"People, if you are not in good health, don't tell others casually" What do you think?

Agree. Let me give two examples:

It turns out that a female colleague was fair and weak, just like Lin Daiyu. When she was young, I couldn't really tell that she was suffering from any illness.

But every day at work, as long as you sit across from her, the first thing you will say is that she is not feeling well somewhere. She seems to be sick from head to toe.

Gradually, everyone said that she was a bit "nervous" and too sensitive to her body, and they began to be reluctant to get close to her anymore.

Later, I was transferred out of that department and had less contact with her.

A few years later, I heard from colleagues that she was really sick, and it was rheumatoid arthritis that was incurable. Due to severe deformation of his fingers, he was unable to perform clinical work and had to work at the charging window.

People who always talk about "bad health" may initially make people care about you and sympathize with you, but over time it will only make people annoying. No one likes to face someone full of negative energy every day. people.

What’s more, doing this also injects bad hints into one’s heart, causing one to get sick even if one is not sick.

I am also a female colleague. When her 30-year-old son was in the fourth or fifth grade of elementary school, he unfortunately contracted stomach cancer. When he underwent surgery at a major hospital in Beijing, he was judged not to survive the Spring Festival that year.

After her physical strength gradually recovered after the operation, she returned to work. When I saw her countless times, I never heard her complain once, and her face was always filled with a peaceful and calm smile.

She never mentioned it, so I never asked, not because I didn’t care, but because I didn’t want to remind her that she was a “cancer patient” and bring up her “sadness”.

This year her son will also take the college entrance examination, but she is still so peaceful and optimistic, never complaining.

Everyone said "She is a miracle" [Like]

I also believe that there are miracles in this world [Prayer]

"What do you think you are?" That’s what a person will become in the end.”

Human potential and inner strength are immeasurable [Prayer]

May everyone be full of positive energy. [Prayer][Prayer][Prayer]

I agree, if you are not in good health, telling others will not solve the problem and bring negative energy to others, why bother.

Here is an example. My former neighbor was across the street from me, and we got along well with each other. Although we did not visit each other, we still chatted a few words every time we met.

For a period of time, the lights were always dark in their house, knowing that no one was at home. Then one morning I met her husband and I asked him why there was always no one in your house. The husband hesitated and said: Your sister Zhang and I stayed at her mother's house for a while, but I didn't take him seriously. It was normal to go to her mother's house.

After a while, my neighbor came back. She had lost a lot of weight. My sister came to live with her. One day, my sister came to my house to check her blood pressure. We chatted and it turned out that the neighbor had changed. Breast cancer, I was hospitalized for surgery some time ago.

My elder sister said that my younger sister is relatively introverted and has a strong personality. She didn’t want to let her neighbors know after she got sick, but she couldn’t hide it.

This may have something to do with each person’s personality. It’s better to just let things take their own course. I don’t like people who just nag when I meet someone and say: I don’t feel comfortable here or there. There is no need to keep it secret even if you are seriously ill, because the secret cannot be kept.

People who eat whole grains will not get sick. Things in the world are unpredictable. You must have a normal mind and believe that there is true love between people. No one will laugh at you if you get sick. Everything will go according to the trend. Pray for [pray][pray][pray]

I agree with this point of view. "If you are not in good health, don't tell others casually."

The reasons are as follows:

1. In this era when favors are thinner than paper, many people hope that your life will not be as good as hers. .

A sister was seriously ill before (I call her Sister Wang). During the treatment, Sister Wang’s family went to the unit to apply for leave and other related matters for her. On the way, they met a person who used to be with Sister Wang. Xiao Zhao, a good woman, and Sister Wang’s family briefly told her about Sister Wang’s illness. Xiao Zhao opened her mouth and asked Sister Wang’s family, “Did Sister Wang lose all her hair due to treatment?” Sister Wang’s family members asked her at that time She left very angry." After some time, Sister Wang met Xiao Zhao at the vegetable market. Xiao Zhao stared at Sister Wang and said, "Oh, you even lost your eyebrows. Are you done?" Her question made Sister Wang, who was already sad, burst into tears again.

From that time on, Sister Wang never told others about her illness.

2. For some serious illnesses, others are very afraid of you. In the second week of my illness, because the baby's father had something to do, he asked his second sister-in-law (I'll call her second sister) to greet me for a few days (she said she needed to be taken care of before), but she made an excuse and said she couldn't come. A week after I was discharged from the hospital, the baby's father's brother-in-law, younger brother-in-law, and second sister came to see me (I also shouted). They agreed to come to my house for dinner the night before, but they didn't come the next day (because my sister and sister-in-law They came to see me the first day and brought live chickens, New Year's pork, etc. I had trouble raising chickens, so they killed the chickens and cooked them at home.) When they arrived at my house, I poured water for them to drink. The second sister refused to drink, so my daughter poured it for her, but she still refused to drink. Afterwards, they were asked to stay for dinner. My brother-in-law and younger brother-in-law said yes, but the second sister refused to eat and said she wanted to go home to eat. Later, I thought I felt sorry for them (them) who came all the way to see me and didn’t even eat. After they (they) went out, I called the baby’s father and asked him to call the second sister. Make a phone call and treat her (them) to a meal (you have to go around 30 kilometers to where her father works). The baby's father called, and my second sister drove my brother-in-law and younger brother-in-law to the place where the baby's father worked to have dinner. Since my second sister refused to drink water or eat (her brother and I have been married for nearly 20 years, her family often came to my house to eat and stay), and the following few times when we went back to visit my parents-in-law, my second sister’s family did not come back (in the past As soon as we go back, the whole family will go to my mother-in-law's house for dinner). I know the second sister is afraid of me. She thought it was unlucky for me to be seriously ill, so she disliked me in various ways.

3. When you are sick, if you tell others, most people will give you some comfort. For example, some friends will say, "Don't be afraid, just do whatever you want." It sounds simple, but it is really difficult to do. Because the disease is not in their body, there is no empathy in the world. I also know that people mean well, but I still don’t want to hear it.

4. Maybe you have a minor problem. After you tell others, many different versions will be circulated outside, and they may affect you in various aspects.

So I think it’s better not to tell others about your poor health.

People, if you are not in good health, don’t tell others casually. This is true at all. Why? Because not to mention that others don't like to hear it, even my own family members are a little tired of it.

Last Sunday, I went to a relative’s house. When everyone was about to sit down to eat, the hostess said that she had a bad stomach and esophageal erosion, so she couldn’t eat spicy food. In addition, she had high blood pressure. She can't eat too much, and it's hard for us to talk to her when she chatters. We just remind her to go to a big hospital early to avoid getting seriously ill.

She said that she had read it and was now taking Chinese medicine to treat herself. The thought of drinking such a large bowl of Chinese medicine every day made her feel like vomiting. She said that she didn’t know why she was in so much pain. Everyone was fine. As long as I have too many things to do, I really have enough to live with.

I told her that when people get older, few are in good health. If they eat whole grains, they won’t get sick. When things happen, be patient and seek medical advice if you are sick. Face it calmly. There is nothing to fear. .

She also said that her illness was serious and she felt uncomfortable every day, with pains here and there, and she really had enough of life. Listening to her nagging, her son said, "Everyone has eaten, don't always say how well you are?" Otherwise, everyone will be unhappy.

She kept silent at that time, maybe she was a little unhappy, but she didn’t expect that we were not doctors, and it would be useless to talk to us. Maybe she saw our embarrassment, and she Her son stopped letting her talk about his condition.

Of course, good health is also a person’s advantage. Only with a good body and a good job can you have a good social status and a rich economic foundation, which means you have a good job. , A good job requires a strong mental state and a healthy body, so that your wallet will be bulging, which is generally the case. When you are rich, your popularity will be better, and your relatives and friends will follow you. On the contrary, if you do not have a good body, a decent job, that is, you do not have a superior social status, the people around you will not be able to find what they want from you. They add glory, so your popularity will become worse.

What’s more, if you are in poor health, do not have a good job, and are just a housewife. Without a job, you will have no colleagues and no friends, and your popularity will be even worse.

So, if you are still very young, in the struggle period, and your physical condition is not very good, you don’t need to tell others about your physical weakness. Not only does it not arouse sympathy, it can also become your weakness. There are all kinds of suffering in life, the pain of missing each other, the pain of parting, etc. The physical pain can only be borne by yourself, and you must bear it by yourself. You can confide it to the closest and most loved people around you, because they will love you from the beginning to the end. You will be more tolerant and understanding of you, like parents, lovers who share the joys and sorrows.

If you are now sixty years old and have not engaged in any social work, it does not matter whether others know whether you are in good health or not.

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Personal advice, if you are not in good health, really don’t tell outsiders, especially irrelevant people. Tell them to irrelevant people, sympathize with them in person, and they may be nagging behind your back. Sneered.

In fact, this is how human nature is. When you are sick or depressed, who will continue to treat you well? Therefore, in times of disaster, apart from your close relatives and kind-hearted people, they wish you well and give you warmth. There is really no need for outsiders to tell you. After all, cheap comfort and inconsistent words are not enough for a person who is seriously ill. The person doesn't make the slightest sense.

It is impossible to live without friends. Some are loyal to each other, some are casual acquaintances, some value friendship and righteousness, and some break up when they are in trouble. And when your health is not good, there may be very few friends left around you. Much more.

It’s not easy for anyone in this society. Don’t easily tell others about your misery, let alone tell others that you are not in good health. Outsiders are just outsiders and spectators, talking about topics after dinner, villain. They will also make fun of them as a joke, which is often the icing on the cake and not much help in times of need.

My cousin’s daughter, my niece Yingying, interacted with me when she got married. I think getting married is a major event in life. Although I am an ordinary working woman, I am not stingy about favors and money, so I gave them She got two big red envelopes. Later, when she gave birth to a baby, I gave her a gift of wine for her 30th birthday. I also gave lucky money to her children during the New Year. It was quite lively. Unfortunately, I got seriously ill in 2018. My niece Yingying disappeared and lost her voice. She stopped praying during the Chinese New Year and stopped interacting with her. Later, my mother-in-law said that her family's conditions were not very good and her life was not good, so she asked me Don't worry about her. I think it's not pity for people to be poor. What's pity is that people don't have the heart of kindness and compassion!

It is often like this in life to know one's heart when in trouble. There are many truths that cannot be understood through hard thinking and meditation. In a certain accident or an ordinary moment, everything has an answer.

When you encounter bad health, you will grow up instantly and understand many truths in life. As the saying goes, times have changed and the world has changed! So when a person is at a low point in life, he will truly understand the various flavors of life! People are just like fish. It is inevitable that there will be times when you are stranded. If someone pushes you, you may have a different life. When you are in danger, who will lend you a helping hand?

We are always grateful to all the noble people around us who have or are giving us a push. It is their enthusiasm, sincerity and love that make our lives no longer discouraged and disappointing, with motivation, hope and true love. Become a beam of light, illuminate the road of life, and move forward step by step!

In the real society, there are only a few people who truly feel sorry for themselves. Some of the pain can only be swallowed secretly by oneself in the silent, dark and uninhabited midnight, slowly licking the wounds and quietly repairing the cracks. , never mention your various poor health conditions to outsiders casually.

If a person has no doorkeeper, is not in good health, and likes to talk to others, the consequences are as follows

1. She (he) is a The sick are different from us. They feel compassion in their words and create distance in their actions.

The essence of human society is the survival of the fittest, the survival of the fittest, and the survival of the fittest, without exception.

One of the fundamental attributes of people is that they like to deal with people of the same kind or with people who are better than themselves. No one likes to be with a sick person day and night, because the aura you exude is not sunny and healthy. , not active, with a sense of decline and decadence, which makes people feel depressed.

It is not easy for everyone to survive in society. Subconsciously, they like to eliminate complexity, excessive worries, and things that cause trouble to themselves. They like to interact with positive things and positive and sunny people to drive themselves. Also work hard.

For patients, it is okay to accept the fact that no one will lend a hand to help you, and it is okay to be indifferent. I believe that the vast majority of patients will never tolerate it, and everyone is unanimously looking at you with pity!

You have no control over getting sick. As long as it is not a complicated disease, there is a great possibility of being cured. It is not a matter of life and death, so why should we have such hugely different treatment? ? Everyone thinks they have good intentions, but in the eyes of the patients, they are full of malice.

2. Good things don’t go out, and “bad things” spread thousands of miles

When a person does good things, the relatives and friends around him often keep silent about it. But if you are unlucky or get seriously ill, everyone around you may know about it in a short time. In this case, why do you need to be this communicator? Just treat it calmly and treat it well.

There are many types of illnesses, with varying severity and contagiousness.

For people who are sick, the attitudes of family members and outsiders are completely different. Your family will worry, advise, and spare no effort to help you solve your problems. If you have any concerns about what you say, they will be cautious and will not rub salt into your wounds.

Some people outside have good intentions, but are defeated by a bad mouth; some have nothing to do with themselves and care about others; there are also many who take pleasure in others' misfortune.

Since getting sick is your own business and has nothing to do with others, and others cannot provide any necessary help, why should you make it known to the whole world?

Calm down and take good care of your illness, stay away from noisy crowds, think about your own concerns, carry forward your hobbies, interests and specialties, spend some time with your family, and go out in the summer evening Taking a walk and reading a good book under a warm light can be healing medicine.

What really heals you is your own courage and determination. Thanks for the support.

This is how I see it. I only speak for myself

Talk and talk, even if people who have been talking for a long time don't do this, they will gradually become like this. This is what happens to people who have been reporting illness to themselves for a long time.

This refers to including derogatory words and neutral words. A person's mouth can seal both himself and his juniors.

If you don’t believe it, you can pay attention to the people around you. Especially those who love to talk, and love to talk about their own family members.

I think I should try my best to change this habit. Of course, this is my immature view and my opinion only represents my own.

I hope everyone has good health and that every family is healthy!

Please forgive me for disturbing everyone with my words!

I have been sick on and off since I was 38 years old, and now I am 46 years old. My health has never been good, and I have had three surgeries, but I never mention it casually to the people around me.

Even when I needed to take leave for surgery, I took personal leave and made other excuses, so almost no one knew when I went to work after the surgery. I even kept it a secret from my parents and siblings because I didn’t want them to worry, and besides, no one can take the place of my illness.

As for my friends, I don’t want them to know because I’m not good with words and I’m not used to polite greetings. I don’t want them to ask about my health when they meet. This reminds me that I am a patient. I will also feel anxious. Besides, there is no one in this world who can empathize with me, even the best friends can’t do it.

Then there is the matter between colleagues. If colleagues have been together for a long time, I will inevitably offend people. Maybe some people are not expecting me to get well, or it may be a minor illness and they don’t know it. No matter how many versions we have to create, some people with dark psychology may even gloat behind the scenes, so if I am stronger, I will not give them such an opportunity.

So if you are not in good health, you should take care of yourself and maintain a good attitude. Don’t always think that you are a patient. Living happily every day is better than anything else. Maybe your health will get better and better. Woolen cloth!

This is one of the ways to show self-respect and self-love and save face. If you tell others, they may not be sympathetic or help you. Xianglin's sister-in-law's negative energy is annoying to everyone. Working in a market economy, maybe. There will be more chances of lost opportunities.