Why do men become bad when they are rich?

Xiong Hao, who has been married to his wife for ten years, is a deputy-level civil servant in a government department. He developed very well in his career before he was forty, which is very enviable. However, there are some flaws hidden behind the halo, which starts with Xiong Hao's marriage.

When Xiong Hao was 29 years old, he was just an ordinary clerk who had just been admitted to the civil service for three years. Not only is the salary low, but the work unit is far from the city center and belongs to the lowest-level civil servants. In addition, the family conditions in Xiong Hao are very ordinary, so it is difficult to win in today's rising blind date market.

To this end, Xiong Hao's parents are very puzzled, and they are also actively running for their son's lifelong event. First, they hope that their son will complete the wedding event as soon as possible, and the old man has also made a wish; Secondly, I don't want the jokes in the Eighth Street neighborhood to think that my son can't marry a daughter-in-law.

As a result, with the efforts of parents, Xiong Hao, who was at the bottom of her life, entered the wedding room in a muddle. His wife is three years older than Xiong Da. She is a middle school teacher with an average appearance and a decent figure. To outsiders, the woman is three years older than the man, which may be a weakness, but in the eyes of parents, it is regarded as an advantage. In the words of parents, this is called? Female school girl, holding a gold brick? It indicates that the future marriage will be rich.

Although they are married, their feelings are far from husband and wife. It is said that marriage is the first step to cultivate feelings, but the problem is that feelings are not as simple as marriage. After a year of marriage, Xiong Hao had his own son. He had no feelings for his wife at first, but for the sake of his son's face, he would settle down.

From the second year of marriage, it seems that Xiong Hao's career development has jumped into the fast lane. In less than ten years, he was promoted from an ordinary clerk to a department-level cadre in a government department in the city. Xiong Hao at this time is very different from the original. Nearly forty years old, he is not only successful in his career, but also the most attractive age for men, and naturally there are more women around him.

At this time, looking back at Xiong Hao's wife, she had already turned into a yellow-faced woman, and her original figure was seriously out of shape. Even when husband and wife sometimes appear together in public, Xiong Hao will unconsciously feel that he has been belittled.

The reason why I didn't choose to divorce for so many years is actually very simple, that is, for the children. However, to Xiong Hao's surprise, the child has begun to understand. In the child's mind, his feelings for his mother far exceed those for his father. There is a simple reason. Although the child is young, he can clearly feel the bad things his father did outside and the pain his mother suffered at home.

After his wife filed for divorce, Xiong Hao was not surprised or afraid, because this result was expected as early as expected, which can be said to be in line with Xiong Hao's original intention.

However, what Xiong Hao didn't expect happened one after another. First, after the scandal was exposed, his colleagues and even leaders looked at him differently. Xiong Hao felt that there were always signs of pointing and whispering behind him. Although some things are not mentioned, they will be more uncomfortable in Xiong Hao's mind. Then the custody of his son was awarded to his wife, which made Xiong Hao even more painful, because in his heart, family and marriage were far less important than a biological flesh and blood; Finally, the attitude of parents. Although most parents in the world will forgive their children for any mistakes, such mistakes are often the most difficult scars to heal in the hearts of the elderly.

From the above cases, it can be concluded that what men are really afraid of is not the divorce proposed by their wives, but the attitudes of the following three people:

A. Others: Most men who cheat have a certain identity or a certain material foundation. Although they have long been accustomed to cheating in private outside marriage, no one wants to bring this scandal to the sun. The reason is simple, because they not only want face, but also the dignity of men. Often they don't care about their dirty behavior, but they care about other people's opinions. Even silent eyes sometimes sting their hearts like a sword!

B. Children: The main reason why many marriages on the verge of breaking up can be maintained is that they are worried about their children. The same is true of men who cheat. Maybe they don't care about their wives' feelings, but they must care about their children's attitudes, because they are their hope and support in the future.

C. Old people: When a man cheats, it is not only his wife who is sad, but also his parents. Although they didn't feel the pain directly, they were more sad than their personal experience. Because they not only have to endure the pain caused by negative public opinion, but also bury this pain in their hearts. On the surface, they comfort their children to be open, but their hearts are bleeding. This is great fatherly love and maternal love. I believe that any child with conscience will be moved, cried and blamed for this blood-related love!