The 35-year-old man spent 200,000 yuan to marry a wife, and the woman added two conditions. Why doesn't the man get married?

When you are in love, you have to talk about the feelings that hit it off. Your feelings are what I want. Marriage is the same. On the basis of feelings, it is necessary to have a certain material foundation to make feelings more stable.

If a love wants to enter marriage smoothly, then at the juncture of talking about marriage, both families should reach a certain tacit understanding and discuss practical issues such as dowry and house. In fact, these things are not secular, but necessary links. But these material foundations must be based on the actual ability of both families to ensure fairness and justice, which will be meaningful.

However, if you deviate from the realistic foundation when talking about marriage, or only consider your own interests unilaterally, you will be married reluctantly. Such a marriage is also like a candle swaying in the wind, which can't stand any realistic scrutiny.

What's more, marriage is regarded as a transaction of marrying and having children, and I want to get the greatest benefit from it. The purpose of this is not to seek benefits for the happiness of children, but to kill the marriage that could have been happy.

Li Meili is such an example. Her parents are worried that their daughter will be treated unfairly if she marries far away, so they put forward excessive marriage requirements when they first meet the man's parents before marrying her. As a result, a good relationship was broken and marriage could not be concluded.

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Single Wang is 35 years old this year. In the village, this age is already a "bachelor". In the village, men are too old to marry, so there is nothing to show off. Wang's parents are both elderly people in their seventies. Seeing that their son is not married, he has long been worried.

10 years ago, Wang was a handsome talent. After he went to college, he was quite popular in the village. At that time, Wang had his first love and he liked each other. They have been in love for many years and have plans to get married.

However, parents who fall in love for the first time are very realistic. Knowing that his family was poor, Wang blocked their contact. Later, under the arrangement of parents, the first love married a small boss in the village who was doing business in the city. Since then, Wang seems to be a different person. No matter how to bridge the gap, Wang is no longer willing to fall in love with other girls except his first love.

The man you love is like this. If he loves someone deeply, he will always leave the position of his heart to that person. If you can't continue to fall in love with that person, even if this position has been empty, there is no room for others.

10 years later, Wang who went out to work met. After getting along with Wang for a long time, Wang felt that he missed the first love he had loved, and with the chat between them, his feelings warmed up for a long time.

Wang was surprised to be able to develop relations with. After all, in 10 years, I met many girls, but none of them excited him like Li Meili.

Perhaps, this is destiny takes a hand's fate, and I want to give Wang another chance to fall in love. Therefore, Wang cherishes it all the more. He secretly swears that he must grasp it well this time and can't be lovelorn again.

Although it is seven or eight years different from Wang, I don't mind at all. She said that what she likes is Wang's mature masculinity. Old age will make her feel more secure.

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Wang has been together for more than half a year. When the family learned of their love affair, they urged them to arrange to meet their parents.

Although they haven't been together for a long time, they are also in love for the purpose of getting married. Therefore, in the face of parents' urging, the two had long been psychologically prepared.

Wang lives in the south, but a girl from the north. In order to meet their parents, the two specially took more than a week off.

The two agreed to go to the Wangs to meet the man's parents. If our parents are satisfied with seeing the queen, they will go to their parents' home.

Knowing that Wang had a girlfriend, his parents happily cleaned up the house and waited for their future daughter-in-law. When they saw the tall and lovely Li Meili, their parents were very happy. They whispered to Wang, "Son, you really have a good eye for choosing such a beautiful girlfriend."

Wang is also very happy to hear his parents' praise.

After dinner, the family sat around the TV. At this moment, Li Meili said apologetically, "Uncle and aunt, originally, my parents should come to this meeting together. But my home is far away and my leave time is short, so my parents didn't come. I hope you don't mind. "

Wang's parents like her even more when they see how polite they are. They smiled and waved their hands again and again and said, "Nothing. It's not necessary to be so serious when we meet for the first time. We will be a family in the future, and there will be plenty of time for everyone to meet. "

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"Uncle and aunt, I'm in love with Wen Shu and I'm in a hurry to get married. Therefore, I want to take this opportunity to convey my parents' opinions. Let's talk about the bride price first. According to our custom, the dowry of an ordinary family like ours is 200 thousand. "

Hearing the dowry of 200,000 yuan, Wang suddenly opened his eyes in surprise. Before this, although Li Meili mentioned that the bride price of their family was very high, I didn't expect the bride price of Li Meili's family to be so high.

The Wangs are not rich, and the dowry of 0.2 million/200 thousand is really a big pressure on their family.

So, Wang wanted to sound it out and see if the bride price could be discussed again: "Beauty, I think we should discuss it again. After all, 200,000 is not a small number. "

Unexpectedly, Li Meili said categorically: "No, my parents said, I can't get married for a dowry of 200,000 yuan."

Wang's parents look embarrassed and anxious. Wang finally talked about his girlfriend. If he gets stuck in the bride price, then Wang will become a real bachelor and will be laughed at by the villagers all his life.

Parents dragged Wang into the kitchen and said to him, "Son, 200,000 yuan is a bit much, but you are not young. Our greatest wish is that you can get married and start a family. Isn't there an old house in our house? Although the land in the village is worthless, it can raise 200 thousand by selling it together. This time, listen to us two old people. Don't worry about the dowry. "

After listening to his parents, Wang suddenly felt ashamed. It turns out that the fact that he has never been married has become a heart disease in the hearts of elderly parents. Now that his parents have said so, he can only obey his parents' arrangement.

After coming out of the kitchen, Wang's mother held hands and said, "Girl, we are parents, too. Knowing that your parents married their daughter to our small place, there must be all kinds of disappointments in their hearts. We can understand and accept the demand of 200,000 dowry. So don't worry. Go back and tell your parents that our family is willing to pay for it. In addition, if you have any conditions, you can tell us directly. "

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After listening to Wang's parents, he went on to say, "My uncle and aunt are so open-minded, so I can speak frankly. There are really two situations that my parents told me. "

"Nothing, just a mention."

"The first condition is to buy a house in my house, plus my parents' names. My parents said that the daughter who was married far away in the village either gave birth to a child and was rejected by her husband's family, or did all kinds of hard work in his husband's family. I am the only child in my family, and my parents don't trust me to marry abroad. If they are willing to buy a house in our house, they will agree to this marriage. "

Wang's parents quickly explained, "Girl, these things you said will never appear in our house. When you get married, we will definitely treat you as a daughter, so don't worry about that. As for buying a house, I only heard that I bought it at the man's house, but I didn't hear that I bought it at the woman's house. Do you think we can discuss this matter again? "

Instead of accepting Wang's parents' words, I went on to say the second condition: "My parents said that after the child was born, both boys and girls could take our surnames. My parents only have one daughter, and there will be younger generations to support them in the future. "

Before Wang's parents could speak, Wang couldn't listen any longer. He said a little angrily, "Beautiful, I think there is nothing wrong with these conditions put forward by your parents." The only problem is that you always consider your interests. Although I still have special feelings for you, I can't marry this marriage. Go back and tell your parents that our family can't afford to marry their precious daughter! "

After listening to Wang's words, his parents repeatedly patted Wang's shoulder and said that he was too impulsive. After that, he tried to comfort again, but he was stopped by the king.

Wang went on to say, "To tell the truth, if your parents really want to marry their daughter, we can afford a dowry of 200,000 yuan. But, obviously, your parents are not marrying off their daughters, but selling them! House and children, consider your home. But, have you ever thought about my parents who are almost 70 years old? Who will take care of them when they are old? In the future, their grandchildren will have other people's surnames. What does this make them think? Have your parents considered these things for my parents? "

Despite this, Li Meili said more aggrieved: "My parents are all good for me!" But Wang didn't want to explain anything.

The next day, Wang sent her back to her place of work. She didn't go to see her parents, and she lost touch with Li Meili. Regarding marriage as such a naked transaction, Wang really can't accept it.

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I have to say, for a family like Rainbow Wenshu, Li Meili's marriage conditions are really a bit high. Although the dowry of 200,000 yuan was a little high, Wang was willing to compromise for his son's future, which showed the sincerity of the Wang family.

However, Wang felt unfair when she continued to ask her to buy a house and the future children would take the woman's surname. At the same time, Li Meili didn't mention their feelings and her attitude during her stay.

Marriage needs the efforts of two people to build up bit by bit. No one's marriage can be guaranteed without any problems just by relying on a gift and a house.

And those who put forward high demands when talking about marriage before marriage, first, because of their vanity, and second, because they are not confident about their future marriage life.

Everyone's marital conditions are different, so we should discuss and compromise according to the actual ability of both parties. If the conditions are good, the bride price has nothing to do with higher house requirements. If the conditions are similar, the marriage of the two should be completed first. As for the house and car, it will be more meaningful to create them slowly with the joint efforts of both husband and wife.