Should divorced women stay, stay or let go?

My friend Xiaojun is depressed. Everyone drank together that day and watched him gulp it into his mouth. That was a sign of drunkenness!

Several good friends looked at each other, slowed down, and everyone began to chat, deliberately leading the topic to the relationship between husband and wife before opening his chatterbox.

This wine is sometimes a good thing. Although you can solve the immediate worries in one drink, you can't solve thousands of worries. The existing problems must be solved by waking up.

Chatting and chatting, I realized that Xiaojun's daughter-in-law Xiaoqing had to divorce him frequently recently. He didn't know what he had done wrong, so he paid his salary and left himself a cigarette and a drink at most. On holidays, it is not thin for her family, but it is warm and warm.

Xiaoqing and I have been married for three years. In addition to the first two years of love, they rarely communicate with each other in the past six months, and they no longer go out to attend friends' parties.

We have all met his daughter-in-law Xiaoqing. She looks lovely and respects us very much. Everyone calls you brother or sister, which makes you very useful. But behind this cry, there is some alienation, sweet mouth, but across the heart, everyone eats and chats together. She doesn't talk much, looks quiet, but it is difficult to blend in.

Talk to her more, just know Xiaoqing is very motivated. After work, she reads and studies, and sometimes sends some articles in her circle of friends. I have read her contributions, which are good in literary talent, strict in logic, well-founded and interesting.

Because I also like writing, I can talk to her very well. Sometimes I talk about my cognition of life and reveal my dissatisfaction with Xiaojun from her words.

After graduating from high school, Xiaojun stopped making progress. He usually likes to get together with friends to drink or play games at midnight. She once advised Xiaojun to read more books, enrich his knowledge and improve his cultivation. However, Xiaojun is not enterprising. In the past six months, he has been keen on playing games and partying.

In the past, husband and wife often appeared on this occasion, seemingly loving, but in fact, the sense of distance has gradually increased. Over time, two people with different interests and hobbies will definitely be rejected.

In fact, for the relationship between husband and wife, I agree with Xiaoqing. She is aggressive. Although I am an outsider, I should persuade him not to leave, but the present situation of Xiaojun is really worrying.

Husband and wife get married to live together. The so-called combination of the three views lies in whether they can promote each other and complement each other in life. Sometimes I will be very interested in watching Xiaojun dance, drink, chat and chat with everyone. The jokes made everyone laugh their heads off. Without him, it is really impossible to be lively.

But no matter how happy he is, he will always be missing something. Now, after listening to Xiaoqing's complaints about Xiaojun, I find that their knowledge, cognition and hobbies are not at the same level. Husband and wife who don't speak the same language. In addition to the initial sweet and passionate period, even if they are lying in a bed, their hearts feel thousands of miles away from you.

Just like friends eating and chatting together, if there is no new topic injected, they will feel bored. Maybe after Xiaoqing attended several small military friends' parties, she couldn't find the topic she was interested in. Although people are sitting in front of you, that kind of loneliness spreads in their hearts.

Xiaojun is very kind to Xiaoqing. Sometimes at the dinner table, he helps Xiaoqing with vegetables and soup, showing a little concern for us, which is often the case.

From the appearance, the two are very well matched and constantly interacting, and the sweet picture of love greatly envies friends. We all thought that Xiaoqing would be very happy with Xiaojun's love. Unexpectedly, what she saw in her eyes was not synchronized with real life.

He doesn't want to lose Xiaoqing, but also appreciates Xiaoqing's progress. After listening to a friend's article praising Xiaoqing, he was very happy. It really satisfied him to have such a smart wife around him. But the pride of life did not make him happy. When he was delighted with Xiaoqing's achievements, Xiaoqing asked him for a divorce.

Looking at Xiaojun's depressed expression now, I am both sympathetic and helpless. After all, he is almost 30 years old and afraid of hurting people, but he is light and useless.

So, for a woman who wants to leave, should she keep it or let it go?

0 1 If he loves her, he will change the situation of Xiaojun. If he loves Xiaoqing very much and doesn't want to lose such a good wife, he will try to catch up with Xiaoqing's footsteps. Whether he can keep pace or not, as long as he is determined to study and wants to change the status quo, he will pay more.

We choose our own way, and others marry ourselves. As for whether we can grow old together, we really need the joint efforts of both sides.

In fact, it's not that Xiaoqing doesn't love Xiaojun, but that she's worried about his idleness. People who have no expectation for the future are like navigation lights lost in the sea. She tried to guide him forward, but he refused to go with him.

Xiaojun is blind at heart. Apart from going to work, his spare time is a pure waste of good time. Xiaoqing was helpless when she saw that she was holding a mobile phone in a negative state. If he didn't listen, he lost the mood to communicate with him.

It's no use just appreciating, communication is the foundation. The biggest problem of Xiaojun is that he has not improved his quality. He has no higher education and has made no progress. Xiaoqing has a plan for her future. Whether writing or working, she can try her best to enrich her body and mind. When she met Xiaoqing again, she felt indescribable attraction.

He likes Xiaoqing, telling her that divorce is very painful, and asking Xiaoqing why, is it bad for you, or is it beating you and scolding you? But Xiao Qing shook his head.

Can't communicate, no * * * with language, which is the most depressing thing for Xiaoqing. However, I can't yell at Xiaojun. Without ambition, no amount of love can shake a heart that refuses to grow up.

Not all grievances can be shouted out, not all worries can be said, some things can only be understood by yourself, and some things can only be said to yourself.

Disappointment makes Xiaoqing's greatest sorrow for marriage. Without hope, there is no disappointment. It is conceivable that Xiaoqing's decision was painful. From love to marriage, three years of running-in did not change Xiaojun, making her lose confidence in life and future marriage.

In fact, in marriage, both parties should grow together. Just like when we climb a mountain, many people will go with us at first. Later, physical strength, toughness and psychological quality will make people flinch. After the distance is widened, some people standing on the top of the mountain look at the scenery of other mountains and look like dwarfs under the sky. , while others flinched halfway up the mountain.

When one party in love is tired, no matter how hard the other party tries, it won't help.

Letting go may be the best choice. I asked Xiaojun if he could concentrate on improving his skills after work. He said blankly, learn what?

After listening to his question, it is no wonder that Xiaoqing wants a divorce. A person who has no plans for himself leads a mediocre life every day. This kind of life is the most boring, let alone communication. He doesn't even want to say a superfluous word.

As the old saying goes, at the age of thirty, Xiao Jun is no longer young and can't see himself clearly. It is conceivable that Xiaoqing's full heart and Xiaojun's sleepy life are like casting pearls before swine. If he doesn't change, there is really no room to stay.

It is not easy to build a family on your own. While lamenting Xiaojun, I also admire Xiaoqing for daring to file for divorce. Xiaoqing's practice is actually a wake-up call for Xiaojun.

Everyone has his own way to go. I will try my best to help you. Whether you want to go with me or not depends on you.

Judging from the situation of Xiaojun and Xiaoqing, Xiaojun is very confused about the future and needs Xiaoqing's help to plan his life. As the old saying goes, when a husband and wife are together, they are both beneficial, but when they are broken, they are both hurt.

I also hope Xiaojun can see the reality clearly and learn to change whether he is divorced or not. Because no relationship is predestined, and no love is taken for granted.

So when you meet someone willing to hold your hand, please don't give up easily. Some things are won by hard work.

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