Why can't some relatives see you and love you?

However, some people always entertain others. However, they dare not entertain people who are better than them, but entertain those who feel weak and pose no threat to them. If a person speaks ill of you behind your back and belittles your reputation, then you must believe that this is not an unintentional mistake, but that they don't regard you as a relative in their hearts, but only regard you as their talk after dinner.

There are fewer sincere friends, and even fewer relatives who are really good to you. Not stepping on your relatives when you are in trouble is extremely tolerant to stand by and watch. Friend, you can choose by yourself. You can associate with sincere and lovely people, but your relatives may not treat you sincerely. It's not strangers who don't want you to live well, but your relatives and friends. Although it cannot be generalized, it is also a very common phenomenon. Maybe only your parents want you to have a good life.

As we often say, when I was a child, my relatives compared their grades. When I grew up, they compared their jobs. When I got married, they compared everything to each other. It seems that everything is good and bad, which makes adults more and more disgusted with such relatives and less willing to go to such relatives' homes, so the relationship between relatives is getting weaker and weaker.

There is a saying that "blood is thicker than water". People often use this sentence to describe the value of family ties and remind others to cherish family ties. However, in real life, it is really hard to say whether blood is thicker than water. We want to believe that most of our relatives are measured and won't do anything excessive, but some relatives can't hide what you are like.

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The reason is actually the evil of human beings-jealousy.

Jealousy is a feeling of self-inadequacy, but when you see others surpass you, you will feel jealous. It is a complex emotional experience, with negative emotions such as indifference, rejection, hostility, fear, dissatisfaction, resentment, tension, anxiety and fear. When an individual faces other individuals who are superior to himself in some aspects and thinks that his possession or interest in a certain resource will be threatened potentially, jealousy arises at the historic moment.

Chalmer Wu Jun's Psychology of Jealousy said that jealousy fermented with the action of black paint and broke out in a distorted form.

Shakespeare said: "People who feed on jealousy and evil should take a bite when they meet the best people."

Jealousy is directional, and the objects of jealousy often have certain characteristics, such as people from the same family, the same unit and the same region, people who used to be at a certain level with themselves, or people who are not as good as themselves in some aspects. This kind of jealousy is most common among neighbors and relatives.

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A netizen told his story.

My father has four brothers (his father is old four, followed by a little uncle), and their relationship is not very good, but to some extent, the other three brothers (that is, uncles, uncles) are surprisingly consistent, that is, the father who squeezes netizens. On the one hand, it is because the netizen's father has a good temper, on the other hand, it is because the netizen's family once lived a poor life, while the other three families have always had a good economy. Therefore, netizens grew up wearing old clothes and sewing clothes with their mothers, and never bought new clothes. Later, for some unknown reason, the netizen's father made a small fortune and his family situation improved. At this time, three uncles, two uncles and three uncles came to the door. What should they do? Fabricate a fictional reason that a netizen's father owes them hundreds of thousands.

In fact, there is no nature. They say this because the jealous netizen's family is doing well, and the sense of superiority in front of the netizen's father disappears instantly, so they try their best to find this sense of superiority again, fearing that one day the netizen's family will live better than themselves and they will never lose face again. Therefore, they can't see others.

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This humiliation of others stems from a person's inner deformity and inferiority.

Everyone is born with a sense of security, which is human instinct and the result of being vigilant about the living environment.

However, if a person is too insecure, he is always afraid of losing something and tries to firmly grasp everything, largely because of TA's deformity and inferiority.

Normal inferiority can make people see their own shortcomings and maintain a modest attitude. In some cases, it can also encourage a person to constantly reflect on himself and urge himself to make efforts to change. Being bad to others is not a matter of character. It is our nature to be human. Realizing this is the first step to polish yourself and improve yourself. What if the relatives around you "can't see how you are"? You must have a correct judgment first. Judge whether your kindness is true or false, whether you are really happy or carried away. Judging from this, relatives really can't see how you are, or really care about you.