When others look down on you, do you feel sorry for yourself or do you work hard to improve yourself?

In life, you come into contact with all kinds of people. No matter how good a person is, you will always encounter people who look down on you. So, what should we do at this time?

Many people’s first reaction is to use excuses to win others’ recognition. However, “empty words” and excuses are useless, and others will not be flattered just because you have said a few more words. Take a look at you.

The love of a poor boy who was "looked down upon" really came to nothing

Many years ago, when he still had nothing, a friend fell in love with a beautiful, elegant, and first-rate woman. Aboriginal girlfriend. At the beginning of their relationship, the two lived a very happy and content life.

Then, friends around me all felt that my friend was "not good enough" for this girl. She was a poor boy with nothing. However, the girl had a good family background, was beautiful, and knew how to dress up. What could my friend do to compete with her?

Sure enough, the torture of reality came a few months later, when the girl’s parents asked to see their friends. At the dinner table, I asked my girlfriend’s parents, “What are you doing now?”, “How much is your annual income?”, “Do your parents have pensions?”, “How many houses does your family have in the urban area of ??** city (a first-tier domestic city)? Huh?", "What are your plans for the future?" and a series of questions, which made me confused.

The meal was extremely uncomfortable. The next day, my friend said to his girlfriend: "Your parents look down on me because I come from a small place. Let's break up." The girl said: "No, they just ..."

The beautiful love was put to rest when it first surfaced.

When others look down on you, it means you are not strong enough

The boy calmed down and began to think carefully about a question: where is his future, what should he do, and how How can we give the girl a secure future? How can we make her parents feel comfortable leaving her to us?

After carefully analyzing his current situation, my friend decided to escape from the first-tier cities, return to his hometown, and open a dessert shop.

My friend is always a thoughtful person. After several months of preparation, coupled with his own copywriting and promotion skills, the store is running very well. In less than a year, my friend opened a branch. Now many years have passed, and my friend’s dessert shops have spread to more than a dozen large and medium-sized cities in China.

Later, my friend got his own real estate and car in a first-tier city, but he never went back to look for the girl. He said he was very grateful to the girl and her parents, whose "questioning" made him start to think and change.

I remember reading a saying I liked on the Internet: Life either grows and rises in the pain, or it declines and dies in the pain.

When we are looked down upon by others, we do not have to rush to get angry or feel aggrieved. Instead, we should admit the fact that "we are not strong enough" and work hard to change this situation.

If you realize this and take action, the pain will last for a while, otherwise, being looked down upon will last a lifetime.

Poor in the busy city and no one cares about it, but rich in the mountains with distant relatives

This society is beautiful, but it is also realistic and cruel.

It is human nature to despise poverty and love wealth. The terms "poor" and "rich" refer not only to finances, but often also include abilities, appearance, and conduct in the world.

In life, because your achievements are not great enough, others will look down on you; because your achievements are not great enough, others will ignore you; because your abilities are not strong enough, others will bully you; because If your emotional intelligence is not high enough, others will laugh at you.

Once you get results for your hard work, what follows will be a change in how others view you. Their affirmation and recognition of you is the best proof to those who used to look down on you. .

Everyone desires respect, friendship and kindness from others, but many times, except for the practice of Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, most people in this world do not have love for no reason at all.

Only when your efforts are worthy of your ambition, you will receive the respect and love you deserve.

So, what should we do when we are looked down upon?

Especially when people reach middle age and face being looked down upon by others, instead of feeling sorry for themselves, it is better to do the following:

1) Strive to improve your professional abilities

It is undeniable that many times our self-confidence actually comes from our strength. Only when your professional abilities are excellent can you make correct judgments on things, thereby creating a sense of value and winning respect and recognition.

2) Neither humble nor arrogant, don’t care too much about other people’s opinions

It’s normal to be looked down upon by others in life. No matter how hard you try, you still can’t make everyone in the world like you. Therefore, as long as you do things with a clear conscience, stick to what you want to stick to, and don't care too much about other people's opinions.

3) Use actions and achievements to prove yourself

Romain Rolland said: “There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after recognizing the truth of life. "In the face of doubts and contempt, those who face it bravely, do not shrink back, and persist in working hard don't need to say anything. His actions and achievements will prove it for him.

In 1999, when Jack Ma wanted to create Alibaba, everyone thought it was a fantasy. They looked down on him and didn't believe what he could do. However, even if everyone thinks it is impossible, Ma Yun still firmly believes in his judgment.

In 2015, Alibaba’s total market transactions exceeded 3 trillion yuan, making it the world’s largest retailer. Those who once questioned and were not optimistic about Alibaba have long been ashamed and regretful.

As the old saying goes: Everything depends on human effort. The same situation, different mentality and different approaches may lead to completely different results. When you are looked down upon by others, I hope you will not be depressed in silence, but will explode in your efforts.

***Mian.