Will those "smart and self-loving" girls stop in time when they find themselves in love with a family?

I saw a strange woman's post on the Internet. She asked the netizens for advice because of her emotional problems.

The problem she described is very long, with thousands of words. Let me sum it up. It is such a story.

She is divorced and now has a 3-year-old daughter, about two years ago. She met a man because of her work, and they admired each other.

I have known each other for about half a year and have been together.

But there is a problem here: he has a family. On the surface, the family is still very happy, with a virtuous wife and a daughter who is almost 4 years old.

At first, she said that she didn't think so much and didn't want to destroy his old family, but she was happier with him, so she stayed with him all the time.

In her eyes, he also loves himself.

She said that in about half a month, he would find various reasons to accompany her. At other times, when he comes home, two people have an appointment, and she can't call him or send a text message.

Gradually, she is no longer satisfied with this state and will be jealous of his wife.

What he kept telling her was that he married his wife because of his duty and he stayed with her because of love.

In this regard, she is convinced and continues to be with him.

However, some time ago, she learned that her wife gave birth to a second child. It's been six months now, and she feels cheated. If he doesn't love his wife, how can he have a second child with her?

He only said that it was requested by his parents at home, so there was nothing he could do.

At the same time, he still stressed that he loved her.

The more she thought about it, the more unfair she felt, so she came up with an idea, which was also the question she wanted to ask: "If I confront the original match directly now, is there any chance of winning?"

Sure enough, this post, published less than half a day, has nearly a thousand answers, almost all telling her the same truth:

Since you have been divorced once yourself, why should women embarrass women and not destroy other people's families?

Obviously, she doesn't listen to these reasons.

02

She answered many people and said the same thing: "I asked him what to do if he got divorced." He told me that if I divorced, he might marry me. "

Her confidence is nothing more than that he "may marry her".

As an outsider, most people can see that his love for her is definitely not as deep as she thinks.

How can a man who has betrayed his wife and family believe what he says?

Such people will certainly only choose their own advantages and will not consider the feelings of others at all. The word love is not difficult to say.

It's just, obviously, she's deceiving herself.

She stubbornly believes that only herself is his true love. She didn't realize that her behavior was hurting another family, and all she could think about was her own happiness.

She thinks that if he leaves his wife, he will be able to stay with her, and they will be the two most suitable people, just like in the past.

She called him the soul mate of her life.

Her delusion has made her ignore the most basic life ethics.

If a relationship is disgraceful, the final result will probably not be beautiful. A person who has betrayed others may eventually betray you for another person.

When you take this wrong step, you have to accept the worst answer.

This is not love, because true love is exclusive. A responsible man will not have a second child with the other half, but on the other hand, he will talk sweetly with others.

Such a person, in the final analysis, is selfish, and the person he really loves is only himself from beginning to end.

Most of the people he chooses are those who are most beneficial to him after weighing the pros and cons. If he really loved you so much, he should have divorced you a long time ago.

Some people, who have lived all their lives, are still emotionally puzzled and always naive. The other party is convinced by a word and thinks that this is meeting love.

In fact, this is actually taking yourself into a road of no return.

If you like a person with a family, you are doomed to have no result.

What are those who still have illusions insisting on?

03

There is a girl in my hometown. When she was 25, she fell in love with a 47-year-old man. Without exception, the other party also has a family.

That man is very rich, and it is said that he bought a house specially for her. Of course, he certainly didn't say too many sweet words. This makes her feel young and beautiful, which is more suitable for him than his original collocation.

Moreover, if two people have conflicts, she also firmly believes that he will stand on his side, because he loves himself more.

Later, she really had a showdown with his wife and asked her out directly, trying to persuade them to divorce.

Finally, it was she who resigned.

He never wanted to divorce his wife, and those who were willing to marry her were only temporary lies. She is too confident. If she wants to expose a lie, she should be punished.

Things in the world, cause and effect have their own reasons, what kind of reasons are planted, and what kind of fruit will be harvested in the end. Temporary luck doesn't mean eternal ending.

What is the mentality of the third party in those feelings and the original "tearing"?

I don't know whether to say they are naive or stupid, because this idea has gone astray from the beginning.

I found one thing, the third party in most relationships, they don't realize that their actions are wrong, and it is very harmful to destroy others' feelings.

When they fall into this relationship, all they can think of is: Who does he love most? Is he willing to divorce for himself?

They still want to seek a good result for their relationship, but they ignore one thing: this is not a normal love. Just like a tree, if it is planted crooked from the beginning, it will certainly not grow into the original towering tree as expected.

Feelings naturally cannot bear the desired fruit.

Can't you ask an irresponsible person to give you a future? Other people's husbands, no matter how appropriate you think, should stay away and don't touch them.

04

A really good relationship starts with being with someone who deserves it.

I remember a long time ago, I read a passage to the effect that in my life, people will definitely not meet only one person who excites them. How can we avoid this phenomenon from happening again?

The answer is: just like picking up shells, when you find the best shells, don't go to the seaside again.

And I think, this paragraph should be added: If you are a shell picker, don't pick up those shells that have owners.

Your feelings are feelings, and the original match you hurt is not feelings? Is her feelings worth disappointing?

In this case, your so-called true love is just a joke.

No one will admit it except yourself.

In love, a girl who is really smart and loves herself, if she falls in love with a family, will know how to stop the loss in time when she finds out about it, instead of making mistakes.

If in the end, everything is really irreversible, the person you are most disappointed with is yourself.

I hope you won't make such a mistake.

Everyone has the freedom to pursue love, but this freedom is relative and does not mean that you can be desperate. Disgraced love will not have a glorious ending.