On the wedding day, the mother-in-law forced her daughter-in-law to kneel down to serve tea, and her daughter-in-law dumped her face in anger. What do you think of this?

I find that many times, once people mention the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they will think that this is a special relationship, which is different from other ordinary relationships and very difficult to handle. So many times, many people will be afraid of the mother-in-law relationship.

In fact, if everyone can treat the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as an ordinary relationship, I believe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become very simple.

Because when dealing with ordinary interpersonal relationships, we know each other's boundaries and don't have too many requirements and expectations for others. We will naturally repay others for their kindness to us. It is easy for us to balance ourselves when we are unconsciously hurt by others. If you can empathize and reciprocate, you should be able to establish a good relationship with most normal people.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is deeper than ordinary relationship, but not as deep as blood relationship, so there is no love and demand in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

This also makes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more difficult to handle than other ordinary relationships, but if both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are people who can handle the relationship well and know how to think from the other's point of view, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be very easy to handle.

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If both sides are not good at dealing with relationships and only consider their own people, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prone to contradictions.

Many times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are unclear. Many mother-in-law feel that since the daughter-in-law is married into her own family, she is a member of her own family and has to listen to herself in everything. This idea caused the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Because there are too many trivial things in Chinese marriage, and many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will live together after marriage, which leads to many differences and frequent contradictions in life.

Therefore, most couples often complain that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too difficult to handle, which affects marriage.

In fact, we all know that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only disappear after full mutual understanding and respect. But it is also very difficult to do this.

What's more, some mothers-in-law put on airs before their daughters-in-law came in, asking them to respect themselves. I don't know that this practice will only destroy my son's marriage and make my daughter-in-law hate herself. It has no effect on family harmony.

My friend Lu Xiao just met an excellent mother-in-law, who was very critical of herself on the eve of the wedding. On the wedding day, she also made a surprise, which angered Lu Xiao and made the wedding impossible, which was harmful to others and herself.

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When Xiao Lu was in love with her boyfriend Abin, she was told that her mother-in-law was notoriously overbearing, uncompromising at home and even more provocative outside. People around her have a bad impression of her.

When Lu Xiao fell in love with Abin, her mother-in-law was very different. If nothing else, my mother-in-law thinks that Lu Xiao is not worthy of her home. Lu Xiao's family is rural, both parents are farmers, and their family is very ordinary.

But Abin's family is not a family that is either rich or expensive. Abin's parents are just employees of ordinary companies, just in the city. But my mother-in-law is really disdainful of Lu Xiao from the countryside and strongly opposes the marriage of two people.

In fact, as we all know, it is very difficult to run a marriage that both parents oppose. Because I can't get my parents' blessing, it is easy to have some contradictions in my later marriage life.

But Lu Xiao and Abin just don't believe in evil. They firmly believe that their love can resist everything. So they are desperate to get married. It doesn't matter even if parents object.

Lu Xiao's mother-in-law made things difficult in every way, but Abin ignored her. Finally, in desperation, her mother-in-law had to compromise and agreed to their marriage.

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When Xiao Lu thought it was all over, she found that the future was even more unacceptable to her. She also had doubts about this marriage.

Everything else went well on the wedding day. However, there is something wrong with the new tea offering.

Xiao Lu's mother-in-law wanted to give Xiao Lu a scare, so she said to Xiao Lu in front of her relatives and friends, "Since you are married to our family, it will be a blessing in your last life. But don't think that you can break the rules by marrying into the city. You should propose a toast to me for this cup of tea today. According to the rules of our family, the newly married wife must kneel to offer tea to her in-laws. Just do it! "

The people around you changed their faces after hearing this, and they all knew that this was her mother-in-law deliberately making things difficult for Lu Xiao, but it was inappropriate on this occasion. Many people have been whispering to each other.

Abin quickly begged his mother not to do this, and was reprimanded by her mother. Xiao Lu doesn't like her mother-in-law, and this time she wants to humiliate herself in front of everyone. She is even more angry.

Xiao Lu is hot-tempered, and even more furious in the face of her mother-in-law's difficulties. Impulsively, she suddenly spilled the tea in her hand on her mother-in-law's face and said bitterly, "I only kneel in front of my parents, you don't deserve it!" Do you really think of yourself as my mother? "

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Xiao Lu's behavior caused a strong public protest, and her mother-in-law screamed and cursed Xiao Lu. The scene was very chaotic.

The wedding couldn't go on, and Lu Xiao left the cutting scene. This marriage has also become a joke in everyone's mouth Xiao Lu's mother-in-law has also been ridiculed, which is detrimental to others.

Many contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be unexpected, and stories in real life will also surprise us. This short and trivial thing can easily cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In fact, the way people get along can also be applied to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Just like treating others sincerely, it is also very effective for mother-in-law.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law should know how to "retreat", get out of the married life of young couples, and don't interfere with children's marriage casually;

Daughter-in-law should know how to "look back", appreciate the care of her mother-in-law, and remember that her mother-in-law is not a biological mother and does not need to take care of herself;

A son should know how to "reconcile", wander between two women, nip the contradiction between them in the bud and mediate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Only when three people understand their position can this family become a real family and the marriage of husband and wife be truly happy.