The third week, Cai Kangyong's way of speaking.

1. You are already very likable, and you will be more likable in the future. Conveying compliments from others will definitely make listeners happy and the atmosphere will be good, and it is much more credible to convey compliments from a third party than to say empty compliments yourself. Therefore, when communicating with others in the future, you can relay more compliments from others. ) ? (This method is easier to use. When communicating with customers, it can be said that people (colleagues) who have communicated with you before will say that you are a particularly good person, so that customers will increase their goodwill towards your colleagues and the atmosphere of your chat will be good. )

You are what you say. Do you really want to be someone else's warm little sun? Then start talking and do something simple that you can really do. For example, greeting friends regularly. I don't think there are many friends around me and there are no more than ten good partners, but I really neglected to contact my friends recently, so I must contact them often in the future, because this is the simplest and most important thing. )

3. Whether you look good or not is definitely not the decisive point in life. Know a little, others don't exist to serve you. In this regard, we should learn from Japanese educational ideas and not give others trouble. We must pay attention to this in our life, don't arbitrarily instruct others to do this and that, and provide convenience for others as much as possible. )

It doesn't matter to be silent, it's normal to be silent. You can learn to enjoy silence. When you look at the night scene, when two people are walking, when three or five friends are cooking together, what you are doing is very interesting. Silence is richer and more memorable than chatter. )

Give unnecessary victory to the other side, and those who know how to give up know how to speak. When you meet a very strong person and have to force you to give up, if you admit the principle that losing won't hurt you, I suggest you laugh it off and give that meaningless victory to the other side. It will show that you are very measured and the other party will be willing to cooperate with you further. Don't be too serious on the basketball court. The same is true in life. You won't win everything. It would be generous to give unnecessary victory to the other side. )

6. Look at it in your eyes and keep it in your heart. (If a person can "look at each other in his eyes and put them in his heart", even if he only stays in this state for a meal, he can make the other person feel "valued", like a spring breeze. Don't play with your mobile phone when others are talking to you, but listen to them carefully. )

If you can't end the game, people can take it away. When the other person brings up a topic that you don't want to pick up at all, you don't have to rush to resist, but you can easily connect the topic that the other person is keen on with a very life direction. Don't argue with others about anything, because arguments can't change others' minds; When you encounter a topic that you don't want to pick up, it is natural to turn the topic to another topic, but remember not to turn it too hard. )

8. If the topic is stuck, change the topic and don't love war. If the conversation with the person you care about gets stuck, you don't have to try hard to save it. Just change the topic. )

9. The more specific the question, the less hard the person who answers it. (When you ask others questions while chatting, it is best to ask some labor-saving answers instead of asking some answers that need to be summarized and thought about; You'd better ask some questions you have something to say. This article is especially suitable for people who have nothing to say. Don't ask too many questions at first. Try to ask some simple questions and you will have something to say. When the chat atmosphere becomes better, the other party will naturally talk about some more in-depth topics. )

10. When chatting, everyone wants to talk about themselves. Try not to talk to my friends. You can try this. When communicating with others, try to make them talk more, which will make the atmosphere better. My feeling about this article is that don't interrupt easily before others have finished. )

1 1. This problem is very acute. You can take two or three steps back. There will inevitably be sharp problems in life. It is our nature to escape if we can. But if you can't escape, deal with it. The principle of handling is not to embarrass the other party. )

12. Moderate provocation can make the conversation warm. A moderate provocation can definitely make the conversation warm, because everyone wants their opinions to be valued and discussed, rather than being nodded casually by a completely unprincipled person as a way to cope with the past. When talking to others, it's not just mm-hmm. You should give a certain response to what the other party said and express your own views. )

13. If you don't want to talk about it simply, you should avoid mines. (What mines are there? It is easy for the other party to have difficulties and it is not convenient to tell strangers, such as economic situation, illness, emotional situation, children's grades and so on. Second, it is easy to make the other side stand hard and argue easily when speaking. Let's wait until we have enough friendship. So when you meet new friends, don't ask personal questions directly. You'd better listen to him When he told you his private secret, you were already his very good friend in his heart. Don't expose some issues of strong position quickly. It's best to sound out each other's breath first. )

14. It's hard to remember the exact number. (If you answer the numbers related to yourself, you can combine some things. It not only makes the numbers easy to remember, but also has the effect of smoke bombs. )

15. Space is very important. As long as your words are worth listening to, don't worry, the other party will definitely see your strength. If you want to be a person who can say that, you must first improve your own strength. When you really improve your strength, what you say will carry weight. )

16. Want to know what happened later? It's convenient to practice this suspense. Just say one thing to your friend, pause a few words at a time, and see if your friend will ask questions. I have to say that this method is a bit cheap, but it is really a good way to attract the attention of the audience. In this way, your audience will be highly focused and always follow your thoughts. You can try it in your daily life. )

17. Hiding the breakpoint of the story too far back can easily invalidate the story. (the climax of the story, the explosion point of the story can be placed in front. )

18. Humor is like walking, and telling jokes is like tumbling. Telling jokes at the right time, it is best to tell examples in life, the kind that can drive the topic. Telling jokes around you is more likely to cause discussion, and people will always feel the jokes around them. It is possible that the same joke is funny when you tell it to some people, but if you tell it to others, others will find it not so funny, so you must observe your audience and tell stories around them as much as possible. )

19. There is no need to worry about the depth of the problem. Repeat the key words, the best questions, and the questions that are most likely to motivate the other party to go on. Why, really, and then what? People prefer to talk about themselves when talking and chatting, so when you talk to others, try to guide them to talk, so that you will be particularly popular. )

20. Bring an exclamation point, and you will be deeply moved. Everyone follows the script, and whoever can bring an exclamation point will leave a deep impression on everyone. Although sometimes it is not necessarily a good impression, it is better than no impression. In normal school activities, what kind of classmates leave the deepest impression on people must be particularly excellent or funny. Of course, everyone wants to be the best, but if you want to impress others and can't do your best, try to impress others with exclamation marks. )

2 1. Speaking is not a competition with prizes, so don't rush to answer. Don't rush to answer when others tell cold jokes or something. When there are some brain teasers and the like, people with high emotional intelligence will make the person who is talking to them very comfortable, and all the burdens will ring. )

22. What should I say when we meet for the first time? Say hello when you meet for the first time. This is very important. When you meet someone for the first time, it is very polite to say your name. )

23. Appreciate and observe the part of the other person that is most eager to be recognized. Observe clearly before shooting, scold him or praise him, which will make him unforgettable and give you special respect. How can I praise each other shamelessly? When praising each other, we must grasp what the other person wants to be praised most, which will get twice the result with half the effort. If you praise something that the other person doesn't care about or doesn't want to be praised, it's equivalent to kissing up to the horseshoe. )

24. Ask yourself and answer yourself, and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Ask yourself and answer yourself like this, and you are training your ability to think from the other side's position. If you want to establish a good relationship with a person, you should make them feel comfortable and consider the problem from their perspective. )

25. It is not good to treat people like watermelons on the stage. A speech that can make people remember three things is good content, and the rest of the time is to make the audience laugh and arouse their interest. This part can refer to the book "Effective Speech". )

26. Enjoy yourself and have fun with your elders. The point is to talk to the elders more, and don't bother. Call more, watch more videos and communicate more. Not only with family, but also with former friends, it will also enhance feelings. )

27. If you meet the other person, ask you to stand on the same front with him. (Remember to say it briefly. Don't talk too much about the friends you just met. When friends you just met send friends, you must also consider the content of the comments, because maybe you two will have the same friend. )

28. A bad topic is like silently smelling someone fart. Don't be persistent, don't pursue to the end, just smile and disappear automatically. )

29. Leave without disturbing everyone. I think you should say hello. When you leave the party, you still need to tell the host, or who knows where you are. If you leave on a business trip, you should also report to the leader. In case the leader has something to arrange for you, wouldn't it be bad for you to make decisions without authorization? )

It is difficult for one person to understand the pain of another. Comfort people, according to the environment. We should look at each other and think from each other's point of view. )

3 1. When asking for help, be patient. Finally, asking for help from others can naturally turn to things that are beneficial to both sides. Ask someone for help. Let's talk about the benefits of this matter to each other first. The other person will be more willing to help you, because he will feel that he is not only helping you, but also doing things for himself. )

32. Begging for mercy is a trick, and it is hard not to forgive. (1. Praise each other. 2. Fully reflect on your mistakes. 3. Think about remedial measures. In teacher Wan Weigang's column, I specifically talked about how to apologize, and the general steps are very similar. First of all, put a high hat on the other side, so that the other side feels that if you don't forgive you, the next thing to say is your own reasons, not yours. Then we should fully reflect on our mistakes and realize where they are and what impact they have caused. Finally, I think the most important thing is to think about remedial measures and find ways to make up for the mistakes that have happened, so as to get the forgiveness of the other party better. )

If you just listen to the literal meaning before making a decision, I'm afraid the opportunity will run away. Ask a few more questions to understand the real meaning. The same is true at work. This matter must be fully understood before it is done, so as to avoid doing it with incomplete information and screwing things up. )

34. When someone praises you, you should pay him back. When someone praises you, remember to pay back. When others are friendly to you, you should be friendly to others. When the other person says a compliment or does you a favor, you must return a compliment and thank you for everything. Don't flinch when you need help in the future. )

35. Add the other person's name when sending the blessing message. If your name is mentioned at three o'clock, your concentration will be greatly improved. When you send blessings during the Spring Festival, you must add the other person's name. It's best to write something that can remind both parties. This is the murderer. )

36. Know people by their clothes and environment. As my brother often asks me, I should pay attention to my clothes. I didn't think so before, so I must pay attention to it in the future. Dressing really reflects a person's cultivation and temperament from the inside out. )

37. Active atmosphere needs practice. The ideal chat actually pursues one thing, and everyone has the opportunity to talk about their own affairs and listen to other people's affairs. It's really powerful to drive the atmosphere. You need to read more books and study hard. )

38. Don't entertain guests with money and care. Give him food and drink, and give him a chance to talk. Eating is not important, but chatting is important. )

39. Don't speak without emotion, but with emotion. I think when talking to others, don't be half-hearted. Be sure to talk to each other seriously. When something or a phone call is interrupted, be sure to tell the other party politely. )

40. To convey feelings, you should not only be able to speak. 52 gift certificates, one per week, to do all kinds of things for my wife and put love into action. Love is made, not spoken. Don't love, love again. )