The sunk cost of love-your love, don't be humble!

? San Mao wrote a story in The Story of the Sahara: A man named Sharon spent more than 300,000 yuan to marry a woman and disappeared in a few days. Illiterate Sharon asked Sanmao to write to her, waiting for a reply every day, and finally waiting for a reply. The woman said she had no money to come back. If you can send her100000 yuan, she can buy a plane ticket. In order to raise enough money to send to women as soon as possible, Sharon worked day and night, regardless of her weight loss and scars. Finally, someone couldn't help telling him: Your woman is a bitch. But he was unmoved and raised money by himself.

At the end of the story, Sharon didn't wait to save enough money, so she took risks and stole other people's money and was chased around by the police.

No one knows why Sharon is so stubborn. This state is not surprising in the world of love. In the movie Nothing Needed, Michelle played Jenny Huang Shufen, which made many people unforgettable. She is no less stubborn than Sharon.

Huang Shufen and Xu Bochang used to play harmoniously under the eaves. Because Xu Bochang vowed: "I will be good to you all my life", she wholeheartedly proposed to go to college. I ate rice soup myself and wanted to leave all the good things to my boyfriend. I waited for my boyfriend to come back from college with joy, but I waited for the news of divorce. Huang Shufen forced me to die, and then I got an absurd marriage.

After marriage, Xu Bo often used cold violence against his wife Huang Shufen: no communication, no greetings, no sleep, broken bowls and no touching of his wife's. Huang Shufen's beating and cursing Xu Bochang can't eliminate her inner dissatisfaction and unwillingness.

The end of the story? Huang Shufen finally looked at the eaves they once loved, and the scene of jumping into the well was shocking, while Xu Bochang was crying like a joke.

Perhaps all tragedies began when Huang Shufen decided to support her lover to go to college. She selflessly invested too many chips, which Xu Bochang could never repay in his life. In this way, the relationship of love is transformed into a relationship of debt.

Who wants to spend his life with his creditors? !

Every shot of Huang Shufen is full of resentment and unwillingness. Perhaps the reason why many people still refuse to let go in the end is not that they still love, but that they are unwilling.

Sunk costs in love and marriage;

The concept of "sunk cost" is often used in economics and business decisions. ? Sunk cost refers to the cost that cannot be changed by any decision now or in the future because the past decision has already taken place. That is, the irrecoverable cost that has been paid. When people decide whether to do something, they should not only look at whether it is beneficial to them, but also whether they have invested in it in the past. We call these irrecoverable expenses, such as time, money and energy, sunk costs.

? So is the sunk cost in love. When getting married, so many people will make various demands: house, car, bride price and so on. Many of them are not for practical purposes, and some people call them "face". From the perspective of sunk cost, these payments are like a bet, symbolizing how much you are willing to pay for the person in front of you. Both sides judge each other's sincerity from these bets.

? If the story of Huang Shufen and Xu Bochang begins like this:

? A pair of lovers, the man wants to go to college, but unfortunately he has no money, so he discusses it. The man said, "You make money for me to go to college, but I can't promise to come back and marry you." Do you think this is ok? If we change our mind when we come back, I will pay you ten times the college tuition as compensation. what do you think? "

The woman listened and said, "Fuck you, ten times? You make money for me, and I go to college. Come back and give you ten times. "

The man weighed the pros and cons carefully and said, "That's thirty times. Look at it, ok? "

The girl replied cheerfully: "Deal, this money belongs to the property before marriage, so whether you are married or not, you can't divorce after marriage." When this account is clear, the contract will take effect. "

The boy replied cheerfully, "No problem. Sign it now. "

The story begins like this. Is there any torture like the following? Many people pay with wishful thinking, and many people accept with a clear conscience. However, all "willingness" has a premise. The giver should understand and the receiver should understand.

When all the costs have passed the water under the bridge, it is the right choice to stop. This requires courage and wisdom. ? Whether you can bear the sinking cost is an important sign of a person's maturity. ? In life, there is always a time when you can't recover the cost and let you grow up!

Beauvoir said:

? I am eager to see you, but please remember that I won't ask to see you. This is not because of pride, you know I am not proud in front of you, but because it makes sense for us to meet only when you also want to see me!

? Whenever, your love, don't be humble! Whether your contribution is valuable or not depends on who you contribute to. If you really love someone, let him (her) pay! Close efforts are the best way to maintain a relationship!