When communicating with others, use address forms carefully.

Address is the address of one party to the other in interpersonal communication. In daily life, addressing is a friendly greeting and the beginning of interpersonal communication. There are polite names that form civilized norms, as well as "nicknames" and "posthumous title" among friends.

How to address others is a very particular thing. If you use it well, you can make the other person feel very kind, help yourself get twice the result with half the effort in interpersonal communication and leave a good impression on others. On the other hand, if the address is improper, it will often cause the other party's unhappiness or even anger, and make the communication between the two sides fall into an embarrassing situation, leading to poor communication or even interruption.

A college student, when he first entered the university, was not particularly familiar with his surroundings. At this time, she saw that the waiter in her dormitory was an old lady with gray hair, so she went up and asked her, "Grandma, how can I get to the canteen?"

Who knows, the aunt turned her head and ignored her. College students are puzzled and don't understand what is going on.

At this time, a waiter next to her came over and said to her, "She doesn't like being called grandma. You have to call her aunt, and she will be enthusiastic about you. "

It turns out that the old lady is a little old, but her heart is still young, so she doesn't want to be called "grandma" and prefers to be called "aunt".

So the college student went over and called "auntie" affectionately. Sure enough, the old lady turned around enthusiastically and said to her, "What can I do for you?" Knowing that college students were going to the canteen, she took her to the canteen until she came back.

This shows the importance of addressing others. Addressing others is an extremely important art. If addressing others improperly, it is easy to make others feel disgusted, even jealous, and can't be let go for a long time.

When addressing others, we should not only pay attention to politeness, but also pay attention to the regional differences in different places. Due to different customs and human feelings in different places, different appellations have different meanings. Sometimes it means respect in one place and insult in another, so pay more attention to this.

A Mr. Chen went to Guangzhou on business. He and his friends went to a restaurant for dinner. Because of his habit, he casually shouted, "Little Sister, bring us some paper towels." What he didn't expect was that not only the waiter didn't move, but people around him looked at him with contempt. Mr. Chen thought she didn't hear him and shouted out, but the waiter simply walked away and ignored him again. Later, under the explanation of a friend, he realized that the name "Little Sister" is very sensitive in Guangzhou, especially for some girls who work in other places. It is a kind of contempt and contempt. No wonder Mr. Chen's address of "Little Sister" has always been cold.

Since addressing is so important, we should pay attention to choosing addressing carefully in communication. So what principles should be followed when choosing a title?

First, consider each other's age? When you meet an elder, you must address him by your respectful name, especially when you want something from others. For example, grandpa, grandma, uncle, aunt, old gentleman, old master, you are old, etc. Don't shout "hello", "hi", "cyclist", "herding cattle" and "working" casually, otherwise it will be annoying. In addition, it should be noted that the address of people should be accurate according to their age, otherwise it will make a joke. For example, if you see a woman in her twenties, you can call her "big sister", but in fact she is not married, which will make people unhappy. Might as well call her "big sister".

Second, consider each other's occupation? When addressing others, we should also consider their occupation. People in different occupations should have different names. For example, farmers should be called "grandpa", "aunt" and "fellow villagers"; Doctors should be called "doctors"; Teachers should be called "teachers"; For national cadres and public officials, the PLA and the police, it is best to call them "comrades"; For compatriots in Hong Kong and Taiwan and overseas Chinese who have just returned from overseas, if they are called "comrades", they may feel uncomfortable, but if they are called "sir" and "madam", they will feel natural and cordial.

Third, consider each other's identity? Once a college student went to the teacher's house to ask questions. Unfortunately, the teacher was not at home, and his wife opened the door to meet him. At that time, he didn't know what to call it, and blurted out "Jenny". The teacher's lover felt embarrassed, and the students realized that something was wrong because she was not much older than the students. Therefore, the best way is to call "teacher". No matter what occupation she is (or I don't know what occupation she is engaged in), calling others "teachers" means respecting each other and being modest.

Fourth, consider the occasion of speaking? ? Call superiors and leaders to distinguish between different occasions. In daily communication, it is best not to call leaders and superiors official titles, but to call them "Lao Zhang" and "Lao Li", which makes people feel equal, cordial, approachable and not bureaucratic. A wise leader would welcome such a name. However, in formal occasions, such as meetings, contact with other units, and work talks, it is often necessary to address leaders as "Manager Wang" and "General Manager Zhang", because this reflects the seriousness of work and the authority of leaders.

Fifth, we should consider our relationship with each other? When addressing others, we should also consider the intimacy of our relationship. For example, when you meet your brothers and sisters, classmates' friends and partners in the same workshop, it will be more intimate, cheerful and chic to call them by their first names. Otherwise, you will be called "comrade" and "monitor" solemnly after meeting, but you will be very strange and distant. Of course, it is ok to make a joke just to pretend to be "serious".

At the same time, when greeting many people, we should pay more attention to the distance and the relationship between primary and secondary.

Generally speaking, it is advisable to grow up first and then be young, first go up and then down, first be female and then male, first be sparse and then be dense.

In the process of communication, the address is often the first message passed to the other party. Different address forms not only reflect the differences in roles, social status and intimacy between the two parties, but also express the speaker's attitude and thoughts and feelings towards the listener. The listener can know the speaker's real intention and purpose through the address forms chosen by the other party.

Proper address can make communication go smoothly, while improper address will cause the other party's unhappiness and create obstacles to communication. In order to ensure the normal communication, the speaker should choose the appropriate address according to a series of factors such as the age, occupation, status and identity of the other party, as well as the close relationship with the other party and the conversation occasion.