From living in groups to living alone

As a person, you get used to it as you walk.

01

Most people live in groups. Or two people, three or five people, or more people.

When I was a child, my parents and family accompanied me to study. If I were far away from home, I would have to drag heavy boxes and start a new study journey. And there is still someone accompanying you during this process, and that is your roommate.

When we are together, sometimes we are happy and sometimes we are very depressed. I laugh, but sometimes I get so angry that I want to cry! I always think to myself, I will never pay attention to you people again!

But as soon as I turned around, I wanted to mingle with them or them. Maybe the atmosphere of youth is too strong, it would be a pity to miss it!

I have laughed, cried, been hurt...Thank you for coming and accompanying me through this wonderful time.

02

Living with roommates is considered "living in a large group". There are many girls in the class, and there are 7.8 people living in one dormitory. The teacher assigns who lives with whom. At that time, if we are destined, we will live together. If they play well in private, they will change dormitories and live together.

The good thing is that I live with many friends who have good fun. During those few years, I felt that every day was full of positive energy and everyone got along well.

After lights out at night, we will talk about many interesting topics. Some people are very good at telling jokes and jokes, often making everyone laugh from ear to ear, and the laughter often lasts for a long time. Occasionally we will get complaints and we will become docile.

However, several girls from other dormitories often come to our place to play, and they all say with envy that your place is really lively and they laugh so happily. It's not like our lifeless place...

Could it be that we are being complained and complained about because you...

are envious and jealous, so you "hate" us. Oh, I think I found the truth!

03

After graduation, they went their separate ways. Fortunately, I got together with a former classmate, and later the two of us worked and lived together. In this way, we rented a house together for several years.

Several times, many people joked, "Are you lesbians?" We smiled and said nothing, and gave them a few eye rolls... It can only be said that we had a tacit understanding! You think too much about other things!

Later, something happened and she left the rental house. Now, I am the only one still living there.

At first, it was a little uncomfortable. From a group of people - 2 people - to one person. That feeling is very strange. Every night when I go to bed, I toss and turn and can't fall asleep. I always feel that something is missing. Maybe I am a very insecure person. In the past, I had to wait for her to come back before I could sleep peacefully.

Slowly, I began to adjust my mentality.

04

When you are alone, you will have random thoughts. I began to practice calligraphy, using the pen as my heart, feeling the movement across the paper from each stroke, and enjoying the quiet beauty. Then, make yourself a cup of tea and forget to look out the window from time to time. It really feels like time has passed in peace.

A person becomes much quieter. It just so happened that I kept reading during this time. Sometimes, I forget to follow my favorite dramas.

When I was alone, I started cooking for myself. After get off work, I basically go to the supermarket to buy some vegetables, pasta, fruits and so on. I often think about how to catch my stomach. Occasionally, I also eat small snacks to satisfy my cravings.

At first, I felt uncomfortable going to the supermarket alone. Because when I watched the drama before, someone said that supermarkets are very life-oriented things, and they were afraid of being offended by the scene! Then I thought, if you want to be tortured, just be tortured. Anyway, I have been tortured thousands of times by those young lovers. I am used to shopping, eating, sleeping, and watching TV shows alone...I increasingly feel that being alone is a good way to grow.

One person, one city.

In the past, it sounded very desolate and sad. But when it came to myself, I gained more courage. Now I dare to think about things that I didn't dare to try before. I am less shy and more confident and calm. I know how to observe life, and occasionally tell a joke to make everyone laugh! The anxiety is also reduced.

I will chat with my friends when I have nothing to do to see how they are doing, and I will call them when I miss my parents.

When I am alone, I listen to the radio when I have nothing to do. There are stories and lives inside. I will pay attention to some things in life. After all, I am the only one outside. Of course, I must learn to love myself and take care of myself.

Actually, saying so much is not an understatement. Look, this person lives alone, how lonely he is!

I just want to say that most people are likely to face living alone. So don’t think it’s hard, it’s just a part of growing up. Maybe when you look back, you will be grateful for this time.

Recently, I have gradually fallen in love with poetry, so I would like to send you a few favorite sentences: