The ability to be alone

Hard work? Postgraduate entrance examination or civil service examination?

All the young people who applied for the job have left, except for one, who insists on working hard every day to catch up on the project, wearing stars and moonlight, coming home very late and starting work very early. Nowadays, the postgraduate entrance examination and the civil service examination are popular, seems to be the only way out?

In fact, it is not just young people who are constantly looking at the crossroads of life? For everyone who is unwilling to be mediocre, it is a serious topic worth thinking about.

State-owned enterprises are stable, remunerated well, and have a far-reaching reputation. Perhaps many young people yearn for it endlessly and flock to it.

And I want to break free?

Maybe it’s because I’ve been through this process for a long time, maybe I’m tired of the endless life path, and I still have some illusions about myself. Maybe I feel that state-owned enterprises are not suitable for me, although I already have some After realizing it later, give it a try?

The only thing I am sure of is that I think I still have some ability to be alone. The so-called solitude means to consciously do nothing, be in a daze, and have random thoughts in a quiet place anytime and anywhere, or to accompany oneself, have heart-to-heart conversations with the self in the heart, and inquire about the soul... Facing this complicated world, I think, I It is too necessary to constantly integrate and digest myself, guide myself, be my own best friend and psychiatrist, and then get ready and go out refreshed.

To use an old saying: go through hardships and still live with a smile.

The so-called solitude is a kind of independent, transcendent and selfless life attitude, a kind of spiritual pursuit, a kind of self-seeking, a scrutinizing gaze, a way of life that is completely one's own, and a kind of self-education. approaches and methods.

Human existence, on the one hand, is the acquisition of knowledge, and on the other hand, it is self-education, that is, the acquisition and improvement of intelligence.

To acquire and improve knowledge, you really need to eliminate any interference, return to yourself, and often be alone, that is, time and space in a daze, opportunities and even methods, which do not belong to the brain, but pure metaphysical intuition, curiosity or philosophy Ask, and the soul appears. In other words, a person is not necessarily a philosopher, but he has to engage in philosophical thinking on a regular basis. Because people base themselves on their thoughts. Because Zhang Weiying said: Changing ideas is changing the world. Because people are different, more comes from acquired self-education.

However, acquired self-education, including more than 10 years of school education, is not conducive to the improvement of a person's intelligence. Because of the utilitarian thinking of exam-oriented education, students have no time and space to be alone. That is to say, objectively speaking, society, teachers, and parents will not educate you to be alone and think independently. Your understanding of yourself is too superficial and you have always been a Unanswered questions, and little to no general education in the humanistic spirit. It is obvious that many college students do not have the ability to think independently and be alone, and are particularly confused about the future. It is not surprising at all. Not to mention, just living and surviving takes up a lifetime of energy.

The first brother of the Ming Dynasty: Wang Yangming, who is an internal sage and an external king, may not have any practical significance at all to many young people. Is it just a joke?

How should we take the road of life?

Many problems can only be solved by oneself, and no one can replace them. Because growth is transformation, breaking out of the cocoon; because without experiencing heartbreaking experiences, it is not enough to talk about life. Because the road of life lies deep in your heart, and you need to stop your hurried steps from time to time to let the gods reappear and reshape your soul. The more hurried you are and your steps are messy, the more you need to be calm and self-aware. Because Shanghai tycoon Du Yuesheng has long said: Get to know more people who are often quiet. Because people who love silence are more powerful.

Because silence comes from being alone.

For a man, it is especially important. Even necessary.