What if someone slanders me?

Being slandered, first of all, congratulations, which means that in your circle, you are going up, and you have something he doesn't have. Because there are only two kinds of people who are easily slandered by others.

One is that your advantages and achievements are obviously superior to those around you. For example, if you are prettier than your friends and your income is much higher than those around you, then you will naturally have a lot of gossip.

There is also a kind of life that is particularly simple and virtuous, and I don't want to go with the flow with people around me. The more prominent you are in the crowd, the more you will be vilified. Jealousy slanders people who are better than themselves, which is inherently evil. You can't change others by force, you can only change your own coping style.

First of all, after being slandered, the stupidest thing to do is to tear X and prove yourself! ! Because people who tear in public generally don't look for others to speak ill of you behind your back, so if you look for him to tear, he will certainly pretend to be innocent, and the public is always more inclined to the weak. Not only will you be angry, but you will also be regarded as a joke by onlookers.

Don't expect public justice. In front of gossip, most people have no ability to think and distinguish independently, just a mob. Never quarrel, it is useless to waste time and energy on worthless quarrels. Since it's slander, there's no need to prove your innocence. Why do you have to prove what you already have ~

There are two advanced ways to deal with slander, and I will teach you by hand.

1, the more people speak ill of you, the more you speak well of him.

People's instinct is to eliminate noise and prefer people who make their ears comfortable. An interesting phenomenon in psychology is that how you evaluate and define a person will largely determine how others evaluate you.

Imagine that someone around you is idle every day, and people who talk behind his back often praise him. Whose pattern is obvious at a glance. The general has a sword, but he doesn't kill grass flies! This is a soldier who defeats others without fighting.

2. If you can't swallow your pride and have a bad temper, try to be arrogant.

When you are slandered, what you lack is not innocence, but tenacity. The more you are slandered, the more you do what he slandered you a thousand times. The purpose is to let the rumor maker know that even so, he can't treat you like a G! Let people know that you are not easy to mess with, but also protect your reputation. People are often ridiculed by others, which is their own advantage.

If a precious mother is told that she doesn't care about her family because she is fighting for her career, she will work hard until the gap between her and others is big enough that she can't hear the noisy voice. Defamation itself is a kind of hope and the only way for us to move forward. Accept the facts, be tempered, and respond with wisdom.