Young people are only responsible for giving birth to children, and old people will take care of them. Will you accept this way?

I can accept this way or the fact. This is related to family harmony, mutual understanding and support; It is also a continuation of family relations; It is also a part of real feelings and objective facts in real life.

However, the "statement" and "understanding" that young people are only responsible for giving birth to children and leaving children to the elderly are problematic or inappropriate. As the saying goes, "one family doesn't say two." Listen to the sound, listen to the drums. In other words, it will be more tactful and complete. Not only the old are willing, but also the young are easy to accept.

If it is a "boutique", it seems a bit "stiff" or very uncoordinated. Because the old man helps to take care of the children, this is originally "peaceful." If the language expression "art" or "way" is not good, it will often affect the family "harmony" or "escalation" of contradictions.

Although old people don't have to take care of children for young people, they can take care of children for them in terms of ability, experience, "morality" and emotion. If you insist on not taking care of children for young people, children will be helpless. But why go so far or be ruthless?

If a person's family can't live in harmony, respect each other and help each other, then imagine that many aspects of society, enterprises and institutions, self-run enterprises or management, may be a problem or a bad unknown. Because even your own small family can't be managed well, how to integrate into society and how to manage "everyone".

From the age point of view, when the elderly take their grandchildren, they are generally around 50 years old. Young people have just entered the stage of work, career or entrepreneurship. If an old man lends a helping hand and takes good care of his children, it will also help him. Young people are like "adding wings to tigers" or "traveling light". Old people take care of their children, so they enjoy "family happiness"

It can be seen that the elderly are not greedy for "small profits" but "selfless". Being able to help the family is the best of both worlds. Why not? At this time, how should young people correctly understand or treat this problem? This is the key question whether the elderly are willing to take care of their children.

Old people should take care of their children, but not necessarily, because as long as young people are alive or have the ability to survive, grandparents do not have this legal obligation. I once said this when listening to a young man chatting, and I was deeply unhappy and ashamed of it. (The content is as follows)

A said to B, "Friend, did you buy this fruit for your parents-in-law?"

B replied, "I haven't eaten it myself, so I can't buy it from them …".

A added, "Didn't your parents-in-law bring you a' little baby'?

B replied, "It's not surprising. In today's society, all the old people are taking care of their children, and they have to take care of them ...".

Later, B's in-laws (these two old people) discovered the son-in-law's "heart of stone". I went back to my hometown without saying goodbye and vowed not to "work hard" for my daughter and son-in-law. His son-in-law's biological parents are not "moved" by it. Therefore, we have to hire a nanny.

To sum up, it has been proved that there is no natural gap between the old and the young, only a lack of understanding; It is unselfish for the elderly to raise and take care of their children, not for their own selfish interests, nor for seeking some benefits. Sooner or later, parents in the world will understand what "mutual respect" is, the lowest starting point and truth.

A: This is very common around us.

1, the general situation here is that Dabao's grandparents are responsible and Bauer's grandparents are responsible.

2, the young couple is very natural and unrestrained, it is rare to see them at night, Doby's children, children are a bit strange, don't want them.

When the children are older, the young couple will drive them to play on holiday. On one occasion, Dabao couldn't resist his "exit" and made his pants in a mess. The young couple was so angry that they left him on the side of the road and the children cried their eyes out.

Since then, my grandparents are unwilling to let them take it out. ...

The young couple are happy and comfortable, and live a world of two people again.

Unreasonable young people do such things, why are they only responsible for life and not for life? That's ridiculous. If the elderly take it voluntarily, if the elderly don't want to take it or can't take it for reasons, then we can't force her to take it. Anyway, it has nothing to do with me, because our children were brought up by themselves, and my mother-in-law didn't bring them. Because her mother-in-law is ill, we have to take care of her, and only her grandmother will help for a while. That is to give her money and other subsidies every month to solve the problem of difficult life for the elderly. Because the child's grandmother had this source of economic livelihood in those two years, she survived.

Every family is different. I think everyone loves their children. On the issue of raising children, we must first look at the physical condition of the elderly. If you are in good health, the elderly are willing to take it, and the family relationship is good, which is also a good thing. Young people earn more money when they go to work, and they can also tutor their children when they come home from work. After all, parents must be in charge of children's study when they are old, and the elderly are generally responsible for going to and from school on time.

Secondly, it depends on how good the family relationship is. If there are frequent conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the family is not harmonious, there is no need for the elderly to take care of their children. Better take care of yourself.

In a word, some young people take care of their children according to the actual situation of their families, which is better and more beneficial to their education and growth.

I don't accept it. I think old people usually rely on them to take care of their children. They are obedient to all kinds of pets, unwilling to scold or fight for fear of freezing and hunger. In the long run, children will become more self-centered, and some will even be arrogant, selfish and ungrateful to their parents and elders, and feel that everything adults do for them is taken for granted. There are also many disadvantages in intergenerational education. Grandparents generally only care about their children's eating, drinking and having fun, and it is difficult for older children to play with them. Different parenting concepts also lead to many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

When a child needs you, you don't care about him. When his wings are hard, it will be too late for you to think about how to discipline the child. On the other hand, when you are old and want your children to accompany you, it is difficult to get children's care.

If you don't accept it, whoever is born will have the obligation to raise it, and grandparents are just helping.

I don't approve of leaving children to the elderly.

Legally speaking, parents are the first guardians of their children and have the obligation to raise them. It is irresponsible to leave children to the elderly.

Emotionally speaking, what children need most is the love and companionship of their parents, which is irreplaceable by any emotion. I have never established close parent-child relationship with my parents since I was a child. When you grow up, you will be unfamiliar with your parents, which will always have an impact on your child's growth.

Besides, when he was young, you didn't take the initiative to establish a close relationship with him. When he grows up, you want him to talk to you about everything. This kind of thing is impossible. For a person who has not established trust, why should he talk to you about everything?

Of course, young people are very busy now, and the best way is to bring the old people to live together. Working during the day, the elderly will take care of it. In the evening, my parents and I will shoulder the responsibility and do our parents' duty on weekends.

Maybe there is always a very typical thing to send the old man back, so the special case will not be discussed.

If it is during work, only the parents of young people are most assured of giving their children to others. Then after work, it is better for parents to accompany their children. Especially before children go to primary school, children brought by parents have more advantages in the formation stage of personality foundation.

I don't agree with this way. I am a village teacher. I have seen too many parents only take care of their children, and the elderly take care of their children. Children like this are particularly rare in rural areas. Not only did he fail, but he was lazy when he grew up and made trouble. Parents' money for going out to work all their lives was squandered by their children in a few years.

Grandparents don't accept new things, and children can't enjoy the happiness of their peers.

Left-behind children, many left-behind children are unfortunate. Grandparents look after their children. After all, after a generation, we must take good care of our children's food and clothing. However, they can't accept the needs of modern children. Many grandparents are used to thrift, so if children want to buy some toys or eat snacks, some go to amusement parks, which rural grandparents think is a waste of money. Occasionally, children who go to the city to play and see others playing often envy them. They will feel particularly lost. Children's childhood will also lack a lot of joy.

Grandparents spoil their children too much, especially by their generation.

The child's character is basically cultivated slowly when he is over one year old. Some children want what they want, and grandparents generally obey, while young parents are not so spoiled. Some children are spoiled and will develop a domineering character. If they don't obey, they will be unscrupulous. Or use violence.

Today, a student in my class told a subject teacher that his deskmate specially pinched him. Teacher Ren Ke reflected this to the class teacher. Later, after investigation, his deskmate was tall and burly, and he often bullied short deskmates and twisted other people's thighs black and blue. Our teacher was very angry when he saw it. Later, I learned that this tall boy was spoiled by his grandparents. When he was young, whoever provoked this grandson, his grandfather went to the adult to argue. Now that grandchildren have grown up, they want to manage, but they can't.

Grandparents also have a kind of psychology, which is not born by themselves, and sometimes they can't be too strict.

In fact, many elderly people in rural areas also have this mentality. It is ok for the child to give him food and clothes, but the child is naughty and wants to fight, but he feels that he can't beat it. The first one is afraid that his son and daughter-in-law will blame him. There are many concerns about discipline. The child will also say, "You are not my mother, so I don't want you to take care of it. You have no right to control me. "

Many grandparents lack cultural knowledge and cannot educate their children.

Especially the old people in rural areas, who were uneducated at that time, now children learn more profound and complicated knowledge. It is impossible for old people in rural areas to tutor. Some grandparents can't even understand the content of the first grade of primary school, and they can't help. Children have homework at home, but they can't finish it without help. Therefore, many rural children can only take twenty or thirty points in the first grade and second grade of primary school. If parents don't come back to discipline, these children's studies will basically be ruined.

Parents don't raise children, and parents have no feelings for their children.

In fact, some parents have given birth to children, but they don't raise them themselves, leaving them to the elderly, or occasionally going back to see them. Such parents are really relaxed, but they have no feelings because they have not been raised. I just gave birth to my daughter, and I have no feelings for a day or two. It took a few days to begin to like it, and gradually began to have feelings. Once I left my daughter with my mother, and it was only a few days before I could bear it. A few days later, I didn't want to. Therefore, the feelings of parents and children still need to be accompanied to establish.

In fact, children are particularly eager for their parents' love, and their parents' company is the most stable happiness for their children!

It seems that this person's love of flesh and blood is really inseparable. Children's love for their parents is beyond words. A relative of mine hasn't seen his son for half a year. As soon as she came back, her three-year-old son kept calling her mother, thinking that the word mother was too precious. Later, he kept hugging his mother and said, I didn't sleep. I fell asleep and my mother left. His grandmother said beside me, I am still clinging to my mother after all this hard work. This kind of kinship is innate and cannot be given up.

Some children have been without their parents for a long time, from disappointment to resentment!

Children are especially eager for their parents' love when they are young. Some children often say: When my parents come back for the New Year, they will buy me new clothes and delicious food. Especially during the Chinese New Year, children especially look forward to their parents coming back. Some parents want to go home, so children are particularly excited and passionate about everything. Some children will feel sad if their parents don't come back.

Many parents who go out to work still know that many children are sad when they hear that their parents are leaving, and they start crying as soon as their parents leave.

Some children go to junior high school and want their parents to come back to accompany them. Last semester, one of my students often called his mother to ask him to work hard. He usually doesn't talk. Then his mother said, why don't you work hard? He said: You go home with me, and I will try. Sure enough, his mother came back for half a semester, and he worked really hard, and his grades rose by dozens. Later, when his mother left, his grades immediately dropped. If the parents had taken their children at home at that time, this classmate would have been safe in the senior high school entrance examination, but she didn't pass the exam in the end. Unfortunately, I advised the mother several times, but for too many reasons, she still went out. I don't know. Does she regret it?

Some children become very rebellious without parental discipline, and then their parents scold them through the screen. The children directly said: you have ignored me for so many years, why do you care about me now?

In fact, it is easy to have children, but it is more difficult to raise them. You have to raise it when you are born. Parents' greatest love for their children is companionship. Only with company can you have feelings. With feelings, children will be willing to share their lives with you. When you are old and helpless, they will do their best to accompany and love their parents!

I can accept it, because young people have no experience with children, and young people have to go to work, and there are many things. It's normal for old people to help young people take care of their children after retirement!