What are some very creative self-introductions?

Let’s talk about how to introduce yourself from several aspects:

1. Information is a brand

You should treat your information as personal Brand design, rather than just making it a business card or a resume. This means you need to maximize your uniqueness and do your best to attract the people you want to attract. When writing information, many people will try to include various recognized characteristics and expertise. The result is that everyone is gentle, considerate, reliable and progressive, and all their hobbies are food photography, travel and sports.

Although your information will be seen by many people, it does not mean that you are obligated to ensure that everyone who sees it will like it. In fact, if you introduce yourself with the mentality of pleasing everyone, you will make yourself uncharacteristic. This is just like when Hermès promotes its new bags, it will definitely not say that our bags are well designed, can hold a lot of things, and are very durable. Why not? Because Hermès needs a few people who are passionate about the brand and like it unconditionally to buy it, instead of attracting the majority of people who come for practicality.

So when writing information, you should think carefully about what kind of people you want to attract, and then see what kind of people your current information can attract. The clearer your self-understanding and the clearer your expectations for an ideal partner, the more targeted the information you write will be, and the more responses you will get will meet your needs. On the other hand, if you just feel that you are old and lonely, and hope to find someone who can give you warmth, who doesn't feel the pressure of age, who doesn't feel lonely, and who doesn't want someone to accompany you? So there will be many people coming to you, but they are not coming to you because they think they are a match for you, but just because you happen to be looking for someone. The result of such a relationship is that you will find all kinds of dissatisfaction in the relationship, dislike, the points that each other values ????are not echoed, etc., and then they will definitely break up.

Let’s go back to the current information writing. Please always remember that you want to establish a brand, not simply introduce yourself. The kind of people you need to attract need to be reflected through your materials. The more specific and targeted the better the results!

2. How to write the title?

Now that you know that your information is your brand, you need to find the best title to reflect your brand. A title like "Gentle, virtuous, good girl, loves food and travel" is equivalent to changing Nike's slogan "Just do it" to "Our shoes are suitable for sports", which shows that it has unclear positioning and no characteristics. , and at the same time, it also makes those who really agree with you and appreciate you lose interest in understanding you.

The slogan of the Chinese version of Business Weekly is “Lead, don’t follow”, rather than emphasizing that our magazine covers all aspects of politics, economy, culture and society. There are many magazines covering a wide range of topics, but I find that Shang Zhou's ability to observe the latest trends is world-class, and this is what I need most. So even though I'm not particularly interested in financial and business information, I would be happy to look for exciting things that are going to happen in the future.

A good title is not to make yourself look perfect, but to give others a reason to fall in love with you. What reason are you willing to give others to fall in love with you?

Some of my suggestions:

Use a short motto: Choose an expression that represents your overall thoughts on life or emotional outlook, and it will be more effective if it has a relatively high posture and attitude. In the past, I saw better posts, such as "My life is experience-oriented rather than result-oriented", such as "Love is not everything in my life, but I am willing to devote my whole life to love."

Quote allusions from literary and artistic works: If you are particularly fond of a certain sentence or a character and think it represents your emotional outlook, you can also use it. Close lovers tend to interpret things and understand emotions from very similar perspectives, so this can be a good test. For example, if I am a slow but persistent and passionate person, I can refer to the plot of "This Killer Is Not Too Cold" or even the title of the movie itself.

Don’t waste words on introducing your hobbies and experiences. Where to study abroad and what you like to do, these are the things you can see in detail when you click on your page. It is not cost-effective to occupy the title.

Personally, I think statements that are more expressive, have clear and even strong opinions are more likely to arouse people's interest. For example, "Either love deeply or be single forever" may sound exaggerated, but this way of expression is much more impactful than "Sincerely looking for a partner to live a long life together".

3. How to choose photos?

My suggestion for choosing photos is "three yeses and three nos"

One clear frontal photo: This is very important, so that people can see your appearance clearly, no matter how you look. Well, don't shy away from this. Avoid clothing that is too thick, don’t wear sunglasses or hats, etc., don’t use your hair as a cover, and don’t use backlight or shadows. You don’t want everyone to say you are good-looking, you just want people who like your appearance to discover you. Another angle gives a clear frontal photo, which also makes people feel that they understand and trust you better.

Of course, from a technical point of view, don’t take a frontal photo too close to the camera, otherwise your face will be deformed. In addition, you can also have some clear photos of your face from different angles, so that readers can have a more three-dimensional and clear understanding of your image. Please try to choose photos with normal or relatively cheerful expressions. Never look serious, unsmiling, tired or too funny.

Second, take a full-body photo: Don’t hide your height, shortness, fatness, body measurements, etc. If your body shape is your advantage, be sure to show it as much as possible. If you are not so confident about your body, at least show it objectively and without concealment. In fact, not all men like tall models, and not all women like muscular men. How about your style, let the people who will really like you in the end see clearly. You can combine full-body photos with half-length photos, and choose a variety of clothing. Different clothes can reflect different characteristics of your figure.

Three personality photos: This seems not difficult for many people. Travel photos are mainstream, but not everyone thinks that travel is about personality, or what people see more from travel photos is The personality of the places you visit, not your own personality. I think a good personality photo is a moment captured while you are doing something you like and are good at, or a personality expressed through the interpretation of your own body. In other words, the expression of personality needs to come from your state and behavior in the photo, not the surrounding environment.

Photos that show sincerity and trust: including photos taken casually with a mobile phone, unclear photos with low pixels or out of focus, photos where faces cannot be seen clearly or people feel they can be covered up, staged photos Photos with obvious intentions, photos with poor lighting or at night, and artistic photos with too heavy clothing. In short, the photo quality should be as high as possible to make people feel that you take this matter seriously. Nowadays, there are so many friends who love photography. Just ask one of them to take some personal photos for you. It’s okay to spend a little money, because the applications of photos are very wide. Trust me, good photos will skyrocket your attention rate.

Second, photos with no unfavorable image: This mainly includes photos of someone deliberately posting photos that are self-deprecating, funny, or vilifying themselves. Another situation is to post a photo with someone else, and the person in the photo with you is prettier than you. So it’s best to take all the photos alone.

Three pictures without anyone: Some people like to show off their photography, their own cooking or other things. My understanding is that if the content of such photos has nothing to do with you and is not made by you, then you should not post it. It is better to hold the dishes or objects you cook in your hands and take pictures of them, so that people can more easily associate the beautiful things with you.

4. How to introduce personal experience?

The purpose of introducing personal experience is not to let others know all the details of your life. The same as before, the purpose should be to make people interested in you and see clearly your most distinctive aspects. . This is just like if you were asked to introduce Apple, you would definitely focus on the few products that define the Apple brand, instead of wasting your time on going through the complete development process of this company. So in your life experiences, which ones define you as a person? These experiences should be what you focus on. No matter how experienced you are, you still need to make choices, because only with choices can there be a point.

When describing your experience in detail, please make sure that your description follows the F-T-F principle. The first F is facts, which is to explain clearly what happened.

The second T is thinking, which means that you need to give some opinions and understandings of this experience. By explaining these understandings, others can understand your way of thinking and values, and can also be touched by your unique inner world. The third F is feeling, which means you should intersperse your own emotions and feelings during the description process. This description method can allow readers to experience your experience more vividly, thereby gaining more praise.

5. How to introduce hobbies?

Similar to personal experience, this section does not require you to list all your hobbies, because the more hobbies a person has, the better. Young people in big cities all have similar interests and hobbies, so to attract attention by emphasizing diversity, horizontal comparison is not necessarily the best way. The purpose of introducing hobbies is to let others get to know you through the things you like and are good at, so I suggest choosing 2-3 hobbies that you like the most, persist for the longest, or are best at.

The things a person loves can very much reflect the nature of that person, so before you write this part, you can also take the time to think about what qualities in your heart the things you love echo. , orientation or characteristics. What do these things mean to you, what do they bring to you, and what changes do they make you. When you think deeply about the relationship between what you do and yourself, the introduction you write will not make people think that your greatest feature is "wide range of interests and hobbies", because in my opinion, wide range of interests and hobbies is the most important thing. There are no special features anymore.

Take myself as an example. The sports I love test my perseverance (Muay Thai, long-distance running, rock climbing), because perseverance has been my shortcoming since childhood, because I need to learn to transform my dissatisfaction and inferiority complex. Become a revolutionary explosive power, because you need to constantly convince yourself to persevere when you are about to give up, because when your body is close to its limit, you will forget the existence of the world, pay 100% attention and listen to your inner voice, because every time you break through the limit, you will rediscover yourself. , the process of understanding yourself. If you take what you do seriously to this extent, what others will see is no longer just what you love to do, but the various rich expressions of your personality and heart.

6. How to introduce personality and concepts?

The biggest problem most people make in this section is using too many tags. For example, girls like to say that they are kind, gentle, and considerate, while boys like to say that they are cheerful, motivated, and sunny. Personally, I don’t particularly recommend using labels, because labels tend to prevent people from seeing the truth. When you say you are kind, do you mean that you have a good temper, a sense of justice, or are you compassionate? Everyone’s understanding of labels is different. Too many labels make people’s impression of you vague, thus reducing their interest.

The best way to let others understand your personality and ideas more clearly is to describe it through behavior and choices. In this regard, a very convenient way is to integrate this part into the introduction of personal experience. For example, if you are very kind because you often see beggars who have nothing to eat when you walk on the street, you will buy two sandwiches, one for each person, and sit with them to eat. Such kindness is very vivid in the eyes of readers.

I have another opinion about personality and self-introduction. Don’t blindly talk about yourself. Although we want others to see the best in us, a person who seems to have no flaws in his character will make people feel unreal. It is even said that sometimes a person's flaws are what make that person cute and interesting. I suggest that you appropriately disclose some of your character weaknesses or shortcomings when introducing your personality. Doing so will actually make you appear more sincere and trustworthy.

How to disclose? First of all, you are definitely not asked to simply say that you are not good. Just like when you answer questions about the reasons for leaving your job or past failures during the interview, points will be deducted just for exposing your shortcomings. One way is that you can show it in a self-deprecating way. Self-deprecation reflects self-confidence and self-acceptance. This method is suitable for some small problems, such as being unable to resist cheesecake. For example, the motivation to do a comprehensive house cleaning often comes from An extremely messy room.

Another way is to explore some of your own weaknesses and talk about your attitude, experiences, and future plans when facing yourself that is not good enough.

The advantage of doing this is that it reflects your seriousness and honesty about personal growth, your clear self-understanding, your positive and unique perspective on problems, and it also allows people to see your progress and unremitting efforts. For example, you can say that you are a naturally pessimistic person. This is related to your growth experience and personality. Although I have been experiencing a lot of depression and negative emotions because of my pessimism, my heart has gradually become tougher. I have learned to discover the beauty of the world from the perspective of a pessimist, and I also appreciate those who are equally pessimistic but never give up. people.

7. How to introduce emotional concepts and mate selection expectations?

Similar to that part of personality, many people like to use many labels for their emotional concepts and expectations in mate selection, such as single-mindedness, enthusiasm, spiritual communication, and communication; they hope to find sincerity, considerateness, and good communication. The other half of serious life. Too many people have used these expressions, so they have become useless language. Just like the word "haha" was originally used to express pleasure, but after being abused by everyone, it became a perfunctory way of saying "you can get out". .

The best way to explain how you are in relationships is to use stories and experiences. People have different understandings of concepts, but behavior is the clearest way to reflect it, so using specific behaviors to demonstrate abstract qualities is the best way to ensure the effectiveness of communication. In my private dating classes, I also teach everyone how to better express and promote themselves. A student once said that she hopes to find someone with whom we can grow old together. After some training from me, she changed her way of expression to this:

Before my grandfather passed away, he was lying on the hospital bed and holding my grandmother’s hand and said: “I have had many quarrels and conflicts with you in my life, but if I could choose again, I would still do it. Choose to live this life with you." What I want is this kind of love without regrets.

Nothing expresses yourself clearly and moves readers more clearly than a wonderful story. Of course, I'm not saying that you should ignore all the specific and realistic requirements, but I'm just saying that when you list various labels, you can add more things that are more humane and make people want to fall in love with you more after reading it.

All the above opinions are strongly personal. To find a good partner, you must have good self-awareness and positioning. If you don't understand yourself, you won't be able to find someone who understands you and is compatible with you. I believe everyone has already felt this when preparing their own materials. So on the one hand, we need to use smarter ways to describe ourselves, on the other hand, reading more, thinking, and cultivating ourselves are the long-term solutions.