Case 24: Children's Words and Children's Words

Examples of children's conversations are as follows:

Nuo Nuo: A mother is not enough. I have to go to the supermarket to buy another one. Buy a mother who can tell stories, a mother who can play games and a mother who can sing and dance.

Midge: Grandma, there is a father again! One goes to work, one plays with me, or another mother!

Diandian: Mom, I don't want to eat anything, I just want to be with you! "

Comments: Whether it is "buying a mother" or "regenerating a mother", it is the inner cry of children's emotional lack caused by insufficient parental companionship. Parental companionship and care are important sources of children's psychological security. All children who have received sufficient and high-quality companionship in childhood will be emotionally active and stable in their future lives, willing to communicate and dare to explore. If you love him, spend more time with him!

Today, we will use developmental psychology to talk about the characteristics of children's thinking behind "children's words are boundless".

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Children's eyes: everything is animistic.

In the eyes of children, everything has life. Why? Because it makes it easier for them to understand the world.

Understanding the world requires senses and abstract thinking. Senses can help us understand concrete things, that is, what we can see with our eyes, touch with our hands, hear with our ears, taste with our mouths and smell with our noses, such as apples, photos, the sound of spring and the smell of cakes.

But for abstract things, that is, intangible and invisible things, such as conscience, honesty and logic, it is necessary to rely on abstract thinking.

Abstract logical thinking is an advanced thinking ability. Cognitive psychologists have a view that children can only be said to have the initial abstract logical thinking ability after 1 1 and 12 years old.

For preschool children, the means to understand the world are more limited. They can basically rely on their own senses, which means they can only understand what their senses can experience.

They can't understand what they can't touch or see in reality, because it requires abstract understanding.

For example, a person who just died looks like a sleeping person, but the child can understand "he is asleep" but can't understand "he is dead". Sleep is concrete and can be experienced, while death is abstract and cannot be experienced, so children can't understand the abstract concept of death.

In this case, it is easier to understand the world when you see other things as alive as yourself. In Meng Wa's eyes, what does she feel, and other things will feel, so the world is easy to predict and grasp.

So, if a Macey Eva asks you, "Does the table have legs?" You may think, "Don't you see a table with legs?" Mengwa thought, "Then why doesn't it go?"

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Children are best at "judging others by themselves"

As adults, we can consciously or unconsciously imagine what we will see and what conclusions we will draw from the perspective of others.

This kind of psychological activity is frequent and natural for adults or older children, so frequent and natural that we often don't realize it ourselves. So we take it for granted that everyone else is like this. But in fact, this ability is very advanced, and people are not born with it.

This ability is very poor when children are young. They can often only see the world from their own perspective, but it is difficult to think from the perspective of others, just like the child above who asked the teacher to tell his dream scene.

It can be said that children are self-centered, but this is not the selfishness of the adult world, but a way of understanding the world caused by immature cognitive ability.

This ability difference between adults and children often produces comedy effects.

A father suffered a dumb loss because he didn't understand the way children thought. He was thinking of Doby children, patting his face with his hand and saying "hit yourself" to the children, hoping that the children would imitate themselves. But as a result, the child slapped his father backhand and then smiled.

The father doesn't know that the child can only do what he expects if he thinks "You hit yourself like me" from his father's point of view, but the child will only think "Dad asked me to hit him like him" from his own point of view.

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Children don't know that ideas are secrets.

Children's honesty always surprises adults. Why don't children hide the truth of offending people in their stomachs?

Children before the age of three or four don't know that their thoughts are secret, thinking that everyone knows the same information. They don't know that people have different ideas. Even the same thing, different people will have different ideas.

They think that even if they don't tell, others know what they think, so they never lie. Even after the age of three or four, children's ability to guess other people's inner intentions and purposes needs to be improved.

In this process, children will say many unexpected things to adults, just like the three-year-old girl thought that her father told her about being hungry when she was a child to explain why she went home for dinner.

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Children have no prejudice.

Similarly, a father takes his children to play. Dad put the shovel in the soil and said to the child, "I put it in and you pull it out." The child pulled and didn't move. Dad said: "You shake it, and it will be easy to pull it out if it is loose." The child listened to his father, then stood up and began to shake his body.

We can accurately handle all kinds of daily affairs in life, thanks to the brain's ability to generate a lot of "tacit knowledge".

Tacit knowledge is the knowledge you take for granted. For example, when we heard my father say "shake it first", we knew without thinking that he was talking about shaking the shovel, not ourselves.

In fact, in the process of growing up, we have generated many scripts to support our daily life, such as what to do when meeting strangers, friends and teachers, how to buy things in supermarkets, how to do things before eating in restaurants, and so on.

These scripts are all our tacit knowledge, which helps us to make the right choice "automatically", but we don't realize that we have made a choice.

But children haven't formed these scripts yet, so they have to rely on very limited life experience to make choices, which will naturally make a lot of jokes.

In addition to the above characteristics, children's understanding of the world is also different from that of adults, and they can all contract adult jokes, such as:

The mother asked the child, "Is the big one better or the small one?" The child said, "The big one is good." Mom asked again, "Are you a big bad guy or a little bad guy when you grow up?" The child said, "Be a big bad guy."

Children's thinking is black and white binary thinking. In their eyes, things can only be divided into two extremes. Therefore, like dogmatists, they tend to maintain an extreme rule and do not understand the accommodation and change in reality.

Childlike words bring us joy and remind us that children are not adults. We can't judge children with the opinions and ideas of adults, let alone encourage them. Let's enjoy these childishness and wait for the flowers to bloom.