This is the age of looking at faces? Maybe your understanding is all wrong.

In the morning, I accidentally saw a person in the group asking Master Xuecheng, the abbot of Beijing Longquan Temple:

Master Xuecheng's answer was:

The master's answer was very good, but I was afraid that the baby might not understand.

This made me reflect on my story. I haven't lost weight since I was in primary school, and my appearance doesn't make people look back (ancestral silver basin, big face, single eyelid and fat lips), which is undoubtedly very fatal for a girl. Fortunately, my academic performance is not bad, which may be the only source of my confidence.

I had no choice but to go to middle school and transfer several times, and my grades were getting worse day by day. Finally, I failed in the senior high school entrance examination-that is to say, I didn't even get into the high school I wanted to go to.

At this time, my dad's career also fell to the bottom, my little uncle died unexpectedly, and he was chased by debt collectors every day.

Is this life extremely gloomy?

yes, it was my most embarrassing experience. I haven't felt so miserable living in the basement since I graduated from college. Later, I learned that there are worse things waiting for me to experience. )

At that time, I felt that I was nothing: my appearance, family background, knowledge and connections were all shortcomings, and I was at a loss about the future, let alone career planning, that is, I didn't think about anything next year. There's nothing special about hobbies. I wear fat sportswear every day just to hide my fat figure. I feel so inferior that I dare not speak in public occasions. I feel so inferior that I dare not speak in front of the person I like. I'm an unknown passer-by. My grades are not improving, my personality is nothing bright, and my figure is growing with the wind. At the age of 18, I already weighed 12 pounds.

looking back now, I was really not cute at that time.

I must thank the babies in the middle school WeChat group who still remember me.

get to the point.

yes, that's right.

I can't deny it, which has been proved time and again in my life. When I was in primary school, the dance team didn't choose me, and the military band didn't choose me. In the end, only the waist drum team that the whole class participated in took me in. . .

if you don't believe us, we will look at all previous American presidential elections (whether it is the same in greater China politics or not, you can think for yourself). On September 26th, 196, presidential candidates Nixon and Kennedy held the first TV debate in the history of American presidential campaign in front of 7 million American audiences on CBS.

In the TV camera, Nixon's beard is messy, his expression is tired and he looks sick. Kennedy, on the other hand, is free and easy, calm and confident. Kennedy won the first TV debate.

After 45 American presidents, most of them are not bad. Especially the presidents after Kennedy (don't talk about Trump, people live by character), Obama, George W. Bush, Clinton, George H.W. Bush, Reagan, Carter and Ford.

is it wrong to look at your face? Is there anything wrong with "Yan value is justice"?

this is undoubtedly the most cost-saving criterion.

We can often see a sentence: "A woman's life is good or not, just look at her face and you will understand everything." I agree with this sentence more and more in recent years. Your appearance is your attitude towards life, and your figure is your character and accomplishment.

At the reunion after graduation, several girls who used to be plain-looking were radiant as if they were reborn. It can be seen that they finally lived their lives.

There is a slogen in the new elite career training of classical teachers: "Grow up, grow into yourself!" Thankfully, we have all grown into ourselves at last.

don't talk about people, don't we treat animals the same way? A good-looking dog is reluctant to beat him when he is in trouble, but the first time is to take pictures and send a circle of friends.

it's strange that a dog that eats lotus root doesn't get a fat beating when it gets into trouble.

except for those ugly babies who make the gods cry, most of us are Chinese, and the difference in appearance is minimal. The standard of good-looking and bad-looking is actually-health. It's up to you to squeeze into the beautiful crowd or to degenerate into the ugly crowd.

Stop blaming your parents. After 2 years old, you made your own appearance.

so, how to save our looks?

let's look at the photos first.

Lingluan Nini is the signing author of my last company, Sina Weibo and Taobao's beauty cosmetics online celebrity. People in Jianghu call her "Painted Sister". In the end, the book came out. I don't know, but I deeply remembered this face.

Nini was born in 1987, and God never gave her much favor. As you can see, her eyes are small, her nose is flat, her skin is not good, and she has more than 7 degrees of deep myopia. Do you think you are not as good as you?

But God has given her a pair of skillful hands. Every time she changes her makeup, it's like "a different person", from male to female, from Chinese to western, from cute girl to queen. It's a fantastic makeup technique. This is the magic of makeup. If you are really ugly, you can try Han's semi-permanence in addition to make-up. If you can bear the pain with money, you can have a micro-plastic surgery (there are too many examples in the entertainment circle, so I won't talk nonsense).

But, with a new face, will everything be better?

not necessarily.

what's the point of living like this? It is better to exercise than to complain.

It doesn't matter if the face value is not enough. At least we can have a mermaid line or a vest line, and we can also have a charming ass.

Fitness can make you look like you've had plastic surgery, don't you believe it? Give it a try!

Speaking of this, Priscilla Chen, Zuckerberg's Chinese wife, will first come to my mind.

why did Zuckerberg, with a net worth of 23 billion, marry the "Nanjing chubby girl" with dark skin, slightly fat figure and plain appearance, and become a crazy wife dazzler? No matter from any angle, Priscilla is not a beautiful girl. She has no touching appearance or distinguished life experience. Her father was a Chinese living in Vietnam. In the 197s, she immigrated to the United States as a refugee and opened a small restaurant with her Vietnamese wife to make a living. Priscilla and Xiaozha met at Harvard University. At that time, Xiao Chen was a brilliant student in Harvard's most difficult medical school. Xiaozha was a computer major, and it was also Xiaozha's climb.

after getting a bachelor's degree in biology from Harvard University, she didn't choose to work for facebook (how wise! ), first in Massachusetts, the most famous local San Jose Huck school as a science teacher for two years, and in 28, he was admitted to the top medical school of the University of California in the United States (awesome! Definitely a female schoolmaster), and successfully obtained the qualification of pediatrician one week before the wedding. However, Xiaozha has been obsessed with Xiao Chen for more than ten years. On the day of graduation from the University of California Medical School, Xiaozha also claimed that he was attending the graduation ceremony in Priscilla Chen through the "sign-in" function of Facebook, and left a message: "I am proud of you, Dr. Chen."

Xiao Zha once said in an interview with ABC TV that Xiao Chen exerted omnipresent influence on his life and even his work, and it was Xiao Chen who prompted him to add a registration tool for organ donation on Facebook: "Priscilla saw the children's illness getting worse, and suddenly there was an organ for transplantation, so a child's life would be better, and her whole face would light up when she came home."

Xiao Zha also posted a warm photo of Chen and her husband when they were pregnant on facebook with the words: "This is an amazing photo of Priscilla. I love her expression: strong and kind, brave and full of love, leading and supportive. Thank you, leibowitz, for capturing her charm so well. " You can feel Xiao Chen's position in this family from the photos.

Now, the couple are devoting themselves to charity, donating 99% of their facebook shares, and publicly announcing that they will invest more than 3 billion US dollars (about 2.5 billion yuan) in research on the treatment of diseases in the next 1 years, hoping to realize the treatment, prevention and management of all diseases in this century.

Xiao Chen's expression is her personality charm, the goddess with high EQ and IQ.

if I knew her, I would like her.

In short, if you like your job, do it well; If you don't like it, do what you like, even if it is planting flowers and grass, doing handicrafts, and people who are dedicated are the most attractive.

don't try to depend on anyone, just be yourself.

what if you don't have hobbies? Then volunteer at a charity or temple.

what if none of the above can be done? Then please keep a sincere and lovely smile at all times.

As thich nhat hanh said in "Practice with Heavy Work":

As long as you do more good thoughts and do more good deeds, you will become a dignified person. If all my heart is full of greed, ignorance and suspicion, hurtful words, haggle over every ounce, and stir up right and wrong ... everyone will avoid it.

that's what it means.

yes.

Your face is the presentation of your self. Whether it looks good or not depends on how you fill it with your heart and sculpt it.

after 2 years old, please stop complaining and be responsible for your own appearance. .