"My sister", does my sister want to be with my brother?

The film My Sister is on. Yesterday at noon, my colleagues and I went to the cinema to play. Four women are crying with a bag of paper. I watched it for a week, and most of the crying was girls.

After the break, I asked everyone why they were crying. Some said that they couldn't help crying when they saw their younger brother about the same age as their children in the film. Some say that they have been the eldest brother in grandparents' home since childhood and have always been sisters, and they have to let their younger brothers and sisters everywhere to understand Zifeng Zhang's grievances; Others said that my parents always wanted a boy. Although she was very kind to her two sisters since she was a child, she can feel the regret of her parents all her life ... Anyway, there are always some points in the movie that can poke everyone's softest place.

After returning to China, I searched Weibo for the content about movies. It turns out that the real version of Sister is more exciting than the movie version.

In the film, when my sister Enron (played by Zifeng Zhang) was a child, her parents asked her to pretend to be a cripple and cheat street workers. Later, my sister did not cooperate. After the street workers found out that my parents were faking it, my father beat my sister up.

Later, the country liberalized the second child policy, and my parents gave birth to a younger brother when my sister was about to go to college. They also tampered with my sister's college entrance examination wish and refused to let her go to Beijing, just to let her work early and earn money early.

But this is a disaster. Both parents were killed in a car accident, leaving a 6-year-old brother. My sister is bent on going to Beijing for postgraduate study to make up for the regret of not going to Beijing to study medicine. However, the problem of raising the younger brother has become a headache for the whole family.

Everyone says that a sister wants to take care of her younger brother, but she says that she has never lived with her younger brother, and she is not familiar with him. She has to take the postgraduate entrance examination and live her own life, and she can't be delayed because of her younger brother.

Seeing the movies here, many girls have begun to cry. Many girls' crying is more of an empathy. The post-80s and post-90s are basically the only-child generation. The growth of many girls is influenced by the idea of "son preference", some from their parents and some from their grandparents, as if they were not boys and were shorter than others since childhood.

Colleague Xiao Fang cried the most. When her parents 15 years old, her mother found out about her father and San Xiao. From then on, the family quarreled and fought every day and finally embarked on the road of divorce.

When divorced, Xiao Fang's grandmother was the most supportive. Because Xiao Fang is a girl, grandma wants her father to divorce her mother quickly, then marry Xiaosan and have a boy at home.

After the divorce, because Xiao Fang's mother was laid off at that time and could not have children, she was awarded to her father, who soon married San Xiao, and soon, her little sister was born.

Xiao Fang said: "I remember my grandmother's face all my life, not to mention how disappointed she was, but I am happy inside!" After my sister was born, my grandmother didn't take care of her on the grounds of poor health. Her stepmother's family took care of her sister until she went to school. Later, her father and stepmother divorced. Although I don't know the specific reason, Xiao Fang thinks it's because his father didn't get what he wanted.

Unfortunately, my sister didn't have a father's love since she was a child!

Xiao Fang said that in the movie, she could understand why Zifeng Zhang didn't want to take his younger brother at first. She said: "For me, my sister and I have never lived under the same roof. When she was born, I was already living in a high school. I was a stranger. Later, her mother divorced my father. She lives with her mother, and there is basically no intersection.

When I got married that year, my father came to my wedding with his sister alone. At that time, my sister had just entered primary school. In the evening, my father asked me to share a room with her. I said it was a wedding room. How can I sleep? Later, my sister shared a room with my aunt's cousin.

In fact, at that time, I was about the same age as Zifeng Zhang's sister in the movie, about 24 years old. At that age, I really only thought about myself and didn't think about others, especially venting my parents' mistakes on my brothers and sisters. I think I should bear the consequences for your behavior. But now that I'm a mother, I regret doing this to my little sister. After all, she was just a child at that time, and she didn't make any mistakes. "

Yes, no matter in the movie or in Xiaofang's story, we can all feel that the younger brother and sister are right, so why should the elder sister pay?

In the movie, the aunt of the two brothers and sisters is a very important person. From the beginning, she helped the whole funeral, to the middle, she urged her sister to raise her brother, and then her aunt woke up and let her sister boldly pursue her life. Aunt can be said to represent the secular vision of the outside world.

As we all know, my aunt is also a generation poisoned by the world.

My aunt said that she was admitted to the Russian Department and my father was admitted to the technical secondary school. My grandmother said that my family can only provide my father with schooling, but my sister gave in.

Later, my aunt and friends have arrived in Moscow and are preparing to do business. They received a phone call from my grandmother saying that my parents gave birth to a child and asked my aunt to come back to take care of the child. My sister gave in.

Later, my aunt gave my grandparents' old house to my father, and my sister gave in. ......

My aunt, who is used to "giving in", wanted her sister to take care of her brother at first. The idea of "big sister is like mother" has been deeply imprinted in her mind, but Zifeng Zhang said, you are a good man, but I am not you.

In China's family, we are used to letting girls compromise, leaving the delicious food to our younger brothers and sisters, and letting them use what they wear first. If everyone goes to school, they will definitely go to school. Do you still remember the Song brothers and sisters in the first part of Great Rivers?

Why? Because it's useless for girls to study? Or is it a matter of time before girls get married?

Xiao Xin's uncle used to be a local private entrepreneur. In his early years, he made a fortune by recycling waste products, and later he opened a factory, which is quite famous in the local and surrounding cities. Xiao Xin's uncle has two children, a big cousin and a big cousin.

Cousin is diligent and studious, smart and sensible since childhood. After graduating from college, she was admitted to work in a local institution, taking care of her husband and children, respecting the elderly and caring for the young. Xiao Xin said that no matter which relative has something to do, his cousin can help, and he has always been an example for his younger brothers and sisters. After graduating from junior college, my cousin went to the factory to replace her as general manager. After marriage, the wife didn't find a job, so she took charge of finance in the factory.

My cousin always thought that Uncle's business model was too old-fashioned to keep up with the current trend, so he ignored Uncle's opposition, expanded his business and invested casually, and finally lost all his money and declared bankruptcy.

The court confiscated all the properties, leaving only the old couple's house, but my cousin still owed a lot of money to his relatives, so my uncle had to sell the house and return some relatives.

Cousin asked the old couple to live in her house, but the old uncle couldn't keep his face, saying that no one lived in his daughter's house and would not be laughed at by his son-in-law and outsiders. My cousin had to rent a house to take care of them near home.

From then on, my cousin took care of the old couple's food and drink, accompanied them to sleep when they were sick, and all the problems of providing for the elderly. Whether they contribute or not, even my cousin's two children are taken care of by her cousin. Where's cousin? I am busy looking for business opportunities, and I am making a comeback. Only when I ran into a wall and had no money did I think of coming back to see the old couple.

Until that day, my uncle said to my cousin, can you help your brother again? His friend has a good project and wants to invest with him. Maybe he can make a comeback. My cousin finally couldn't bear it, and hysterically said all the grievances of these years. She just wants her uncle to realize clearly that her son is not a businessman. Why should she trust him again and again?

Why in a family, parents always can't see the girl's contribution, but can see the boy's grievance?

When two children are in conflict, they always say, "You are an elder sister, can't you make way for your younger brother?"

There is a saying that "women are weak and mothers are strong."

But I want to say that this sentence should be changed to: "Women are weak, but strong for sisters."

Therefore, when watching Enron (Zifeng Zhang) insist on not raising her younger brother in the early stage of the movie, I think most girls will have a sense of happiness, as if she had made a decision that everyone dared not make at ordinary times and was loyal to herself.

In the film, my brother cried for the first time because he wanted to eat meat buns in the morning, and my sister gave him sliced bread to eat. My brother said that my mother always wrapped meat buns for me. My sister didn't speak, but she felt the parents' preference for her younger brother.

Another thing is that my sister is going to sell the house. My brother said that my father said that everything in this family is mine, so you must listen to me.

In my sister's memory, my mother is gentle and loving, but my father basically hits her. But in my brother's memory, my parents always loved him the most and never hit him.

Same parents, different treatment. How many families have made mistakes?

Xiao Nan and his sister are seven years apart. Now my sister is a junior in a foreign country. Whether to take the postgraduate entrance examination or go home to find an internship, my sister has never had an idea, and the whole family has also made a worry.

Xiaonan's parents asked Xiaonan and his wife to help their sister contact the internship unit. Xiao Nan wanted to refuse, but she didn't know how to say it. This just shows the grievances of these years.

She said that she was afraid of her parents, especially her mother, since she was a child. In her impression, if she did something wrong, her mother would hit her. If you don't do well in the exam, you must be beaten. After a long time, I stopped learning and dared not communicate with my parents. My academic performance will get worse and worse, and finally I will go to a junior college.

Later, my sister was born. My sister and her personality are completely opposite. My sister will be spoiled and make my mother happy. Of course, my sister has a big temper. If mother and daughter quarrel, it is the elder sister who runs away from home and the mother who admits cowardice.

Xiao Nan once envied her sister's personality and wanted to speak freely in front of her parents. But the more I grew up, the more alienated I became, and later I got married and had children. I think I've been here for half my life, so forget it.

As the saying goes, "spoiled children have candy to eat."

Sometimes we often ignore sensible and quiet children, because they are too sensible, so sometimes we even ignore their inner feelings.

The palm of your hand is covered with meat. I believe that every parent treats their children with the same pain, but please speak out and let them feel it.

The bad blood between children is often not the trivial matter that you robbed my toy and I ate your lollipop.

More is to let them know that mom and dad love each child the same.