Why can't a woman forget her ex-husband after divorce, only to find that she can't forget her ex-husband after divorce?

There is a very realistic saying in love: when he loves you, mountains and rivers can't stop him. When he doesn't love you, you're not even a foil?

In many marriages, this emotional inversion is very common. Husband and wife were supposed to be together, but some people survived and became enemies.

Love and hate are fate, which cannot be forced or calculated. No matter how many times that person has said I love you, it is not as good as the last sentence: I'm sorry, I don't love you anymore.

Practically speaking, some couples are like temporary partners. On the day when boarding ended, love didn't bring miracles, and marriage broke up.

The most painful thing is always the person who is not loved. Tears are the deepest feelings in this relationship, but tears can't change the outcome of divorce?

In a marriage case, a woman once told such an experience:

After two years of divorce, my ex-husband is still very kind to me. It's a pity that I married someone early in a rage, and we can't go back.

I often wonder if my ex-husband will accept me if I do it again. I have been distressed for many days and have never had a chance to say it.

We had dinner together that day, and I got up the courage to say, what if we could get together again?

My ex-husband interrupted me. He said we were just friends.

I have been mentally prepared for more than two months, but I was blocked by his words. I pretended to be joking and waved my hand and laughed it off. I can't tell you how embarrassed I am. I just feel pain in my heart. My smile was accompanied by tears, and my ex-husband was indifferent.

When it comes to my marriage, it is not clear in a few words. Regret is a momentary feeling, and we missed it. Once we were all at fault, why am I the one who regrets now?

First, a woman's grievances and regrets Next, I will tell you about this lady's marriage case.

This marriage case may bring some knowledge and ideas about marriage to many people.

Some people can get together again after divorce, and some people will sever the closest relationship forever, even if they divorce in anger.

Tell the lady's emotional experience in her tone, and let me sort it out:

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for more than two years, and now we can meet and eat together as friends. When we are not busy on weekends, we occasionally take our children out for a walk.

I don't know if my ex-husband still loves me, but I know that he has been caring about me for the past two years. Even if I filed for divorce at the beginning, even if I got married again soon, my ex-husband still let bygones be bygones and helped me in life.

I am very confused in my heart. I don't know why my ex-husband did this. We can't have any more results. Why is he still so kind to me? Does he want me to confess?

I know it very well in my heart. I'm already a woman from another family. My ex-husband and I are both educated people. Even if we chat and walk together, we just get along as friends. We never meet alone, but we always take the children with us.

For the sake of young children, we are all trying to maintain this friendship and keep a close distance. Don't say I love you or I hate you. Never talk about the past together, just talk about the children's future.

That day, my ex-husband's mother sprained her foot. He took his mother to check, called me and asked me to help him pick up the child and put it in the neighbor's house first.

Without hesitation, I agreed to drive 20 miles to pick up the children, take them to dinner and go shopping. I didn't go home safely until the evening 10, when I gave the children to my ex-husband.

My husband is very angry, but I can't ignore my children.

My husband lost his temper with me because of that. He said that I never took him seriously, and I only thought about my ex-husband. He also roared loudly and went to see his ex-husband again and again. What does that mean?

Actually, I don't have any other ideas, but I can't worry about my children.

Since I married you, I will be your wife from now on. I know better than you what to do and what not to do. My ex-husband and I are in the past. What are you worried about? Is it necessary to be jealous?

But my husband said, why did you sleep with me when you were his wife? It's not that I don't believe you, but that you have done such a shameful thing before?

I was stunned by my husband and was speechless. I can't tell you how I feel, but I feel very painful and wronged. I am his wife. How could he hurt people like that?

If I wasn't angry with my ex-husband, how could I fall in love with him and marry him! Unfortunately, he doesn't understand at all. He can only give his own reasons.

Secondly, what is more painful than divorce is that I quarreled with my husband on the day I remarried in a rage. Although my husband apologized to me sincerely later, I was still very sad. Whenever I think of his frivolous words, I feel very wronged.

I often burst into tears in those days and felt depressed every day.

In the face of my ex-husband's detention, I should turn around. Why am I so stupid that I not only gave up my ex-husband, but also married him in a rage?

Come to think of it, when my ex-husband and I had emotional conflicts, if my current husband didn't show up, my ex-husband and I wouldn't divorce. If he didn't give me hope with sweet words, I wouldn't hurt my ex-husband?

I made a mistake I shouldn't have made, and I don't forgive it. Anyone can criticize me except my husband. Unfortunately, in the eyes of my husband, all this turned out to be my fault.

Sadness and sadness in feelings will always be gradually understood after experience. Time flies, it takes two years to make a hole.

For me, divorcing my ex-husband is the most painful thing in my life. Every time I think of that angry choice, I hate that I missed my ex-husband.

The second marriage is not easy. My heart is already under the pressure of regret, but my current husband still doesn't understand and cherish it. Since we quarreled that day, my heart hurts more and I think more than before.

Suddenly feel more painful than divorce is to get married quickly. In order to continue to be angry with my ex-husband, I married this man I didn't love, and I lost the chance to turn back forever?

Yes, I regret divorcing my ex-husband, choosing a second marriage and getting married now. Unfortunately, it may be too late to say sorry.

I thought about many things in those days, and the more I thought about it, the more painful it became.

After two years of divorce, my ex-husband didn't turn against me, but was better to me. It is a kind of obscurity. Although it was silent, I felt the warmth from him.

My ex-husband will ask me to celebrate the children's two birthdays and prepare gifts for me.

It rained heavily that afternoon and I couldn't get on the bus. My ex-husband called me and asked me if I wanted to go home. He came to pick me up directly after picking up the children. I had a feeling at that time that my ex-husband might still love me.

I finally understand why I have been confused since I remarried. It turns out that in my heart, my feelings for my ex-husband have never been broken.

Third, the relationship before and after is exhausting. During those days, I was bitter for love, sad for my second marriage, and even more confused about my future.

I don't understand the relationship between the two times. If my current husband hadn't satirized me indecent, I wouldn't have found enlightenment so soon. It was because of my husband's irony that my heart gradually fell on my ex-husband.

Since the divorce, my ex-husband and I have been getting along like friends, and we often meet for the children. I know we are further lovers, and we are still friends after a step back. We have the same children, which is an eternal emotional bond.

If I have enough courage to go further, maybe we can get together again and restore our original family. Even if divorce is looked down upon again, it is better than being trapped by love forever.

Life is short and long. Where is my foothold?

Since the second marriage was wrong, why didn't I go back to my ex-husband? If I go back, will my ex-husband accept me?

This is a question that I have thought about many times, but I have never found a chance to fully express my thoughts to my ex-husband.

It was my fault for the divorce. Besides, I have remarried, and I don't have the courage to say those words of repentance to my ex-husband, and I dare not predict her reply. I'm afraid my ex-husband will refuse.

But I've been preparing, and I'll try once whenever I have the chance. I want to express my apologies to my ex-husband, and leave the rest to my ex-husband. Whether my ex-husband answered it or not, at least I tried.

That day, my husband quarreled with me again, refused to let me see my ex-husband, and said that if I had contact with my ex-husband again, he would divorce.

I was angry, so I contacted him on purpose! Is it wrong for me to see my children? The child is ill. Isn't mother entitled to visit?

In addition, my ex-husband and I were once in love when we were in college. We were first lovers and first married couples. Can't you be friends after divorce? Who stipulated this?

I argued, and my husband finally compromised, let me go and come back quickly.

I can feel the bitterness and loss in my husband's eyes, and I feel bad in my heart, but I really don't love him and I have never loved him. I only married him to annoy my ex-husband, hoping that he would gradually understand my difficulties.

Marriage is precious. I wanted to be with my husband until I was old. But for two years, he has been prejudiced against me, and I gave up.

After all, if my husband hadn't satirized me, I wouldn't have ignored his feelings. Since he satirizes me, let's see fate.

Heartache is a long-term regret. I visited my children that day and prepared many gifts. There are clothes, food, school stationery and wine.

My ex-husband asked me why I came without saying hello, and I thought he was being polite. I said, I'm not afraid of you having fun. It's cold, and I can't rest assured. It is natural for my mother to come to see the children.

I began to brew this sentence on my way here, pun intended, and finally used it. I thought my ex-husband would say thank you, but instead of saying thank you, he sighed.

I saw him pull a long face and asked him why he was unhappy. He replied that children don't like to talk in class, and all the children laughed at him and said he didn't have a mother?

Hearing this, my heart was very sour. I turned to look at the child and silently apologized. Mom feels sorry for you. Mom will try to restore this family and make up for what she owes you two.

I tried on some clothes for my child that day, and he finally smiled, with a happy expression on his tender little face. Seeing the child happy, I cried instead.

Because I made an emotional mistake that I shouldn't have made, because I didn't dare to admit it and accidentally hurt a whole family. I feel sorry for this father.

I took the initiative to cook for him and his father, and I kept beating around the bush to test my ex-husband while eating. But about our relationship, my ex-husband has been changing the subject.

I feel a little lost in my heart. After a few drinks, I finally got up the courage to get down to business. I asked my ex-husband, if the child keeps silent in class, are we responsible?

The ex-husband said, yes, without a good home, the children are certainly unhappy. This is our responsibility.

I was very pleased and asked him further, if, I mean, if, we can be together again, will the child be happy?

The ex-husband buried his face in a sigh and made no answer.

I continued to ask, if I divorce again, if I want to come back, if we put aside our grievances, if I still want to be with you, if we can still be together?

My ex-husband interrupted me before I finished.

He said, I thought about these ifs, but there was no ifs. We are just friends at best. I can't stand being laughed at. It's not easy to be friends?

My ex-husband's reply surprised me. I made mental preparations for several months, and I was blocked by his words.

That's not embarrassment, but heartache and heartbreaking pain. I can only pretend to be joking, wave my hand and laugh it off, and accidentally shed tears?

I had a few drinks in a row and tried to get close to him, but he refused. I summon up the courage to speak again, don't you have the heart to see a child without a mother like this?

The ex-husband said, since you asked, I will tell you. I can't leave my child without a mother. I want to give him a complete home. I want to say sorry to you. Someone introduced me to someone the other day, and I fell in love.

The real heartache finally came, quietly. It's not just heartache, but regret for a long time from now on.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) later regrets it. That day, I walked out of my ex-husband's house with a smile and went out to cry. My ex-husband comforted me, you don't have to be sad, after all, we missed it, so it's good to be friends in the future.

It's been almost half a month now, and my ex-husband hasn't called me again. Maybe he is really in love. Maybe he is in love with someone else at the moment, maybe they are making a vow of eternal love.

Maybe in his eyes, I'm not even a foil

I don't know where my future is, but I know we really missed it.

This case is over. A woman said it three weeks ago, and now there is no follow-up. It is estimated that his ex-husband is not in love, just lying to her. Let's talk about it later.

In the case, the complete emotional context is like this, probably as follows:

More than three years ago, this lady found that her husband (ex-husband) gave money to her parents. She was so angry that her husband and wife had a big fight. In the grievance, the two said a lot of malicious words, and neither of them loved each other. When you are anxious, you get angry and get out of hand.

Half a year after the Cold War, neither of them was willing to give in. By chance, she met a man. Careless? He and I became lovers. My husband was very angry when he found out. She refused to admit her mistake and got divorced in a rage. After the divorce, her husband saved it. She continued to be angry and soon married someone. Now she regrets it.

I won't say much about this case, and I won't comment. I just describe the objective emotional development track truthfully.

In a failed relationship, there is always resentment. But if you think deeply about cause and effect, some grievances are actually caused by yourself.

A word between husband and wife in life? I don't love you? , or a sentence outside marriage? I love you? Beat a lot of hearts that are obsessed with family. When couples are in a mood, they are most afraid of another person expressing their love.

If there are extramarital feelings, divorce is just an idea. Some people are divorced, maybe it's fate, and some people are divorced, so it's really over.

With the parting of resentment and lovesickness, it seems that the depth of feelings is actually inner anxiety. Since life is your choice, there is no regret and no regret. Accept it.