Evaluation of soul mate fit, a truly fit soul mate

: Psychological evaluation of slag less than one.

DATA: Evaluation of soul mate fit.

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Many people seem a little pessimistic about love. They may be together because they are afraid of the empty window, or even panic when they are old, so they make do together, just like two people who are afraid of loneliness holding a group to keep warm. As for love or not, I really didn't think too much.

So many people will wonder, what is a soul mate? Is it the light when the spirit meets the flesh as Xu Zhimo said, or the harmony and sound between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang, or the Platonic love beyond time and space?

Today, we use data to talk about what it feels like to meet a "soul mate" and some truths that everyone wants to know about it.

-0 1- What exactly is a "soul mate"?

(1) "Numerous tacit understandings"

When it comes to soul mates, many people will say a feeling of "understanding", which is a tacit understanding. Even if you don't say it, ta will understand. Ta knows the intention behind every choice, the mood after every choice, and even the expectation after every expression.

There is a teacher in the university. He and his wife are just a couple. In their eyes, there is a word "understand" in their behavior.

Both of them are in their early fifties. They have been married for many years. Their teacher is talkative and cheerful, and their teacher is shy and kind. In several contacts with them, I feel that there are too many similarities between them.

Their expressions are similar, like simplicity, don't like nonsense, and don't like redundant politeness; Smiling, eyes narrowed, eyes glowing, as naive as a child; Even the dressing styles are similar, simple and generous, giving people a clean and refreshing feeling.

I was once invited to the teacher's house for dinner, cooked in person and cooked a good table. Jenny frowned slightly when she tasted one of the dishes. Before Jenny could speak, the teacher got the message and took the food back to the kitchen for re-processing.

Seeing that I didn't know what had happened, Jenny smiled and said to me, "Your teacher put more salt in it, so take it back for disposal. Fortunately, you haven't eaten yet, and you are laughing to death. "

After dinner, Jenny wanted to send me a book of Jane, but at the moment she forgot where she put it. At that time, the teacher was brushing her teeth, looking at Jenny around her and saying something. Immediately, Jenny found the book on the bedside table and said, "You see, my memory is really not as good as yours."

The original sentence "let's go" means "put the book in the bedside table." I really feel convinced at the moment!

Another time, when they were studying literature, I saw an interactive integration because of their different ideas and singing styles. When two people talk about Kan Kan, I think they are talking to their own souls, just like Boya and the little chef of hippo meet a bosom friend, and Jiang Yang plays the piano and sings tirelessly for a long time.

Chandi Nelson said:

"Meeting your soul mate is like walking into the house where you once lived-you know the furniture, the paintings on the walls, the books on the shelves and the things in the drawers. If you fall into darkness in this house, you can still walk freely. "

That is a high degree of spiritual harmony. You have me and I have you. That is the most natural state of each other. You have seen through me, just as I have seen through you.

(2) "Differences make me a better self"

Some people say that soul mates live together very much alike, and even the more alike, the better. Actually, it's not. If there is an "other me" infinitely close to you, do you need a partner or yourself?

A friend has been dating a male ticket for 3 months, and when he first fell in love, he was very excited to meet his soul mate:

"There are people in the world who are so similar to me, which is simply conjoined. Our hobbies are strikingly similar, and so are our tastes. He has seen everything I have seen. The places I have been to are so similar. Do you like spicy food or coriander? Where can I find such a highly unified person? ! "

But three months later, she complained that she felt too bored with him. Two people are so alike, it's like falling in love with another person.

"Our views on things are strikingly similar, but I long for the feeling that different ideas collide. For example, after watching a movie, I was very touched and wanted to talk to him. But I feel that he is thinking the same thing as me, and nothing new can happen, so I suddenly don't want to talk. Even when we quarrel, I love cold violence. I ignore him, and he ignores me, so boring! "

Is soul mate only defined as "tacit understanding"?

No, a good relationship will make each other grow. What friends see in her relationship is only sex, not growth.

In "Assassin Nie Yinniang", Bin Wang kept a phoenix bird for three years, and it didn't sing. Even if he was given a golden birdcage and used all kinds of delicious food, he wouldn't talk. His wife heard that birds will bark when they see their own kind, so they can hang a mirror to let them see themselves, and maybe even bark.

King Corbin did so, but Qingluan immediately burst into tears and died dancing in the mirror. Qingluan thinks that people of the same kind should not be exactly like themselves. Everyone is the same. Instead of meeting people who are inseparable from each other, we hope to meet a somewhat different ta, discover the wonder of the world and feel the impact of different spirits.

Differences attract each other. For example, a quiet person may be attracted by a lively person whose vitality and agility are beyond his reach. Similarly, a lively person may find a quiet person attractive. People who are bound by rules may envy unruly elves?

Differences allow each other to discover a bigger world. You like photography, ta likes music, you show him the camera switch, ta takes you into the world of music, and you get closer to each other step by step, trying to reach out at the most vulnerable part to meet and connect.

(3) "I can't help but want to get close to ta"

Many people say that every time they meet soulmate, the current of true love rushes to every nerve in the whole body, and every cell can't help cheering. I can't help but want to be close to ta and share everything with ta.

A friend described her soul mate like this:

"Every time I meet him, the flame of love will instantly emit high heat and strong light to the dark universe. When leaving, my heart aches faintly, and beauty and pain continue. "

A friend's description is a little exaggerated, but your soul mate did ignite you, and it wasn't lightning. Even after a long time, the heart that wants to be close will not change.

-02- Several Findings of Soul Mate

Boys believe in the existence of "soul mates"

In everyone's expectation, girls may be more emotional and pay more attention to spiritual needs, so they believe in the existence of spiritual partners. And the data shows that boys actually believe in the existence of soul mates! I prefer to believe this feeling of instant ambiguity.

In addition, compared with boys, girls choose not to wait for the appearance of their spiritual partners. It's not that I don't expect the appearance of ta, but the waiting cost of girls is higher.

I don't believe that I will meet a "soul mate" after 90.

After 00, young people believe in the existence of "soul mates". People who have less emotional experience have good expectations and are more willing to believe the dream lover in a sweet dream.

Compared with post-80s, post-70s and post-90s, they don't believe there will be "soul mates". Perhaps in the era of free love, the post-90 s are more casual, and they will be divided if they disagree. There are not so many rules and regulations, and I don't want to believe in the slightly illusory vocabulary of soul mate.

In "Would you like to wait for your soul mate?" The younger people are more willing to wait because they have time and capital. With the growth of age and experience, fewer and fewer people are willing to wait.

Being single is not an excuse for not finding a "soul mate".

Do people who have no love experience believe in the existence of soul mates more?

Not exactly.

The data shows that people who have been in love 1-3 times believe it more.

The possible explanation is that people who have been in love for 1-3 times taste love honey for the first time, and they are willing to take the initiative to find it. People who have never been in love are struggling to find results, while people who have been in love many times have experienced ups and downs, which will make their understanding of spiritual partners more realistic and less illusory.

Both the mother and the fetus are single people, and they are more willing to wait for the appearance of soul mates, and perhaps they prefer their first love to be soul mates. With the increase of love times, fewer and fewer people choose to wait for their soul mate.

Soul mates are not necessarily love at first sight.

As for the form of soul mate, most people are in the middle. They believe in love at first sight and love over time.

Only 8. 19% people think that soul mates can only be produced by the crackle of love at first sight, while more people think that they can run in like gears and can't get along at first sight.

Are you dating your soul mate?

Not everyone thinks their partner is a soul mate. Only 25.7 1% people confirm that ta is yes, and 45.50% people think that the other party is not.

Then the question comes: if you think the other person is not a soul mate, will you leave decisively?

Most people think that it is more important for two people to experience, grow up and run in together than to pursue soul mates. Only 9. 15% people choose to break up decisively and pursue true love, and 27. 1% people are entangled in the vacillating balance.

-03- Write it at the end

In such a big world, it is difficult for two people to meet and fall in love, let alone become soul mates. This reminds me of the short cartoon "The Lost Corner". I went around looking for the lost corner, only to find that I couldn't walk with you, and perfection and deficiency were intertwined.

People are like many pieces, and soul mates are the attraction and splicing of other pieces. Some fragments are mutually exclusive and cannot be spliced, but magically, other fragments will attract each other and naturally splice together.

When the pieces are pieced together into a new whole, you will feel that you have met your soul mate. It may be difficult to find a match, but please believe that years will also polish it into a spiritual match.

A lot of things that can't be understood in a thousand words, just one look, t a will understand. Have you met your soul mate?

A psychology, let some people see themselves first.

"One heart", learn some psychology every day.

The above is about the evaluation of soul mate fit, and it is about the sharing of soul mates. After reading "True Soul Mate", I hope this will help everyone!