The old man fell. Can you help him? 4 papers

Reality is the best teacher. In Tianjin, Xu Yunhe "ate" the lawsuit for helping the fallen old man; In Nantong, Jiangsu, the coach driver was framed after saving people. In Jiangcheng Wuhan, there are also electric car owners who are accused of doing good deeds ... So people always persuade or force themselves to adapt to the indifference of society, to adapt to the "hidden rules" of society, and strive to be a so-called "smart person".

Facing the social environment, everyone seems so powerless. We long for the truth, but the truth is often obscured by noise; We pursue rationality, but rationality is often influenced by emotional attitudes. In the face of the social dilemma of "the elderly fall without help", people often criticize the deterioration of social atmosphere, moral decline and lack of law. But under the impetuous agitation, few people pay attention to the behavior itself. The old man fell without help, which fundamentally reflected the lack of social interaction.

"Socialization" is a foreign word, similar to what people often say about interpersonal communication. Social communication is closely related to two factors, one is communication will and the other is communication ability. For most ordinary people, it's just a little effort for the old man to fall to the ground. But why don't people bend down and reach out?

According to the interpersonal relationship between participants, social communication can be divided into three types: emotional relationship, instrumental relationship and mixed relationship. First of all, in terms of emotional relationship, unlike the traditional "acquaintance society" in rural areas, modern cities are more of a "stranger society". People are engaged in various jobs and have no blood relationship, so "snow in front of the door is self-sweeping, and others are self-sweeping" has become the norm. Imagine how many people would be indifferent if it was their relatives or acquaintances who fell. Secondly, in terms of tool relationship, in such an era of chasing money and paying attention to interests, because of the lack of incentive mechanism, helping the elderly who fall may not get any "benefits", but may "get into trouble". Under the instinct of pursuing advantages and avoiding disadvantages, letting nature take its course may be the "best choice" for the elderly who fall. Under the joint action of the two, people are powerful, but they have no "heart". They are used to being spectators and bystanders, but they don't want to be actors and participants.

It is not a simple individual phenomenon for the elderly to fall without help, but a complex social problem. The change of social environment cannot be achieved overnight, and it is more realistic to strive to improve people's social participation. With the improvement of social participation, the society will be full of vitality and people will be full of warmth, and the tragedy of "the old man has no one to help him" will no longer be staged.