Girl, I would rather you be abandoned by a scumbag than see you be abandoned by an "infatuated" man.

On August 23, a case was heard in the Hangzhou Intermediate Court, which made me depressed.

In a residential area in Binjiang, Hangzhou, a man named Xue, who had returned from overseas, picked up Shanshan (pseudonym), a girl he rented together, by his waist and threw her down from the 19th floor. He died at the age of 26.

There is a 19th floor forum in Hangzhou, and another major case on the 19th floor happened.

Xue is a second-generation rich man who has returned from overseas. He and Shanshan were classmates in a high school in Henan. After graduation, Shanshan came to work in an e-commerce company in Hangzhou, while Xue went to study abroad and returned to China at the beginning of the year.

Xue has been pursuing Shanshan for many years, but Shanshan has never agreed. Perhaps Xue’s low appearance and stubborn attributes make him unattractive.

If the story had stopped here, there would have been no subsequent tragedy, but Shanshan accepted Xue’s efforts except for love, leaving Xue unable to wake up from the dream of “she did not reject me.”

Poor girl, if you don’t love him, why did you accept the coach bag, Tiffany necklace, Casio camera, Starbucks card, and even use the money he gave to travel?

Xue is rich, but from the moment you decide that it is impossible to be with him, he is no longer your person, and you should not spend any of his money. This is the most basic human ethics. . If you give him something back and he doesn't want it, you should throw it away in front of him. At least it shows your attitude and he won't have a wrong judgment about your relationship.

If you were tired of his pestering, why did you agree to his request for a shared apartment? After renting together, you used photos with other boys to stimulate him? Also called that boy and told him that he hated him and let him hear it?

In the past eight years, you have not agreed to any request to take a photo with him, but you have spent his money and feelings with peace of mind. Any normal person would feel unbalanced, let alone just asking for a photo. No, a man who has gone crazy?

This case is a tragedy that led the wolf into the house from beginning to end.

Coincidentally, the case of Zhou Yan, an Anhui girl who was disfigured a few years ago and was a hot topic, was also because her husband loved her.

Zhou Yan’s classmate Tao Rukun poured lighter fluid on Zhou Yan’s head and ignited it. From then on, Zhou Yan’s destiny was completely changed. She grew up almost overnight and saw the cold reality clearly. Near death several times.

A few years later, she once said: I still dream of wearing a wedding dress and having love, but I also understand that it is almost impossible.

The Zhou family said that Zhou Yan had not agreed to Tao Rukun's pursuit and had been avoiding it; while the Tao family said that Zhou Yan and Tao Rukun had a puppy love relationship. Later, Zhou Yan's love changed and Tao Rukun lost control of his emotions. . This incident became the Internet Rashomon.

The court's first-instance verdict showed that both parties admitted that they had had a romantic relationship.

Appearance is a girl’s second life. Zhou Yan was very beautiful before she was disfigured. After the disaster, she no longer had the strength to hate Tao Rukun. She only said that as long as his compensation was paid, she would let him out. I don’t care, I just need the treatment fees to survive.

When I say these two things, I have no intention of condemning who is right or wrong. If you are a girl, I must remind you that according to the latest survey, 90% of people turn to retaliate against the opposite sex because of breaking up or not being able to pursue them. Male hands. Among the vicious cases, the probability of the perpetrator being a man is close to 100%.

Social public opinion is far less tolerant towards women than you might imagine. Zhou Yan has been scolded online for several years and continues to this day. Comments and accusations on the 19th floor are mostly directed at Shanshan. The public was not very sympathetic to their loss of looks, or even lives.

It can be seen that men and women are still not equal, and the same is true in relationships. Even if boys make thousands of mistakes, girls may suffer disaster if they make a small mistake.

When a man decides not to be a gentleman and risk his life, he will definitely have the courage to prove what it means to be "non-toxic and not a husband". They will kill you in an instant. No matter how smart you are and how strong your heart is, Nothing can stop the natural wildness and brute strength of men.

The two cases have one thing in common. The criminals are both "infatuated" men.

You don’t understand that “infatuated” men and “dedicated” women are not the same species at all.

The best you can do to retaliate against a boy is to label him a "scumbag" and despise him, and never see him again until death.

And the "infatuated" man has no time to call you a "scumbag", he will make you a scumbag directly. Men really hate a person who is far more cruel than a woman.

You hope to get a boy’s sincerity. After you get it, have you ever thought that you can’t afford his “infatuation”?

A "dedicated" woman loves a man deeply and can choose to leave; a "lovestruck" man sets his sights on a woman and will pester you to death.

When a "dedicated" woman is lovelorn, she will cry, make trouble, or hang herself at most. She rarely thinks of hurting the other person, but have you heard of how many "infatuated" men commit suicide because of falling out of love?

There are quite a few murderers.

This is the difference between men and women’s emotional outlook.

The biggest difference between men and women is that when giving love, men also have strong hunting instincts and possessiveness. These are primitive biological characteristics that have not faded. They inspire passion and destructive desire when conditions warrant. More than you can imagine.

This is also an important reason why men are far less tolerant than women after being cheated on.

Looking at it this way, it is much safer to be abandoned by a "scumbag" than to stay with a "lovestruck" man.

What I call "infatuated" men has a derogatory meaning, specifically referring to those men who are paranoid, possessive, narrow-minded, suspicious, and will do anything to achieve the goal of possessing a woman.

They regard possessing the woman as the ultimate goal of their relationship. As for whether the woman has feelings for him, it can be ignored. They want people to be careless.

They regard the loss of a woman as the greatest failure in life, so they do not hesitate to use extreme means to retaliate, and the consequences are often unimaginable.

A real example happened around me.

Nine years ago, a distant relative of mine, a family of four, was brutally wiped out.

Although my family is related to this family, we don’t have much contact with them on weekdays and are not very familiar with them. His family only came to my house once, when I was still young.

After the case happened, it was posted on the homepage of the portal website, and the criminal was wanted across the country. Only then did I know that the family had this relationship with my family.

In addition to the news, we also learned more details through other relatives and friends.

The criminal is a typical "infatuated" man and a narrow-minded man. He is not a local, but an acquaintance of the woman when she was working out of town.

The two parties developed into a couple. As the relationship deepened, the woman discovered that the man was lazy and had many bad habits. Marriage was not an option, so she proposed to break up.

After the breakup, the woman went home to work in the fields. The man came to the woman’s house several times to pester her, asking for a reconciliation, but naturally he was rejected.

So, one winter day, the man came to the door again and killed her. The family of four fell in a pool of blood.

Through this incident, I realized that "infatuated" men often do more harm to women than scumbag men.

Such men are often incompetent and have low self-esteem. They bet their lives on love. They have a serious dependence on the woman and a rescue complex. Once they lose her, they feel that the world is falling and their life is meaningless.

This type of men also often have inherent personality flaws that are not easily revealed on weekdays. Only after falling in love and taking off their disguises are they gradually exposed. Girls are easily moved by his "infatuation" at first, and when they get on the pirate ship, they will be frightened by his "infatuation" later on. If they can escape from his grasp, they will be lucky.

Once such men enter into marriage, they are potential perpetrators of domestic violence.

"Infatuated" men are so scary. If you are a girl, you should really have more brains.

First of all, boys who have little love experience, depressed emotions, overly sensitive self-esteem, introverted personality, poor sociability, and tendencies of violence and low self-esteem are often at high risk of suffering from "infatuation". Precisely because they have little experience in love and lack of successful experience in life, they feel like they own the whole world after getting you.

If you fall in love with such a boy, you must always be careful not to destroy his world, otherwise your end will come earlier than his.

For example, Zhou Yan and Tao Rukun.

Secondly, some girls play games with their feelings and love to find spare tires. They use spare tires as a supplement and a cash machine when they are lonely and empty. This kind of game is very dangerous. Once the game is over and the truth comes out, the spare tire will burst.

Those who hurt others will eventually hurt themselves. The reincarnation of cause and effect is very evil.

For example, Shanshan and Xue.

Once again, if you really get on the boat of an "infatuated" man by mistake, when you plan to get off the boat, don't quarrel with the other person, but give the other person enough face. It's best to return the benefits, even if you despise the other person in your heart. Try to keep the other person's emotions within a normal range.

Many tragedies are caused by girls who make each other lose their love and then make them lose face. No matter how wrong the other party is, if you make a mistake once, you will be the one who is cut to pieces.

For example, my distant relative.

When encountering an "infatuated" man, reasoning is useless, think more about routines and wisdom.

Love is really a science. How many young people only long for its beauty, but do not realize that love is one of the original sins of human nature.

How many girls always imagine their love partner as Prince Charming and put forward very high standards and requirements. Little do they know that apart from having a stronger body and the courage to make mistakes, men are no better than you in their hearts. You are stronger, often lonelier and more vulnerable, and they are also ordinary people.

Don’t underestimate a man’s determination to possess you. Princes, generals and ministers who can get whatever they want from women have the courage to think about the world, and they can even become a beauty in anger, let alone an ordinary man like you?

If we lose love, we hope to be compassionate to each other and leave a trace of compassion for each other. Hatred due to love is a bad fate.

Girls are more open-minded than boys when it comes to letting go. I also hope that before you let go, you can use your rationality to correct it, so as not to let the other person sink deeper and deeper into the quagmire of "infatuation", so deep that you can only Only by holding on tight can he save himself.

Sometimes, you fantasize about having the love of "I only have eyes for you", which may not be a good thing for you. The reality is always cold.

Therefore, it is better to be abandoned by a scumbag than to be easily stalked by an "infatuated" man.