Which words from your loved ones particularly chilled you?

My parents are divorced. Under their influence, I have always been afraid of getting married. I kept putting it off until I was 29 years old. I couldn’t put it off any longer, so I got married as soon as I closed my eyes! Flash forward to a scumbag who cheated on her during pregnancy and had to give birth to the child because she was too old! I have been at home all the time. In fact, after I found out that I was being cheated, I pretended to be strong during the day and cried alone at night. The pressure from my family was so great that most of them tried to persuade me to forgive. For the sake of the child who was about to be born, I endured it. They refused to let go and insisted that they must get a divorce. In fact, I didn't dare to tell them that the mistress outside the scumbag was also pregnant, and she was three months behind me! I can't open my mouth to tell them! I have been putting up with it, and now that my child is three years old, I haven’t said anything! This period is really hard! They can't understand me! From then on, I lost the love of my father and my mother. Fortunately, they only had my son in their hearts~ It was typical that they felt that the big one was no longer useful and they had to play the trumpet! It hurts a lot both verbally and mentally! He has called me all kinds of nasty words! I endured it all. From the day after the caesarean section to the second day, if the doctor hadn’t told my mother, she wouldn’t have helped me wash my lower body! When the doctor examined her, he was so angry that he thought she was my mother-in-law! I couldn't see the wound for caesarean section, so I asked her to apply medicine for me, but it turned into suppuration and the wound split open. During the confinement period, she held the baby on the bed at night and ordered me to get out of bed to get water to wash the baby's butt and change urine. If it doesn’t get wet, just rinse with water and mix milk powder to feed the baby! On the first day after confinement, I was asked to do laundry and work. The next day, I was told that others said that I had no milk and could not feed the baby at home, so I was considered useless and asked me to go out to work! What I said is what others said is actually what you said yourself, right? She is silent! I shamelessly stayed at home for another month before going out to work. I couldn't stand being scolded by her every day! I would rather leave my son and go out to work! There are also many words she said that could pierce the heart! I can't help but remember!

My mother remarried when I was six years old because she had a bad temper with my father, and we had no contact with her since. Even though my aunt's house is very close to my home, she has not visited me again for more than ten years. I once tried to write her a note and asked my cousin to bring it to her, but there was no reply. It wasn’t until I was able to do so after I went to college that I found her. I usually save money so that I can buy more things to visit her during the holidays. No matter what, she will always be my mother. Without her, I wouldn't be here.

She also lived a very unhappy life in her second marriage. The man was not very capable. Although he was much older than her in the first marriage, his mother gave birth to a girl for him. Her mother-in-law and husband were very serious about favoring boys over girls. They all despised her and even said that the girl was not his child, and quarreling and scolding were commonplace. Despite this, the mother endured the humiliation of her little daughter and lived a manly life, growing and selling vegetables from dawn to dusk. My mother cried with snot and tears when she told me these things. I knew that she was too wronged. She had been holding it in for so many years and no one could listen to her. I secretly made up my mind at that time, no matter what happened in the past, I would do my best to love her in the future.

One winter, she suffered from facial paralysis and could not be cured. The man ignored her and refused to let her light the stove to keep warm. He even cut off the electricity at home when he saw my mother using an electric blanket. As soon as I found out, I took her to my city. I tried every method I could find, whether it was traditional Chinese medicine or acupuncture, and she was finally cured. About five years later, my mother was diagnosed with heart disease in her hometown. I took her here decisively and went to several hospitals to take X-rays, electrocardiograms, angiograms, and various tests. The final test results were as I expected. It was really a false alarm. Field, it’s not that serious. The doctor said that my heart is fine, but there is plaque in the arteries in my neck. I just need to pay more attention to my diet and maintain a good attitude. At that time, my eldest son had just entered elementary school and the second son was just over one year old. I had always taken care of them myself. My mother was going back to her hometown the day after the examination. I said to my mother, that uncle has always treated you badly and always quarreled when he went back. Please stay here longer and help me by the way. But my mother said: No matter how nice your place is, it’s still not my home. I’d better go back tomorrow.

I saw this question yesterday. I thought no one here knew me and wanted to vent my emotions. I didn’t want to attract my friends’ attention. Thank you for your support.)

When I was five years old, it was the twelfth lunar month. It was freezing cold, and when my biological father was seriously ill and about to die, it was late at night and everyone was asleep. My father asked me to call my grandparents to come to the bedside. I wanted to leave a last message to my grandparents and ask them to take care of me. Focus on us orphans and widowed mothers. Now I clearly remember that I stood in front of my grandparents’ window and told them that my father was dying and wanted to see them. But my cruel grandma directly said: Don’t I shouted, your grandparents are dead. No matter how much I cried, they never went to see my father for the last time! My father's funeral expenses were all borrowed by my mother from people in the village, and none of my uncles were willing to help us, for fear that we wouldn't be able to pay back the money!

When I was 30 years old, my daughter was 7 years old. Because she and my wife had a different personality before, she was often moody and lost her temper at every turn. Her life was full of contradictions. I couldn’t bear it that day, so I want to have a deep talk with my wife and solve the problems between us with her, because in the past few years I have always felt that human hearts are full of flesh. As long as I am more patient and tolerant towards her, she will one day I will repent, but in the end I was defeated by the saying that a country can be changed easily, but a person's nature cannot be changed! When it came to the end, my wife said: "If you give up on this, I will never change my personality for you in this life, even if I get divorced!" At that moment, I was really discouraged and exhausted! But for the sake of my children, I don’t want to divorce casually. I always feel that divorce is a disservice to my children, her parents and my mother! At that moment, I really burst into tears right in front of her. I have never cried like that since the day I became sensible. In the next more than two months, I had insomnia every night. I closed my eyes and waited for dawn, and then had to go to work early in the morning. During that period, my hair suddenly turned a lot whiter. I used to think that graying my hair overnight was a joke, but that day I realized that it was all true!

We have been married for 15 years now, and I have never seen my wife ever give in to me or be humble to me. I wonder if I am really stupid for being so persistent!

Look at the pictures and tell the story!

Family love is both great and small!

My grandma and my aunt.

I just started an internship in the company in September last year (I accumulated credits from my fifth year of college). I had no performance in the first two months. Starting from the third month, my monthly salary plus performance was more than 2,000. Last month I got my diploma and became a full-time employee this month. The above background

First time: In late October last year, I took my first salary and went to a milk tea shop to buy a cup of milk tea to take away. Then I got a call and went to my grandparents’ house. Have dinner. I went there with milk tea. After the meal, I took a sip of milk tea and choked before drinking it. My grandma said, "I use my dad's money to buy junk food" (emphasis on ""). After I recovered, Full face? I admit that I eat junk food, but I don’t feel happy if my father pays for food. Then my grandma told me all kinds of things and asked me to hand over my monthly salary to my dad. I asked why? I was criticized because my father has raised me for twenty years. What, give the money to my dad to buy a drink? (Note: My dad often goes out to drink with friends)

The second time: Around November last year, my aunt had a little money and often went out to travel, and sometimes brought me some souvenirs. I once went to Japan and brought two boxes of raw chocolate and a box of Shiroi Koibito cookies. Later, my aunt asked me if I should bring something to my aunt when I became rich, and I said I would definitely do so (but my financial level would not allow me to go abroad, and I made it clear). As a result, my aunt felt that I would definitely not bring good souvenirs to her unless I went abroad, and then she gave me a gesture of giving her money. My face is full again? When bringing souvenirs or snacks, do you only consider the price and not your financial ability or desire?

My parents favor sons over daughters. Because I gave birth to several daughters. I don’t have a son, so I adopted a son when I was four years old. My parents always quarreled when I was little. After we had a fight, my mother took out her anger on me. Hit me and scold me. What impressed me most was calling me a bitch. Call me a bitch or a bitch. I was only eight or nine years old at the time. He has a please-pleaser personality at a young age. Sometimes it sweeps the floor.

Kicked me to the ground. He stepped hard on my hand with his foot. As a result, I have a submissive personality. timid. When I was ten years old, I couldn't bear this kind of frightening life. I was so stressed that I started wetting the bed. Can't control it. Got beaten many times. I was kicked to the ground in the middle of winter, and I was scared. I dare not sleep every day. But I still wet the bed. Then was humiliated. Being laughed at by siblings. Later the doctor said it was an illness. The pressure is too much. Then they started giving me medicine. I took Chinese medicine for a year and got better. Because during the busy farming season. Conflicts between adults. My mother is in the fields. Turn your anger on me. Beat me hard with a straw. I fell. Still whip me. All my relatives in the field look at me. I didn't know what I did wrong at the time. I'm so ashamed. They fought every night when they were twelve. I huddled in the quilt and cried. Afraid of getting angry at me. I also had to take care of my brother at that time. You have to cook for yourself every day. Cabbage and potatoes every day. And my brother can have mutton soup. Eat meatloaf. And pocket money. They speak. Don't treat your children badly. Make sure your children are well fed. But they forget that I am only twelve years old. I saw people eating. I tried my best to suppress myself. Just say I don’t like to eat. I bought the mutton soup for the boys to drink. Girls are useless. While eating. Four people in the family. My father and brother both drink mutton soup. Especially my brother's meat is full. I dare not say. My mom said give her some. My dad said girls can’t drink this. I suppressed myself. Say I don't want it. Then no one gave me food again. My younger brother is spoiled rotten. Always hit me. Fight to the death. I am a girl and have weak strength. Can't beat him. Always let him hit. I'll run. Run next to my dad and let him take care of me. My father was blind and pretended not to see me. My brother got even more enthusiastic and knocked me to the ground and hammered me hard. I'll go tell my mother. My mother scolded me. Useless. Let me not tell her. He deserves to be beaten to death. Who made me useless? A pile of straw near my home at that time. Stack of firewood. They are all my hiding places. The toothache is terrible. He didn't take me to the doctor either. Will find remedies. It hurt so much that I cried in the middle of the night. I went to the bedside to cry before they took me to the hospital. I went to the doctor and he said the whole tooth was eaten by worms. So awesome. Why did you come? The doctor treated the tooth that day. Go home. I said I would come here in a few days. Didn't eat for a day. Very hungry. My dad actually bought sweets and snacks. I know my tooth hurts like this. Buy sweet snacks. Give it to me. I didn't eat. Went home hungry. I went to the hospital again in a few days. My dad didn’t ride a bike. Just be the town bus. I've never done a bus. My dad got on the bus and found a seat by himself. I couldn't stand firm when I went up. As soon as the bus leaves. He left me ahead. It was someone who helped me up. My dad was rock solid at that. I had to find a corner by myself. Holding something by yourself. Then my brother had a toothache. My parents took me to the hospital for dental treatment without saying a word. After my dental surgery, I took my brother to a restaurant in the county town. What to eat. What to buy. My idea at that time was that I wanted to grow up. Must grow up. Leave this patriarchal home. Later we grew up. My brother has fallen. Once I saw a man on TV who was unwilling to make progress. Spend all day online. I just joked, brother, don’t do this. Just this sentence. The next day he stole my parents' money. Go out and be cool. My mother scolded me and humiliated me. I'm sorry for saying this. They all blame me. Call me cheap. He said that my phone deserved to be thrown by his son. It felt so chilling at that time. I've made all the money for you. You still scolded me. Humiliate me. Maybe grown up. His character also became stronger. They started scolding each other directly. My dad always says I don’t work as well as boys. The boy is energetic. But he forgot. His son refused to pay. I'm bored. I will hand over part of my salary. Later, my personality became more and more strong. Start to suppress them. It could also be that they are old. I started to reflect on myself. After all, I was born ten months into their pregnancy. Later I got married. Had a baby. I have always shielded myself from the harm caused to me by my family of origin. Sometimes I always burst into tears when I think back on it.

Chilling. .

You only feel cold when the person closest to you hurts me. I was heartbroken by my parents. I am more than 10 years older than my brother. I am doing business with my husband in Nanjing. Last year, my son was two and a half years old, and my father insisted on letting me My younger brother went to Nanjing to study with me. My husband found someone, treated me, spent money, gave gifts, and made arrangements without saying a word. My mother said very well, she will give it to us for every penny she spends. It has been a year now. They don't give it, and they always ask me to borrow money. It's not easy for my parents to give birth to me and raise me, so it doesn't matter. I will do whatever I can and never ask them to pay back money or anything. But they took it for granted. When they found out that I was late for cooking, they called me and asked why I hadn't cooked yet. His son was hungry. My husband and I had a treat. My brother hadn't finished his homework and I had to make the noodles. , tell him to eat. He is a third-grade child. He can do it at home. In my hometown, my mother used to leave him alone every day. The two of us at home went out to eat and drink. But it wouldn’t be possible for me. Why didn’t I take my son with me? I was starving to death at home. I said I wanted to treat him. He was doing his homework at home and made food for him. Hehe, what did people say? He asked me to bring food back to his son quickly. I originally asked others to do things. What do you think? Fortunately, I didn't care about anyone else during the meal. During the two-hour meal, I made 4 phone calls. A few days ago, my brother fell behind in his studies. I was 4 months pregnant and the fetus was unstable. I couldn't be angry. I called them to tell them about this. My dad directly criticized me and said, "You won't teach him more and more slowly." I told him that I was on the verge of telling him that one plus one equals two, but he didn't listen to me at all. He slapped me and made me so angry that I started crying. His son was cooking, and my husband called me and heard something was wrong with my voice. He asked me what was wrong but I didn’t dare to say anything. He guessed that he was angry with my parents, so he discussed it with me and said that I was pregnant now and my eldest son was still young. , without the help of the elderly, he went out to earn money, and I couldn’t take care of myself. I also had a three-year-old child, plus my brother. I couldn’t bear it. I wanted to discuss with my mother and others to let my brother transfer back, but They won't let me take care of them at all, but they should let me take care of them as a matter of course. Last year, I had a second child who had a miscarriage in her third trimester. My husband would not let me do anything. My parents called me one after another and ordered me to do this and that for their son. I was so angry that I cried many times. Having said so much, I feel much happier. No matter how helpless or disappointed I am, it’s my parents after all, so just bear with it.

Before we got married, my parents told my husband’s family: We don’t want any betrothal gifts. If we ask for a betrothal gift, we will buy things for your new home as a dowry. You can just buy whatever you need at home! At that time, I also felt that my parents were enlightened and gave them all the money they earned, hoping to use it for a banquet. My husband also felt that his mother-in-law was really happy. After buying the house in full and renovating it, and buying all the furniture and appliances, he felt that it was unreasonable not to give her a wedding gift, so he thought of giving her 60,000 yuan. As a result, my parents quit the job, saying that other people’s marriages required a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and our girls couldn’t get any less! Well, my husband’s family borrowed money to raise enough money for a gift of 100,000 yuan to give to my parents! When I got married, I was the one who came here, without any dowry, and all my family and my husband's family were emptied out.

Later, I gave birth to a child, and my mother came the night after I was discharged from the hospital. At that time, my wound was so painful that I didn’t want to talk and couldn’t eat. She didn’t care at all. I paid a bride price of 150,000 yuan and bought the woman a diamond ring worth more than 10,000 yuan! It means that I still think my husband didn’t give me enough betrothal gifts! I thought to myself at the time: You saw how much the bride was given as a bride price, why couldn’t you see the dowry given by the woman? The words didn't come out, and I felt so chilled at the time! I just paid off the 100,000 yuan wedding debt in the second year of my marriage. My natal brother is going to buy a house, but my parents still have the nerve to call me and ask me to borrow money! When I said I had no money, people were still not happy! The fact is that we really have no money, and the debt of 100,000 yuan was paid off with the help of my father-in-law and mother-in-law. And they don’t care at all what kind of life I live after I get married. They plundered everything before the marriage, and now they still have the nerve to borrow money. Money, even if I had money, I wouldn't be stupid enough to give it to them! These are my parents!

I remember when I was sick and undergoing chemotherapy, my father-in-law said to his son: Whatever you do, you are doing it for the devil! This sentence makes me very chill... It is also because of this sentence that my husband had an idea and almost stopped me from walking out. During the six months of illness and chemotherapy, I matured and grew up and understood the warmth and warmth of the world...

I want to say that as a father-in-law, it is definitely wrong to say this. It is too selfish. Do you just conclude that I will die? It's a pity that I'm still alive! You should encourage your son. My sick son is also at a low point. The words of his parents are to encourage his son to think about the good things, not to add insult to injury! I no longer hate everything in the past because I have recovered my health! I got through it on my own...

I am a silly daughter-in-law and a silly daughter-in-law. My father-in-law has not treated him badly in the past few years and I have always done my duty for his son. No. I care about him, because after all, I am getting older, and I also have my old days. Sometimes it is not that I can't be cruel, but that I can't bear to be cruel! Be a kind-hearted person and I believe you will be rewarded! As for her husband, he is also making money for the sake of the children, so he doesn't care about it...take good care of yourself, do what you can to the best of your ability, and give your children a complete home is enough!

The most chilling thing to say when calling a relative is "What's going on?" Especially when the elderly call their children, they just want to ask for safety and say a few words. Can't they listen patiently? The old man's mouth was blocked by just "what happened"!