Is the friendship in the university room really plastic?

I remember when I first entered the university, I heard a sentence: "High school is a high school for a group of people, and the university is a university for one person." Many students feel unprecedented loneliness only when they go to college. At this stage, they will miss their high school friends very much.

A study by the University of Kansas in the United States shows that adults need to invest precious time in making friends. It takes about 90 hours to become friends from strangers and about 200 hours to become close friends. Life in junior high school and senior high school is really a typical group life. Boys and girls even eat in groups and go to the toilet in groups. So in general, being bored with each other every day can certainly cultivate feelings.

It's different when you go to college. Everyone has their own busy things, and there is little time to get along. Sometimes people in a dormitory seldom meet each other. It's a bit difficult to cultivate true feelings. According to a survey, 45.3% people think that their closest friends are mainly "friends they met in high school".

Is it necessary to maintain "plastic love"?

In the process of growing up, we have all been lost and confused, but in the end we must be strong and mature. The handling of interpersonal relationships is a subject that we must face when we grow up.

University is different from other stages. During this period, some people are immersed in the library, while others are keen on socializing. Your world can no longer be just a "dormitory-classroom" two points and one line, but a dormitory circle, a community circle, a department circle, a part-time circle and so on. You can meet different people and make new friends at any time.

The more friends you can make, the less you cherish and the more casual you are about every relationship. People often think: If you don't have a good relationship with this person, just have a good relationship with others. The degree of care has decreased and it is difficult to maintain.

Moreover, in junior high school and high school, making friends is simply making friends, nothing else, and the purpose is very simple. But when you go to college, the purpose of making friends has changed: some people want to be student cadres, others want to get everyone's support and get scholarships. When the other person's goal is achieved, you will be less needed and your relationship will not be as good as before.

But if you don't maintain it, you must force yourself to keep making new friends, otherwise you will feel lonely in college, especially those who go to college in other places.

Here are some characteristics of being a good friend. See if you have any friends who like each other and agree with each other; Communicate in time when problems arise; Mutual understanding and tolerance; Give help when needed; Give you blunt advice.

People can't live without friendship, but it's not easy to get real friendship. Friendship always needs loyalty to sow, enthusiasm to water, principle to cultivate, understanding to care for.