I feel cheated like a joke

When you feel cheated, maybe the other person also feels cheated-"cheated" is an idea, an idea, and a somewhat self-deprecating and cynical attitude towards things. How is it formed? On the one hand, your naivety makes others' self-confidence swell, thinking that he is great and can give you the world, and then he will promise you something beyond his ability (something he thinks he can do, but in fact he can't), and he is also sincere or completely sincere when he promises. This is what men and women in love often do. On the other hand, you don't use rationality to measure the possibility of realizing this promise. Besides considering the actual situation, you should also judge his character. In short, you should look at the possibility of realization in an all-round way, rather than believe what he (or others) says.

So in the final analysis, what you lack is rational thinking and evaluation, not "soft-hearted" and "cruel" problems. If you encounter this situation in the future, you can be more rational and avoid being cheated. Naive and simple trust, or attaching importance to feelings, is actually very good. People with this personality are very kind and likable, so you don't need to become indifferent and secular.