Don't be reasonable in marriage and family.

Last night, one of my little sisters came to me sadly, crying like a peach. I quickly comforted her, brought a tissue to dry her tears, and then I listened to her.

It turned out to be a quarrel with her husband. My little sister had a hard time seeing two babies every day, but she really couldn't hold on at night. After giving the children to her mother-in-law and husband, she lay in bed and wanted to take a nap. In fact, at that time, he didn't cover the quilt or close the door. Just unconsciously, he slept until late at night. At 12 o'clock at night, when his child should go to bed, her husband walked into the door with his child in his arms. I heard her husband mutter: You slept soundly. That tone is full of anger! It seems that if he sleeps a little longer, he is guilty of a terrible crime. My little sister was very unhappy at that time. She said I was just sleepy and tired. I overslept at once. Are you so angry? Am I tired and can't have a rest?

actually, it's a very simple thing, a very small thing. But my little sister was very angry, because she felt wronged, but she was tired and slept for a while. She repeatedly stressed to her husband that she was unhappy and stressed the feelings of injustice, but her husband completely ignored her.

In fact, it seems to her husband that his wife is angry, so he should not talk, so as not to make her more unhappy. Just let her vent her emotions. But his indifference made my little sister even more angry. She doesn't think there is any explanation. Why don't you coax me? Explain, I wish I didn't mean that. But no matter how much she said about her unhappiness, her husband just ignored it. In the end, of course, it rose to such a big event as "You don't love me and don't care about me".

look. In fact, a very simple thing, but because two people have different ideas, eventually led to the expansion of the problem and the escalation of contradictions.

I remember seeing a vibrato video on the Internet the other day. The wife in the video called her husband after getting on the bus and said: The car is broken and can't be started. After her husband answered the phone, he immediately told her: Do you see if the lights are on? His wife said to her husband, Oh, what should I do? Why can't it start? Her husband still said: You, you see if the lights are on? The wife continued to say to her husband: I have an appointment with someone today. I have something to discuss. What should I do? I'm worried sick. Why can't I hit it at this time! This husband is still saying on the phone: Turn on the lights and have a look. Finally, his wife was very, very angry: I'm telling you, I'm going to be late. Why did you tell me about the driving lights? At this time, her husband's performance was still good, and he quickly said to his wife: Wife, don't be angry, don't be angry, I was wrong, I was wrong. Turn on the lights and have a look.

I laughed when I saw this place. Women's minds are really completely incomprehensible to men. Later, the wife flew into a rage and shouted at her husband on the phone: it's not your fault, it's my fault! I should never have called you! Then he hung up the phone with a bang. The husband on the other end of the phone is in a state of complete ignorance. He simply doesn't understand what happened. Am I wrong? What did I do wrong?

men and women. Facing things from different angles, women are telling men about their emotional needs, especially my sister, and her husband have been stressing that they are hurt and feel wronged. Why do you have to be annoyed when I sleep for a while? The woman in the video has been stressing to her husband that she wants to go on a date and is worried that she will be late. Men are always offering real solutions to women's problems, but in fact, women just want men's emotional comfort and understanding.

in marriage and family, it's not a place for reasoning, not a debate venue. You have to tell the winner, you have to compare it, and you have to talk about feelings at home. When a woman is angry, she just wants to know if you don't care about me. Do you love me enough? I just want a man to come over and coax her a few words, and I can understand the difficulties in her daily life.

The most important thing for two people in marriage is tolerance and understanding. It's not easy to stand in each other's perspective and understand each other's difficulties. How rare it is. If my little sister's husband can think from his point of view, the children are playing outside and can fall asleep with such a loud noise, which shows how hard she is and must be exhausted. If her husband can think about it emotionally, there will be no irritability behind, and there will be no quarrel between the two people behind.

when my friend complained of grievances, her husband immediately explained it, and it wouldn't escalate the conflict at last. If the husband in Tik Tok understood his wife's worry about being late, he wouldn't have made such a joke.

in a word, it is unreasonable to talk about feelings in marriage and family. Both men and women should love and understand each other.