"Your sister-in-law is a good cook and cooks for the New Year." The mother-in-law is distressed by her daughter, and the daughter-in-law of New Year's Eve asks for a divorce. Is there something wrong?

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not be underestimated. If there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, feelings will be affected more or less, and even lead to the breakdown of marriage. In the dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the fighting capacity of mother-in-law is beyond imagination, and daughter-in-law is often in a weak position.

When a woman marries a man, she really wants to live a stable life, but she ignores an important factor. To create a happy marriage, it is not enough to have loving feelings between husband and wife, but also to have a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In the past, some couples respected each other as guests, because they did not handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and as a result, their lives were riddled with trivial matters.

If a woman is lucky to meet a good husband, then meeting a good mother-in-law is a blessing. Being able to have a reasonable mother-in-law not only saves the trouble of contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but even if there is stumbling between husband and wife, under the maintenance of her mother-in-law, her husband dare not make a blatant mistake.

However, people are selfish, and most mother-in-law instinctively feel exclusive to their daughter-in-law and like to put on airs to suppress her daughter-in-law. In her mind, son, daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law and son-in-law are clearly distinguished. Whether filial or not, they can't be treated equally by their mother-in-law.

02

Zhao Li and her mother-in-law have been mothers-in-law for 12 years. I thought the stone was covered with heat, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law's heart to be harder than the stone, and she was bossing her daughter-in-law around as usual. Only this time, Zhao Li resolutely refused to accept it again and filed for divorce on New Year's Eve.

Speaking of it, the contradiction between Zhao Li and her mother-in-law started from the first meeting. When Zhao Li was a beautiful young factory flower, she happily followed her colleague WU GANG home to visit her in-laws. But her mother-in-law is arrogant and dislikes her being a rural girl. Although WU GANG finally passed the door after arguing, her mother-in-law has always been cold to her.

Mother-in-law is a wayward person, and she is uncompromising at home. Even her father-in-law is often criticized and satirized. Zhao Li's situation can be imagined. WU GANG knows her mother's nature. At first, she knew how to protect her wife. After a long time, she became numb and left Zhao Li to fight with her mother-in-law, but she was no match for her mother-in-law.

It is said that a mother's children are expensive, but even though Zhao Li gave birth to a son for her husband's family, she still didn't get great attention from her mother-in-law. In her mother-in-law's heart, she already has a grandson. Because there is no mother-in-law, her sister left her son at her mother's house after giving birth. Mother-in-law didn't ask her grandson to call her grandma, but called her grandma.

03

If a relationship really can't run in, the best way is to stay away. Disappointed, Zhao Li would rather rent a house than live under the eaves of her in-laws. She sent her son to a full-time nursery, worked hard to make money, and lived an active life. I didn't expect her in-laws.

Maybe when people get older, their temper will become softer. After their father-in-law died, her mother-in-law actually became friendly to Zhao Li. In addition to calling to say hello, she also comes to see her grandson with fruit every once in a while. Seeing her mother-in-law take the initiative to show kindness, Zhao Li is naturally not good at holding grudges. However, her mother-in-law took the opportunity to ask her to provide for the aged, and WU GANG's indecision made Zhao Li temporarily soft-hearted.

But Zhao Li didn't expect that she dug a hole for herself. Since my mother-in-law moved in, my elder sister-in-law has often brought her children to get married and eat rice. As soon as they arrived, my mother-in-law said she wanted to add vegetables. Zhao Li and his wife's monthly salary, not only for the mortgage, but also for the elderly and children, is not rich, but now the economy is tight. My mother-in-law keeps pocket money for the rent of the old house, and she doesn't care about the situation at home.

However, as long as her mother-in-law knows how to be considerate of her daughter-in-law, Zhao Li won't be angry. She works two shifts every day, 12 hours, that's enough. When she goes home, she has to take care of a family. Mother-in-law is carefree every day, except dancing in square dance or playing cards, and she doesn't reach out at all for housework.

04

Zhao Li is not made of steel. Long-term overload will always overwhelm her health. She will discuss with WU GANG to resign and change to a lighter job. Hearing this, the mother-in-law not only didn't care about her daughter-in-law's health, but said that she was getting more and more delicate. If Zhao Li hadn't been lucky enough to marry her son, she might still be working in the countryside.

For her mother-in-law's vitriol, Zhao Li has long been accustomed to it, and her mother-in-law has always been like this. She always likes to get the upper hand in what she says and does, and she can't lose at all. Occasionally Zhao Li can't help but reply a few words, and WU GANG criticizes her for not caring about the elderly.

In a blink of an eye, the Spring Festival arrived, and Zhao endured physical discomfort and set out to prepare for the New Year's Eve dinner. She thought that even if her mother-in-law didn't reach out, her elder sister-in-law would come to help, but she couldn't wait to meet someone, so she had to dial the phone to urge her elder sister-in-law to help.

After the elder sister-in-law came, she just rolled up her sleeves and got ready to work, but her mother-in-law stopped her: "Your elder sister-in-law is a good cook and cooks during the New Year. You are exhausted from cleaning at home. Sit down and have a rest. Don't be stupid in the future. Let your father do something. "

Hearing this, Zhao Li stood in the kitchen, tears streaming down her face. Her family is busy outside, and her mother-in-law can't say a word of love. A few times, she just asked WU GANG to wash the dishes, and was criticized by her mother-in-law for not ordering men to do housework, but she didn't treat her son-in-law like this.

05

After careful consideration, Zhao Li understood that in her mother-in-law's mind, her daughter and son are her own children, while her daughter-in-law and son-in-law are always outsiders and should be involved. When she poured out her inner grievances to WU GANG, thinking that she could get some comfort, who knew that WU GANG impatiently said that she couldn't find anything in 2008, so she cooked a few meals casually. Is it necessary to haggle over every ounce?

Physical discomfort, coupled with the injustice in my heart, completely broke Zhao Li's mood. In this family, she is like a free nanny, working hard to serve the young and old, with no credit and hard work, but her husband's frivolous words shattered all her beliefs about marriage. Finally, Zhao Li publicly filed for divorce at the New Year's Eve dinner.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are most afraid of double standards. Many mothers-in-law are used to comparing the shortcomings of their daughter-in-law with the advantages of their daughter, and then come to the conclusion that their daughter-in-law is not as good as their daughter. Even while complaining that the daughter-in-law is lazy and doesn't do housework, she instills in her daughter the idea of marrying into her husband's family and not doing housework.

It is true that parents love their children, but from a fair point of view, they blindly favor their children and treat their daughter-in-law as an outsider, which not only invisibly cultivates their selfish personality, but also hinders their road to happiness, because no one wants to be with a selfish person for a lifetime.