The reality of being married for three years is bitter, big sister: it's good to pay off the debt. I want to buy a house and a car.

"It's good to be able to pay the bill. I still want to buy a house and a car!"

My elder sister looked at me and my husband sarcastically, saying that her eyes were full of disdain.

I think I can remember that contemptuous look for a lifetime.

Rich and arrogant, the husband's family's attitude is very bitter.

When I was not married to my ex-husband, my life was carefree, and I even thought about living like this when I got married and got married in the future.

However, in my first year of marriage with my ex-husband, I encountered the cruelty of reality.

That year, because I had to go home to visit my parents during the Mid-Autumn Festival and needed to buy some gifts, I asked my ex-husband for money, but he said no.

In rural areas, daughters go back to their parents' home three times a year. If she has no money to buy gifts, she won't go back. What a joke!

My ex-husband was impatient when he saw me nagging. He gave me a punch with a wave of his hand, and I suddenly felt a terrible pain under my eyes.

Stop pestering, turn around and leave, extremely disappointed with him.

At that time, mobile phones were not popular. What shall we do to save face? I think, even if I have no money, I can't go back with my paws empty.

I went to my aunt's house in a neighboring village, made up a lie, borrowed 100 yuan, bought moon cakes and fruits with the money, and brought them back to my mother's house.

My mother stared at me keenly and asked, why are your eyes purple?

Afraid my mother would worry, I said I accidentally bumped into the corner of the cabinet. Fortunately, my mother didn't keep asking, otherwise I was afraid I really couldn't make up for it.

This is the first time that my husband has abused me because I have no money. Like a fool, I just want to make money and live a good life in the future, so I choose to forgive him.

At that time, the main industry in rural areas was farming, and few people did anything else to find a way out.

Once the uncle next door came back from collecting junk, I saw that his car was full of all kinds of junk.

My father-in-law happened to be outside the yard, so I said casually, you can make a lot of money by watching this car, and you will definitely make a lot of money after one year.

My father-in-law snorted and said to me, then let Daqiang collect junk, too!

Because my mouth was stupid, I didn't remember how to answer him at that time, but I was very unhappy and felt how this person spoke in such a tone.

The last thing I can't get over is that my sister came back to look down on people in the dust.

At that time, my husband and I joked that when I got rich, I would also buy a suite in the city. When my son grew up, I had nothing to worry about.

I expected the words sound just fell and immediately came the voice of elder sister-in-law:

"It's good to pay off this account. Do you still want to buy a house and a car? Never look at day or night! "

It turned out that she didn't know when she came out of her mother-in-law's house, and those who didn't make any noise stood behind her. After listening to what I said, she made a mockery.

I couldn't bear it any longer and said to my sister:

"No one is born poor. Don't look down on people for ten years in the East and ten years in the West. "

My voice was loud and my mother-in-law heard it. She stood at the door and said to me, "Your sister likes to talk straight, so leave her alone."

Choose divorce

In the evening, I told my ex-husband that we must find ways to make more money, so as to change the status quo and avoid being looked down upon.

My ex-husband said I thought too much. We are all family. Who can look down on us?

I was angry and quarreled with him.

Finally, he was angry and ignored me, and the discussion was dropped.

The next day, at breakfast, I said to my mother-in-law, why don't we buy two sows to go home, so that we can sell the piglets and raise them ourselves, which is also a way to make money.

My father-in-law immediately opposed it, saying that it is absolutely impossible to raise pigs except for buying feed.

I thought about it and said, then keep rabbits. Rabbit hair is very tight, and our domestic long-haired rabbits are also a good sideline.

My father-in-law quickly denied it again, saying that it was worthless to raise rabbits.

In those years, I never expected to go out to work. Their home is by the river, and they just want to farm to support their families. It's really hard.

I really panicked when I saw that all the proposals were rejected by my father-in-law.

My last suggestion is that it is feasible to contract more land and have more labor at home, so that some cash crops can be planted.

As a result, the proposal died in my father-in-law's place. He said that it is not practical to eat by the weather, and it is futile to be busy all year round.

Ironically, just after dinner in the morning, my sister who lives across the river asked her son to ask his father-in-law and his family to help with the autumn harvest.

Hearing this, the father-in-law said urgently, Come on, everyone, try to catch up early and take back all the crops while the weather is good.

I didn't go that day, so I looked down on my sister. Even if I go, it won't change her view of my poverty. Why go after her?

My father-in-law saw me sitting still and wanted to say something, but his mouth opened and he swallowed back.

They went to the autumn harvest for three days in a row, getting busier every day.

I once secretly asked Daqiang, there are only three people in the elder sister's family, how can I often ask you to work?

Daqiang said it was because they contracted more than ten acres of land, all of which planted cotton and tobacco leaves, and all of them tied crops by hand, so they were too busy.

I asked him again, then your father won't let your family plant a variety of land, so you can make money if you plant it at your sister's house, but our family can't?

Seeing that I was dissatisfied with his father, Daqiang's face became ugly.

I ignored his disgust and asked him what his plans were for the future. Can't he insist on planting two acres of land?

He scratched his head and said he would worry about eating and drinking, so he stopped talking.

I thought a lot that night. His character is to follow his parents, and he has no opinion of family planning at all.

In-laws are preoccupied with their eldest daughter. The implication of Putonghua is that they don't look after their eldest daughter and are worried that she will have a bad life.

Think about how proud my sister is to be back. Aren't all raised by her parents?

For the first time, I was deeply disappointed with my family, especially my ex-husband, and I couldn't see the source of the future at all.

Still because of money, after his second domestic violence against me, I resolutely filed for divorce. Since husband and wife can't change poverty with one heart, what's the point of being together?

Vast ocean diving

After the divorce, I went to Guangdong to work with my cousin, almost a group of migrant workers.

At that time, the factory salary was really low, but the corresponding money was also real, and the price was not so high now.

I worked like this for several years and saved a little money.

My cousin and I discussed that we should open a small restaurant near the factory, which tastes better and has more weight. It should be better than working in the factory.

If it really doesn't work, spend money to buy classes and go back to work in the factory.

This is unexpected. Although I am worried, the profit it brings is ok.

Later, my cousin went back to her hometown to get married, and her brother-in-law developed again, so I took over the shop alone and operated it alone.

Looking back now, I still feel that it was not easy to open a store at the beginning, but I survived it. It's no big deal.

I don't want to brag about how capable I am here. I just want to tell you that when you marry a man who has no responsibility and no opinion, pain is inevitable.

After all, a family needs husband and wife to support it. If life is tight, the other person still doesn't make progress and depends on his parents like a giant baby who can't think independently. I believe that few women can stand it.

But unlike those who have been poor together, I have a deep understanding of this sentence, but I think this is not the saddest place. The most terrible thing is that it has reached the point where you have to struggle, and the other half has to lie down and comfort themselves with "you think too much".

I can't stand being poor. When I meet such a man, I always feel that divorce is the only choice. Later, I witnessed it with my own experience. As long as I am willing to work hard, there is really no flaming mountain that I can't cross.

I believe that couples who are still in the "poor" stage, after careful consideration and hard work, will definitely get rid of the predicament and realize their long-cherished wish of "green mountains and green waters with laughter".

The old saying that dogs look down on people is not groundless. It can really make people at a disadvantage feel the unspeakable pain.

So, please "but don't be like those who have been poor together" couples, take action at once, stop feeling sorry for themselves, but use their own abilities to prove that no one is inferior.