Hello, she and I have a three-year-old daughter. She just borrowed money to pay the down payment and is still going through the formalities. She needs a divorce. How to solve it?

The counselor read your description and saw that you seem to be confused in two aspects. One is the follow-up problem of the house you are buying if you are divorced, and the other is whether to consider divorce if you think your wife is cheating. In fact, these two problems can be combined into one problem to solve. If your marriage continues, the first question will not exist.

The counselor will talk to you about your emotional problems.

(1) If you divorce your wife, no matter who the child lives with, the child will always leave his relatives. For three-year-old children, separation from their parents will lead to separation anxiety and affect their mental health in the future.

(2) If you divorce your wife, are you sure you want to marry an unmarried woman? Even if you can find an unmarried woman, will she accept your adoption? Can you accept children living with you, is it good for children?

(3) If you have a married woman, you need to accept her children, or she needs to raise her own children. If her children need to live with you, then your future family relationship will be more complicated and difficult to deal with.

The counselor suggests that you think this question clearly first, and then discuss the first question after making a decision.

I wish you happiness!