Zhang Ailing's "The Story of the Golden Lock": What are the three characteristics of a woman who has been short of love for a long time and cannot hide it?

It is said that a pampered woman is as docile as a kitten. A woman needs to be pampered. The more pampered she is, the more adorable and charming she will be.

But not every woman is deeply loved.

Society is very realistic. Some women have developed a low self-esteem and cowardly character since they were young. When they grow up, they hide their love in a box and carefully test the outside world. When they meet A little bit of things that she felt were dangerous, she hid again.

It can be said that love can nourish a woman. A woman nourished by love has a love and satisfaction for life, and is independent and self-motivated.

And those women who have been lacking love for a long time, no matter how they pretend, cannot hide these three characteristics in their bones:

01 Because of the unsatisfactory life, they become grumpy

The novella "The Story of the Golden Lock" included in "Love in a Fallen City" tells the story of a man who married a disabled man for money. Due to long-term depression and depression, he finally became psychologically distorted and did not hesitate to destroy The story of a woman whose daughter is happy.

Indeed, Cao Qiqiao is not a good woman. Her life was a complete tragedy, and it was her lack of love that led to her badness.

Qiqiao is a woman who has been changed by life. Her family is a small merchant who runs a sesame oil shop. Her family is more than adequate. If she married an ordinary family, she should be happy, but she just I want to marry into a wealthy family like Jiang Mansion.

Actually, Qiqiao was able to marry into Jiang Mansion and become the headmistress, not because of her extraordinary beauty, but because the second young master of Jiang Mansion was disabled.

In a portal like Jiang Mansion, the maids inside are all well-educated and sensible. How could Qi Qiao, who lives in such a small family, look up to her? Behind her back, they all laugh at her for speaking and acting in a manner that is not up to standard.

Qiqiao speaks so straightforwardly that the girls who have received good tutoring are blushing and are even less willing to associate with her. Since then, she has no love from her husband and no friends around her who can talk to her. .

As a result, Qiqiao, who was broken and broken, became more and more irritable. If others deliberately looked down on her, she would speak more harshly. Those gentle girls were no match for her.

It was precisely because of her unhappiness in the Jiang Mansion that Qiqiao's personality changed. She, who was originally careless, became grumpy and started to curse whenever she didn't go her way.

In real life, observation can reveal that women who are surrounded by love always speak and act gently and decently, and will not lose their temper easily. Even if they are dissatisfied, they will not express it in unpleasant words. come out.

As for those women who have been short of love for a long time, because of the unsatisfactory life and long-term depression, their tempers have become violent, and they often get angry and throw things. It seems that only in this way can they find some sense of existence.

02 Long-term lack of love will make people become selfish

The less a person has, the less willing he is to share what he has with others, just like Seven skillful.

Her husband is a disabled person who cannot take care of himself. In Jiang Mansion, everyone looks down on her because she comes from a small family, and they even laugh at this woman behind her back who is willing to marry a disabled woman for money.

The lack of love will make her look for love. She fell in love with her brother-in-law Jize and kept trying to hook up with him. However, the brother-in-law had a thief heart but not the courage. He was just after her money.

At the beginning, Qiqiao was willing to pretend to be confused because she just wanted someone who loved her.

Just like what is written in the article, "He is not a good person, and she doesn't know it. If she wants him, she has to pretend to be confused, and she has to tolerate his badness."

But. The wealth after the separation made Qiqiao become selfish. Wealth can make people greedy. She would rather not have this false love. She wanted to keep her wealth, so she drove away her former lover.

She does all kinds of bad things just to satisfy her own short-term happiness. She bases her happiness on the pain of others, which can be said to be extremely selfish.

She is a pitiful and hateful woman. Fate was unfair to her, but she intensified her efforts to harm the people around her, which also made her ending even more tragic.

It is not difficult to find that the more a woman lacks love, the more selfish, selfish and unloved she is.

This is like a vicious circle, trapping women in a perfect closed loop.

No one will love a woman who is so selfish that she only cares about herself and money, and no one is willing to give his sincerity to a woman who only cares about money.

So, a woman who lacks love and is selfish can only drift away on the road of loneliness.

03 Being in misfortune made her jealous of everyone around her

Being in this kind of environment lacking love for a long time made Qiqiao's psychology distorted, and she couldn't see anyone. Better off than she is, even if that person is her daughter.

She had her biological daughter's feet bound and prevented her from going to school. She had already suffered a lot, but her daughter was looked down upon by others just like her, and she became a joke in the family.

When her daughter was sick, she did not seek medical treatment, but let her take opium. Others tried to dissuade her, but she felt that her family was rich and could afford it, so she let her daughter become addicted to opium. .

This kind of mother is more terrifying than the evil-minded stepmother. Although she is her own biological mother, she pushes Chang'an into the endless abyss and can never turn over.

After harming his own daughter, he did not spare his son's family. His son Changbai also got into the habit of smoking. The daughter-in-law could not stand such a mother-in-law, so she committed suicide by swallowing opium. .

Her own unhappiness made her unable to see others living better than her, which ruined the originally happy family. This terrible jealousy also harmed herself.

Admit it, there is no absolute fairness in this world, and everyone is born differently, but in fact, you only need to focus on yourself in your lifetime.

Jealousy is a negative emotion that is very harmful to oneself. It affects people not only physically, but also psychologically.

When the heart is filled with jealousy, the human heart cannot see the light of this world, and is like the Seven Skills, living in darkness.

Cao Qiqiao, described by Zhang Ailing, is pitiful and pathetic, extreme and ignorant.

Although others criticized her background, as long as she could get rid of her vulgar language, others would be willing to make friends with her.

Faced with other people's well-intentioned advice, she not only refused to listen, but also made harsh remarks, which made her increasingly unpopular with others.

In fact, if she can learn the rules well and give her husband due respect even if he is disabled, then she should be able to feel a little happiness in her marriage.

But she always regards her husband as a piece of rotten meat, looks down on him, disrespects him, let alone love. If she doesn't give, how can she get anything in return?

From the beginning, everyone just thought that she spoke a little inappropriately, but later she started to go crazy. Opium harmed herself and her family.

The desire for love in her heart was not met, and the lack of love made her heart numb. She only saw money and no light in her eyes. She was destined to live in the darkness without any light. No respect or love from anyone.