A joke made my husband furious. Am I wrong?

You think this is a joke. In your husband's opinion, it may not be a joke. It is possible to talk about his pain. That doesn't mean you are wrong. Don't make too many jokes, but say the right things at the right time. There is a saying like this: "East and west seas can be eaten indiscriminately, and words can't be said indiscriminately." No matter who you talk to.