A postscript to the sixty-fifth chapter of Tao Te Ching

Stick to it and meet better children and yourself (65)

Xuande was deep, far away, disobeyed, and then connected with Datong.

-Excerpt from Chapter 65 of Tao Te Ching

In those days, director Xiaogang Feng asked Mr. Chen what he was doing at home. Chen said, "If I have nothing to do, I will make a purse for my wife and children at home." Xiaogang Feng laughed at him: "It is far less useful to please women and children than to treat them to dinner." Chen hurriedly took a sip of tea and smiled faintly: "If you don't do useless things, how can you limit your life?"

This joke complements the meaning of this chapter of Laozi. Teacher Chen, simple and selfish, faces the impetuous noise of the outside world with his simple nature.

The biggest hobby of Mr. and Mrs. Chen is sitting under the window together. She embroidered her flowers and plants, and he cut his wallet. The leaves outside the window are silent, the time inside the house is quiet, and there is an exciting beauty. We have seen too many loving couples in the entertainment circle, but Mr. and Mrs. Chen are not. In fact, in today's world, it is better wisdom to clearly distinguish the situation and advance and retreat.

Just like the old man in Zhuangzi's article holding an urn. And Feng Dao's dinner is to let everyone fight wits and stimulate their desires. At present, everyone in the society is playing tricks and treachery. In fact, there are many disasters, the world is getting worse and worse, and it is getting farther and farther away from the Tao.

This chapter deals with the law of "negation of negation", a truth of western philosophy. Combined with the practice in parenting education, children's growth and development can be divided into three stages.

In the first stage, parents should set an example and teach by example, which is certain. First of all, keep yourself simple and kind; Secondly, be negative, try to give up your own subjective assumptions, and don't play with your children, don't be scheming, don't bully the small, don't say that the address is unknown, and come up with various tricks, including setting rewards. This is all random.

? Thirdly, the negation of negation is the "movement against Tao", that is, the "object". There is no need for both parents to do something to let their children return to nature. It is the parents' behavior that removes promising things, such as spring breeze and rain, and unconsciously lets the children return to the park, and the relationship between father and son is smooth-naturally Tongtai, without stagnation. In this way, the growth of children is to repeat the effect of parents' self-evident teaching at a higher level and become a mature and unrepeatable self.

Although Lao Tzu said this more than 2,000 years ago, it may also have achieved Mr. Chen's high acting skills and good personality, but few artists have been recognized by all walks of life! Why, because of the influence of western culture in recent decades, everyone is advocating the struggle for power and profit, and their scheming is not right, and even theft is prevalent. They are afraid of falling behind others, and their parents are so impetuous that their children will inevitably not be hurt.

Today, we advocate applying what we have learned. A hundred years ago, Zhang Zhidong even emphasized "taking China as the main body and making foreign things serve China". There is nothing wrong with western culture. Confucius' good idea of "caring for oneself" is actually the same as Laozi's idea of "returning to simplicity and truth", which is to let us realize and return to our inner truth, benevolence and conscience.

No one forced us to follow the Tao and return to Germany. Benevolence is our inner nature, our own strength and our free choice.

Today, in the face of such a social reality as market economy, ruthless competition and fierce competition are inevitable. Are we confused, or are we stupid! What should we do?

Neo-Confucianism saved us! At present, many troubles, especially in the face of the once-in-a-century great changes, Lao Tzu's realm is of course high, and his Tao itself is not wrong. The problem is how not to be divorced from reality!

The key is that Taoism is the bone and Confucianism is the face. If we blindly take away the simple and true core, lack the practice of inner saints, fail to show morality and lack respect for morality, and only do things at the level of science and technology and market economy, people will certainly mutate, and nihilism, utilitarianism and power worship will occur. It must be difficult for such people to control themselves and teach their children by example.

And all this confusion and doubt are rooted in education. Today, the education in our country is going downhill and gradually moving towards the industrialization of education. Although there is great resistance, many people even deny the China culture of Laozi and Confucius. However, there are many people who advocate the modernization of traditional culture and keep pace with the times, and this contention will continue.

Since God has given talents, let them be used! You should pay attention to the scenery. Starting from me, drawing nutrition from the wisdom of ancestors thousands of years ago, looking at the overall situation, planning every stage of life, mastering the foundation of standing, and being yourself, the future of children can naturally be expected.

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