The woman wants a bride price. Does she want to marry her?

Hello, I think there should be a dowry if there is a bride price. For a simple example, it is easy for two suitable families to get married. The man's family will never be furious because of the bride price, and will give the woman the greatest respect according to their own abilities.

The woman's family is also very reasonable, and the bride price will be given a corresponding dowry.

However, if it is the wrong family, the result is completely different. The man's family can give a high bride price, but the woman's family is unable to give the corresponding dowry, and the contradiction naturally begins.

Zhang Tao, 27, has reached the age of blind date. According to the truth, 27 years old is still young. If she lives in a big city, there is no need for blind date.

But his situation is very special. His hometown is a small county, and most people get married very early. If you don't solve the lifelong event before the age of 25, your parents will be as anxious as ants in your pants. This is how Zhang Tao's parents feel now.

In fact, the conditions in their family are really good. Their old house was demolished and three sets were lost. Although it is a small county, the prices of the three houses are not low.

He works in a first-tier city, and his monthly income is about 1000 yuan. Apart from all expenses, he can still have a lot left, because he is a very thrifty person. Some time ago, someone introduced him to a blind date. The girl is 24 years old and is a teacher.

Zhang Tao thinks that the profession of teacher is still very good. Although the income is not high, it is very stable, especially suitable for girls. There is not much class time, and there is plenty of time to take care of the family at home.

What's more, he never thought of relying on his wife to support his family. His family conditions are good, and his own income is not bad. The responsibility of bringing home the bacon is naturally on his shoulders, so he is quite satisfied with the girl.

They got along for about two months and gradually got to the point of talking about marriage. In fact, they didn't get engaged immediately, and they didn't directly announce their marriage. They just thought about it, so some things need to be clarified in advance.

Zhang Tao asked the other party's request, and the girl directly said that the bride price was 654.38+0.8 million, because her brother was not married.

Listen to the girl's meaning, their family conditions are not good, their hometown is rural, and their younger brother didn't study well since childhood, so he dropped out of school early to work.

Over the years, he didn't mix up any tricks, and now he still works in a factory, which costs three or four thousand yuan a month.

My parents are honest farmers, so it is naturally impossible to buy a house, so my brother's marriage has been dragging on.

As the daughter of the family, she is the only one who has been admitted to the university and has a stable job, so she wants to make some contributions to her family.

Zhang Tao is not an unreasonable person. He thinks it's understandable that a girl wants to take care of her parents and help her younger brother, but she shouldn't treat herself like a big head.

Listening to the girl, he knew that the other party had no intention of giving a dowry, but he still wanted to ask clearly, so he tentatively offered a dowry.

As a result, as Zhang Tao expected, the girl expressed her wishes very clearly. Bridal price 1.8 million, no dowry. Even if there are, it's just a few quilts, which means something.

Zhang Tao said angrily, "Our family has a good economic condition, and the bride price of 1.8 million can be affordable, but I won't marry a woman who can't afford a dowry. A marriage that requires a bride price and cannot afford a dowry is tantamount to robbery. "

Zhang Tao spoke directly, and the girl flushed with anger, but they didn't quarrel. After all, girls are teachers, have received higher education, still have some qualities, and know that their demands are unreasonable.

As to why she made such unreasonable demands, she might really want to help her parents and brothers, so she wanted to sound out Zhang Tao's attitude. If he agrees, their family problems will be solved.

Unfortunately, Zhang Tao is not a compromise person, and it is impossible for him to accept such unreasonable demands.

In marriage, bride price and dowry should be equal.

When it comes to bride price and dowry, many people have different attitudes. Some girls think it is natural to ask the man for a bride price, but it is not natural for the man's family to ask them for a dowry. In fact, this idea itself is wrong.

Marriage should be based on equality. If the woman's family is unable to give a dowry, the lion should not ask the man's family for a bride price.

In fact, the ancients did a good job at this point. The ancients were very proud and understood etiquette. They think that the man's family actually gave a bride price and should give a corresponding dowry. If the dowry is too small, they will feel particularly ashamed.

What's more, in ancient times, no woman ever asked the man's family for a dowry, and the man's family decided how much to give. It is indeed a very degrading thing for this woman to ask directly.

Contemporary society is different. Many people ask for various conditions when they get married, such as a house, a car, a bride price and so on.

If a girl has enough ability to deserve these things, she will naturally make higher demands, but if she doesn't have such ability, it is very strange to make such demands.

Before marriage, men and women are equal, and girls are never superior to boys, so everyone should weigh themselves before making demands.

If you make inappropriate demands, everything you do is beyond your own identity, and you may make a big joke then.