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"Filial piety" is a kind of cultural inheritance, and it is also a cultural tradition about caring for parents and elders and respecting the elderly.

China's 5,000-year history of civilization and China's traditional filial piety culture were conceived, born and developed in the history of China for thousands of years.

Filial piety, as a cultural system and social ideology, develops with the development of society.

Therefore, there are various forms of filial piety, so don't stick to harsh old ideas.

On holidays, ancestor worship is one of the concrete forms of "filial piety".

Especially during the Spring Festival, there are many stresses about traditional customs.

I still remember clearly that when I was a child, I was looking forward to the Spring Festival, watching my parents busy all morning: a big table was delicious.

But I can't move chopsticks, because my father told me that we must let our ancestors eat first.

The specific process is to put bowls and chopsticks around the table, usually eight seats, a square big wooden table, and people can sit in all directions with two seats on one side.

My father prepared eight pairs of chopsticks, and then put each pair of chopsticks on a plate with vegetables. One end of the chopsticks is on the plate, and the other end is on the table. Everyone who has lived in the countryside should have experienced it.

Then my father recited some words in detail, which probably means: the ancestors celebrated the New Year, come back for dinner. It's another year, and I hope that in the new year, I can wish my family good health and all the best.

After reading it, stand aside, burn the prepared paper money and light the incense wax. No one can pass by the table when the ancestors are enjoying delicious food.

After about 10 minutes, all the set dishes were taken away.

There are new bowls and chopsticks in the kitchen, so everyone can have dinner together.

This custom can be seen in many places, mainly to express the word "filial piety".

Since we are so particular about "filial piety", there is a saying among the people: "A son-in-law should not go to the grave, and go to the grave to worship and humiliate his ancestors."

Seeing this, the problem arises. What does this sentence mean? Why can't the son-in-law go to the grave?

The son-in-law is the daughter's husband.

In ancient society, because the idea of son preference was particularly serious, married daughters were rejected by their families.

As the saying goes, "A married daughter is the spilled water", and that is an "outsider".

Even the daughter has become someone else's family, let alone the son-in-law. In a sense, she can even be considered as a "stranger".

Children born to daughters will also be labeled as "foreign" and called "grandchildren".

From the appellations of "grandson", "grandfather" and "grandmother", we can clearly feel the true thoughts of the ancients. These old ideas since ancient times make it a shame for a son-in-law to visit his father-in-law's grave.

The reason for this is that the ancients believed that only the son was the reliance of the family to continue the incense.

When my parents-in-law died and my son-in-law went to the grave to worship, the villagers in Shili, Fiona Fang would laugh at this family and think that their family was ruined.

Especially if there is a son at home, the son-in-law's sacrifice to the grave will embarrass his brother-in-law, because it is obvious that "outsiders" come to kowtow to their parents. Isn't this arrogance? It was well-intentioned, but carelessness will create a deeper gap.

It makes sense to look at the problem from the perspective of the ancients.

The so-called "prosperous people", this "Ding" refers to men, that is, boys at home.

If a family wants to prosper, it must first have enough men, and many people have made great efforts. Only by working hard in one direction can we improve the comprehensive strength of the family.

If there are no men at home, or few men are born, they will gradually decline and be bullied by other families, making it difficult to turn over.

If the son-in-law wants to go to the grave to worship, there is only one situation: the son-in-law is adopted, which is what we often call "son-in-law".

In the historical changes, the door-to-door son-in-law has never been praised with sarcasm.

It is equivalent to a man marrying a woman, which is hard to accept in the concept that men are superior to women.

Because the door-to-door son-in-law lives in the woman's house, she basically has no right to speak. Even if she gives birth to a child, she takes her mother's surname and has nothing to do with the man.

For a patriarchal society, this is the opposite, and it is understandable to be laughed at by others.

It is precisely because of this that it is entirely possible for the son-in-law to go to the grave to sacrifice.

Not only did no one object to going to the grave, but he also praised his filial piety.

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There are different opinions about the saying that "son-in-law can't go to the grave, and go to the grave to worship and humiliate his ancestors".

But from the perspective of modern people, it is totally inapplicable, because China has achieved equality between men and women.

A son-in-law, half a son-in-law, in the eyes of her parents-in-law, just like her own son, can be regarded as a close relative.

It is normal for a son-in-law to go to the grave, which is a way to express "filial piety" and a practical action to show family harmony.

The time when men are superior to women has passed, and the old ideas that should be abandoned must be regarded as dross without hesitation, and then eliminated.

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