I'm very nervous when I do things, and I always feel that people around me are watching my heart beating so fast that my hands are shaking. When talking to people, I always feel speechless and afraid

I'm very nervous when I do things, and I always feel that people around me are watching my heart beating so fast that my hands are shaking. When talking to people, I always feel speechless and afraid of being laughed at. Hello, I can see your eagerness from your expression. This is a typical mentality of pursuing perfection. In fact, many people will have similar situations, including me. Hehe, the reasons are as follows:

1. Too hard on yourself, hoping to leave a good impression on others, but afraid of leaving a bad impression.

You are an introspective person. Proper introspection is very helpful to your ability and maturity, but excessive introspection will turn into self-blame and make you less and less confident.

3. Lack of self-confidence leads to judging yourself according to other people's evaluation of you, fearing that others will have a bad evaluation of you.

Personally, I suggest you

1. Don't be perfect for yourself. The teacher said "perfection = death". The meaning of this sentence is that the more people pursue perfection, the more they will suffer, and nothing will happen.

2. The relationship with the other party should be natural, and what the other party thinks of you is his business. As long as he lets nature take its course, he can relax.

During the conversation, relax yourself and don't be afraid of silence, because the communication between people is not how much you say or do wrong, but whether the two sides are honest with each other.

People can lose everything except self-confidence, because self-confidence is the foundation of our success. When we have full confidence, we will have different views on the outside world.

I wish you success in your interpersonal relationship.