How hard is it for the poor to change their destiny?

In ancient times, there was such a poor scholar who studied hard and pretentious, and wanted to be a prime minister couple. Someone laughed at him. He said, "Don't laugh at me yet. When I participate in scientific research and become a top student in high school, I can be the son-in-law of the Prime Minister! " Someone reminded him: "Do you think that winning the first prize is worthy of the monarch's golden branches and jade leaves?" The scholar was taken aback and silent.

Ten years after the Cultural Revolution, the college entrance examination system was restored, and the vast number of urban and rural youths were gearing up, studying hard and preparing for the exam, striving to realize their dream of "carp yue longmen" through the exam. There was a young man who was born in the countryside, worked as a farmer for generations, and his family was poor. He is eager to change his destiny by reading. It was the turbulent season of adolescence, and he fell in love with a very quiet and beautiful female classmate in his class. That girl is the daughter of the county party secretary, and her father will soon be promoted to deputy secretary of the municipal party Committee. He made an earnest wish to his roommate, saying, "I will marry her when I am admitted to the university." The roommate said, "Would you like to? Will the secretary of the municipal party Committee marry your daughter? " He froze and didn't sleep a wink all night.

Different ages and similar scenes, without exception, poked our tears. The class gap is far from being changed by an exam. It is really difficult for the poor to change their destiny.

I can't help but think of Mr. Lu Yao's masterpiece "Ordinary World". In the novel, Sun Shaoping, a poor boy born in the rural areas of northern Shaanxi, falls in love freely with Tian Xiaoxia, the daughter of Tian Fujun, deputy director of the county revolutionary committee (later district commissioner and secretary of the prefectural party committee). Later, when Xiao Xia took part in flood fighting and emergency rescue, he died unfortunately to save a child. Many readers cried when they read this, and it was hard to accept Xiao Xia's death, so they wrote to Lu Yao, asking why the author arranged such an ending for the lovely Xiao Xia. Lu Yao wrote back to the reader and said, "I understand your feelings, and I don't want Xiao Xia to die. However, there is no realistic possibility of love between Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia. When the story develops here, Xiao Xia must die ... "

At any time, cross-class love is basically unrealistic. There will be fairy-tale love in literary works and film and television works, but generally there will be no love in real life.

Some people say that today's blind date is to "sell" the conditions of single men and women. Come to think of it, it really means that. If the conditions are not commensurate, there is almost no possibility of continuing to communicate. Even if you barely associate, the road behind you is full of resistance.

In China in the 1980s, a girl with an urban hukou would never marry a young man from the countryside, because people thought that urban and rural hukou were completely different.

In China in the 1990s, a girl with a formal job would never marry a young man without a stable job, because there is still a world of difference between having a job and not having a job.

Today, with the rapid development of economy and society, people's ideas are also undergoing various profound changes, and the issues of hukou and work seem to be less important. But on the issue of marriage and love, once the woman's personal conditions or family conditions are obviously superior to those of the man, all this will become extremely difficult.

After all, children from poor families are very cold even in spring.

The older we grow up, the more we find that being born in a family has brought us too much and far-reaching influence. Maybe from the day we were born, the mark that hit us was destined to accompany us all our lives. Although our parents have given us the best they can, it is still too difficult for us to completely change our destiny.

Studying hard and going to college can't completely change our fate, because the job has not yet settled; Trying to find a good job still can't completely change your destiny, because the salary may be very meager; We had a heart-to-heart love, thinking that we could settle down from now on. When it comes to marriage, we find ourselves naive. Sometimes the gap between family and family is far beyond our imagination.

I'm sorry I was born a man-I know a lot, but I still can't live this life; After working hard for a long time, it is still difficult to completely change the fate of yourself and your family, or even to have a foothold in the city. You can't blame your parents, only yourself.

My father taught me from an early age: "the children of poor families have long been in charge." I keep this sentence from my father in my heart, and I haven't forgotten it for a day. Growing up, I have been paying attention to thrift and hard work. Although it is hard for me to imagine when I can completely take off my peasant coat and change my destiny, I will continue to work hard and forge ahead. As for the class discrimination when looking for a date and dating, I am also used to it. If I can't change the peasant's background all my life, then I can only keep the peasant's duty all my life and never do the stupid thing that a toad wants to eat swan meat.