Stupid goose, the phenotypic personality is in trouble.

What do you care most about is what others think of you? Vs cares more about its own change and progress?

A few days ago, I took my children to the library to read picture books, and my son took out "Silly Goose Pi Duni" and asked me to tell him.

In the story, the silly goose Piduni picked up a book in the grass and recalled the host's words, "People who have books and love books are wise." I thought about it and came to a conclusion that if I hold this book and love it, I will also be wise, so no one dares to call me Pituni, silly goose.

So Pituni slept with a book in his arms and swam with a book in his arms. Knowing that he was wise, Pituni began to be proud. She lifted her chin higher and higher. ...

The proud Pituni stretched his neck several times. ...

Then the animals on the farm began to believe that Pituni had become clever. When people are in trouble, they go to Pituni, who is happy to help them.

Give you help and advice at will, make a lot of jokes, and make everyone very miserable.

In the end, it caused great disaster: Piduni pointed to firecrackers and said it was "candy". As soon as the animals heard this, they immediately gathered around and scrambled to eat, only to hear a bang. ...

Pituni's air and wisdom were blown away, and she was extremely depressed: because she finally found out that she was really not smart at all.

Looking at the things she couldn't understand in the book fried by firecrackers, Piduni thought about it carefully and finally understood:

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After reading this story, I found that Piduni's jokes are also two big pits that most of us often drop in our lives:

Let's talk about the first pit here. She is afraid of being laughed at by others, always cares about what others think of her and always wants to look good in front of others. Pituni's behavior belongs to a typical phenotypic personality.

Because they care more about their current performance in front of others and always want to be good enough in front of others, then being recognized as "success" by others is what they yearn for most.

Looking around the living environment, everyone lives in this era of pursuing high efficiency and quick success. Almost everyone is eager to be recognized by others and society as soon as possible, and can't wait to succeed immediately.

So that everyone will deliberately show their good side as much as possible and care too much about others' evaluation of themselves. As a result, they lack due standards and patience in doing things, blindly take others' recognition and so-called success as the standard, and eventually their personal progress is slow, they lack growth and are easy to give up.

Phenotypic personality is afraid of poor performance, which comes from the fact that we don't accept "ourselves who are not good enough" and have no sense of identity with ourselves. Therefore, we build our confidence on others' recognition of ourselves, care too much about external evaluation, worry about poor performance when doing things, and simply give up.

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On the other hand, people with enterprising personality don't care much about their current performance, because they care more about their change and progress.

Success is only a state at a certain moment; Growth is the most important milestone on the road to growth.

They know that any learning, change and progress has a process, and they will experience initial clumsiness, various maladjustments and setbacks. But as long as you practice patiently and deliberately, you will make progress and change, and then everything will get better in the end.

After accumulating enough growth (progress) and realizing the leap from quantitative change to qualitative change (compound interest effect), the so-called success is only a natural gain on the road to growth.

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In the long run, the progress of enterprising personality is obviously faster than that of expressive personality. No matter what kind of personality is not born, it can be cultivated through acquired learning.

The difference between expressive personality and enterprising personality lies in whether you pay attention to your own growth (progress) or others' evaluation of yourself.

After thinking about this, pay attention to your own growth, start from accepting your own clumsiness, make a little progress every day, and continue to grow for life; In the end, success will be the inevitable harvest on your growth path!