immediately pick up a kitchen knife, slam the door and go after it, vowing to cut off the adulterer to repay the shame. And the result is nothing more than two, one is to chop off the adulterer, but he went to prison, and his wife immediately remarried; Second, it was cut off by the adulterer's design, which was extremely wronged and swallowed up. In short, neither of them will come to a good end. As a husband, the crime committed by a wife will bear the consequences. Second, cowardly couples cheat. A cowardly husband will light a cigarette at once. He never drinks, but he drank half a bottle of beer as an exception. Then he suffered a lot and finally fell into the arms of a lady. This is revenge for his wife's cheating. For the next few days, I remained silent and said nothing. Marriage entered the cold war stage, and the result was no more than two. First, divorce and go your own way. Second, the cold war continued, the wife continued to cheat, the husband continued to vent on the young lady, and the marriage was nominal. Third, open-minded couples cheat. An open-minded husband will immediately find a group of friends to celebrate and jokingly tell his friends that his wife is cheating. As a result, my friends still don't believe me. Then, this husband can finally do whatever he wants, mistress, miss bubble, colleague. As long as he doesn't break the law, he does everything, never goes home on weekends and is happy outside all night. As a result, his cheating wife began to regret it, but there was nothing to say. After all, she was wrong first. Fourth, unhappy couples cheat. A sullen husband will immediately plan revenge. There are events, people and places, such as conspirators. His wife and adulterer are the targets of his sabotage, usually as short as several months and as long as several years. When the target relaxes, give them a good hand. Either they will be discredited or their economy will suffer. In a word, the traitor couple will not get good results, but as a husband, he kept his absolute integrity in the battle. 5. Inferiority couples cheat, and inferiority husbands will become more sensitive and inferior. He is more worried about news leakage than his cheating wife, and he is worried that outsiders will see their jokes. He even helped his derailed wife justify herself, whitewashing and covering up the fact that her wife was cheating, turning a blind eye, and only seeking peace and peace in the world. Once the news comes out, this husband will blush more than his wife, just like he didn't cheat. Sixth, couples with normal personalities cheat. A husband with a normal personality will choose to break up peacefully, separate first, and then go through the divorce formalities, and will also get the ownership of the house and the custody of the children. After all, it was the woman who cheated first. Then, reorganize a family, continue to live a normal life, and never feel any shame for that cheating woman, because he has nothing to do with her. If I meet you occasionally in the future, I won't care, and I won't have a chance in my life. 7. Couples with abnormal personalities cheat. A husband with abnormal personality will continue to encourage his wife to cheat and create all favorable conditions for her to cheat, such as pretending to be on a business trip for a few days and pretending not to go home after working overtime. There is only one purpose. His wife's infidelity can bring him an inexplicable excitement, which he didn't expect. This should belong to the category of abnormal psychology. The more the wife cheats, the happier the husband is. What a clown and a perfect match. Four suggestions for men: As a man, what you may fear most is that your woman is cuckolded. This unconscious taboo and fear seems to be rooted in every man's heart. Whether you should divorce your wife or not, it doesn't matter what others think, what matters is your own feelings and choices. First of all, consider whether your heart can be balanced. In the case of couples' counseling, there are generally such regulations. If there is no "principle problem" between the two sides, they will often run in and repair it well. And if one party has a "principle problem", marriage will face a severe test. Cheating and having an affair are obviously "matters of principle". Because the wife's derailment is likely to cause a great sense of imbalance in her husband's heart. Just like the great injustice and resentment in the hero's heart. If you want your marriage to continue, you must be able to balance this inner pain and imbalance. If it is not balanced, then the relationship between the two sides will be in an unbalanced state when they live and face each other in the future, and it will be difficult to develop for a long time. Sometimes a mirror is broken, really broken, and it is difficult to recover. This often happens when couples have an affair or an affair. Secondly, I began to reflect on myself that "flies don't bite seamless eggs" is not rough. There must be problems in your marriage first, and then one person in the marriage will look for extra-marital sustenance. Therefore, I hope that a man who has an affair with his wife can calm down and think about whether he has neglected his wife's feelings for a long time in marriage, or just loves her according to his own feelings, but what he pays is not what his wife wants. Think about it this way, it may reduce some anger and resentment against the cheating wife. At the same time, it will also make the wife feel that her husband can understand her and help to repair the feelings of the two people. Third, re-examine the feelings between you. From the above story, we can feel that the husband loves his wife deeply. Even if she did such a thing to hurt her husband, he still wanted to continue. However, it is worth considering whether a wife's love for her husband is equal. This story gives the impression that the husband loves his wife more than the wife loves her husband, or much more. The husband needs to think about the love he gives her. Is this really the love she needs? If not, you need to calm down and seriously think about whether you two are really suitable for each other. Fourth, seeing if my wife's attitude towards marriage is clear makes me not optimistic about the above marriage. What makes me unhappy is my wife's attitude after being found cheating, and her attitude has not improved significantly. Let me question whether she still loves her husband and her attitude towards the present marriage. Maybe two people need to talk. If a husband wants to continue his marriage, he must first see his wife's clear attitude towards marriage. Is her heart still in this marriage? Or at least willing to go back to this marriage? This is very important. Otherwise, her husband's forgiveness just gave him another chance to get hurt. The mentality of a man after discovering his wife's infidelity 3 It is impossible for a man to have these three mentalities after his wife's infidelity 1. In the emotional world, when a man is angry about his wife's infidelity, he will easily reflect on himself and deny himself, feeling that he is an incompetent man and can't keep his woman. The whole person feels that the world is dark, the marriage is a failure, and the whole life is a failure, becoming unconfident and self-respecting, and being in a state of depression for a long time. In fact, a person's marriage should not be defined by success or failure. When a wife cheats, men feel that marriage failure is not equal to human failure. Marriage is just two people living together. Only when we get along can we get along. Wife's infidelity only shows that she can't get along with you. Besides, marriage is not the whole of life. In the eyes of most people, the value of a man is more the success of his career. 2. After regretting his wife's derailment, the second mentality that men can't have is regret. Some men always think of the days they spent together, the streets they walked together, and the bits and pieces they spent together after knowing that their wives were cheating and their feelings broke down. I have been thinking, if I care more about my wife and be more tolerant, will my wife not cheat? There's no need to think about it. First, time has passed; Second, it is never certain that his wife will cheat and lose her feelings for herself. It is caused by a certain period of time and is the cause of long-term accumulation. Instead of regretting, think about what you have learned from this marriage, so that after starting a new life, don't make such mistakes again. 3, hate the other wife's derailment, what is the man's first reaction, there is no doubt that hate, hate his wife, hate the object of his wife's derailment. This kind of mentality is unavoidable for every man. Then I spent a lot of time trying to get back at my wife. Actually, you don't have to do this. A woman who doesn't love you anymore doesn't need to spend too much time with her, and you don't need to live a bad life for her. Let it go, Shu Shu basks in his life. Focus on improving yourself. Only when you are strong can you give such a woman the best revenge and make such a woman regret it.