Eight most taboo topics between lovers

1. Continuously output negative energy.

It is understandable that you need to vent your anger when you encounter something very bad. But if you watch balabala all day and sigh with a bitter gourd face. Who can stand it for a long time without the appearance of a Xianglinsao?

Two people are attracted to each other because of your brilliance and charm, not the negative energy you keep outputting.

To sum up in a simple sentence: the negative energy value you output should be less than the maximum value that ta can bear, otherwise ta will feel too tired to be with you.

2. Endless suspicion and doubt. Do you love me or not?

Who the hell is ta?

What's your relationship?

What did you just do?

Do you look tired?

.....

The foundation of two people together is trust and respect. How can you be happy when you can't give enough trust? And over and over again with suspicion and doubt to kill the only trust between you.

3. Be swayed by considerations of gain and loss

In fact, to be honest, everyone will have a little gain and loss. But if you need to constantly confirm to him that ta loves you, you can get a little peace of mind. Your psychology is undoubtedly morbid.

I can't absolutely say that your relationship won't last long, but I can definitely say that both of you will be very tired.

Your confidence and generosity can only be given to yourself, and what others give is not true. If you are confused about yourself, read more and accumulate more. Don't love too much, have your own life.

Similarly, if you keep the object in two States, you should also reflect on yourself. It is probably because your behavior is not correct enough, or there is a problem with previous communication. If you don't solve the problem, you still want to imagine people trusting you unconditionally?

4. Always talk about other people's boyfriends/girlfriends.

Especially the ex!

Look how good my roommate's boyfriend/girlfriend is to ta. What about you? The Valentine's Day gift my roommate received was very touching. What about you? So-and-so is much better than you Why can't we learn from others?

You can think about how you feel when your parents always compare other people's children with you.

Do you feel scared and impatient when you think about it? Similarly, your various comparisons are also hurting ta and killing ta's confidence.

Ta may not want to give you a gift worth four or five figures like others, which will make you beautiful. But if ta surprises you as much as possible with little money or resources, it is also very touching.

As long as the ex doesn't show up, why take the initiative to mention it? If you are really curious and can't help mentioning it, then you must first make sure that you can bear it. A deep chat is enough.

5. Break up at will

When encountering problems and contradictions, the first thing that comes to mind is not to solve them, but to threaten to break up. Or make a joke about breaking up from time to time.

The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. By the way, if there are more times, there will definitely be knots in ta's heart that cannot be solved. Even if you're joking.

If you don't pay enough attention to Ta and this relationship, ta will feel. One day, ta will answer you: OK, let's break up.

6. Catch each other's mistakes and turn over old scores aggressively.

Even if there is any mistake, since ta has sincerely admitted the mistake and repented. If you want to go down together, you have to find out about it. Don't dwell on this. If you want to continue to live a good life, you must put it down and find a way to solve the problem that you think ta is not handled properly enough.

You always wronged yourself, occasionally stimulating each other with this wrong thing, thinking that you are solving the problem, but it is useless and makes you sad. Now that you know that settling old accounts is a problem that neither side has solved, try to solve it! Find a solution that is satisfactory to both parties. This is the right solution.

Otherwise, you think that ta has not solved the problem at all, and ta thinks that you are unreasonable. Obviously, things that have been solved are still being taken out endlessly. When two people are not on the same channel, the quarrel will be more intense. Continue to argue about this topic next time.

Don't always think that this is the other party's fault, it should be solved by the other party. But when ta solves the problem and you are not satisfied with the handling method, contradictions still exist. In this relationship, you are one! The problem you can't let go, we have to solve it together.

7. The line between you and me is too clear.

If going out to eat and watch movies AA is your wish, of course it's no problem.

But there is really no need to care who gives more expensive gifts and who pays more. Ordinary friends are not that clear, okay?

There are other things besides money. Especially after marriage, that's your family business, not mine. Everything should draw a clear line with you and me. This is really special and unique!

8. Constantly deny and accuse ta's behavior or performance.

Imagine if a friend kept spitting at you.

Your skills are really poor!

This makeup doesn't look good today

How strange it is to dress like this!

These shoes are just so-so ......

Can you still get along with ta? If so, I respect that you are a cruel person!

What if you deny your male or female ticket in the same way? Can you think of it? Especially when ta feels sad and lost, you still do this, which is equivalent to sprinkling salt on his wound.

You should give more comfort than blame and irony.