Why should we aspire to be a "good old man"?

In the past, I hated the term "good old man" so much that I almost compared it with words such as "cunning", "treacherous" and "insidious". When it comes to who is a "good old guy", I have already drawn a line with him in my heart. But as I grow older, I look back at people like "good old guys" and admire them very much, and I am willing to get close to them. Because they are safe and considerate.

A good old man always smiles when he faces you. When you are upset, anxious, nervous, or uneasy, seeing such a smiling face will calm down your mood a little. When you achieve results and receive praise from everyone, his smile towards you is still the same, and he does not smile more flatteringly or more flatteringly because of this. From this, you will develop a sense of trust in him.

A good person has a strict mouth, and generally will not tell others what he has heard. If you tell him, "Don't tell others," then don't worry, he will definitely not tell others - you think he is no closer to others than you are. He remembers the ancient adage "Misfortune comes from the mouth", not to protect you, but to protect himself.

A good man may not be kind, but he is definitely not bad. He will not seduce you behind your back or give you a hint, because that will damage his image as a "good old man" and spread the word about it. He can see through many things and understand them clearly, but he will not say them easily. He knows that this is an unspoken rule, but he will not use such unspoken rules to harm others.

A good old man may not be "sweet-mouthed", but he will not be "bad-mouthed". If you make a fool of yourself, lose face, say something wrong, or make a joke, others will laugh at you, make fun of you, or make fun of you, but good people will not. Maybe, he smiled slightly, but before you could blush with embarrassment, his smile had already gone away. He will say slowly: "It's not a big deal. When no one made a mistake, I was better than you..." He will expose his own ugliness to cover up your ugliness, so that you can stand a chance in front of the public. You will thank him for it.

A good person may not be really "good". He wants to be said to be "good", which will make others misunderstand him as "hypocritical". In fact, this is an art of living in the world. If others say good things about him, like him, and welcome him, he will be able to do things smoothly when he cooperates with others, and he will not be turned away when he asks others to do things. On the contrary, many young people say without shame: "I don't care what others think of me. Even if everyone doesn't like me, I still go my own way!" When you say this when you are 20 years old, no one will care about you. Say it again when you are 30 years old. , is tantamount to isolating oneself. No one is willing to deal with you, no one is willing to cooperate with you, no one is willing to help you, and some people are even adding insult to injury and laughing on the sidelines when you encounter difficulties - who knows how high-minded this guy is! At this time, the good old man will help you speak again: "Young man, don't argue with him!"

The good old man rarely has troubles because he thinks openly. Isn’t that what happens between people? What's going on? Take advantage of each other. As the saying goes, "Everyone for one, one for all." To put it cliché, it’s called “fish helps water, and water helps fish.” Everyone bows his head but does not raise his head to meet each other, and there will inevitably be bumps and bumps. When you look at me and I feel uncomfortable, but these are internal conflicts among the people and should not be elevated to conflicts between ourselves and the enemy. Considering the overall situation and the long term, everyone should love each other and be a happy family. Isn't that what the great master said in the movie "Ip Man 2": You help me, I help you, everyone helps each other, this is how life goes.

A good old man is very generous to others. If you offend him, he will not be annoyed; if you squeeze him, he will laugh it off; if you bully him, he will retaliate with kindness; if you call him a "faceless melon", he will admit it. . However, he is very strict with himself. He never says anything he shouldn't say. He must think through every word and sentence before saying them. He must carefully weigh how to do everything. He knows the right time to say each sentence. . He is lenient towards others, but strict with himself, and has set various circles for himself that he cannot leave. Therefore, he has a good relationship with everyone, and there is a certain distance between him and you. You can't get close to him, and you can't bear to leave.

A good old man is a person of moral integrity, a well-mannered person, a mature person, and a calm person. There is nothing wrong with being a good person, warm but not hot, fragrant but not strong, relaxed and relaxed, and able to advance and retreat in a certain way. If a woman can cultivate to this point, what else can she not accomplish, and what else can she not gain?