How do two in-laws talk when they meet for the first time?

As far as the traditional marriage customs in China are concerned, men and women usually arrange a meeting between their parents before deciding to get married, and also discuss matters related to marriage. However, since it is the first time for parents of both sides to meet, it will inevitably be somewhat unnatural. So, how should the in-laws talk when they meet for the first time? Here are the speaking skills of the two in-laws when they first met. Let's have a look.

Speaking skills of two in-laws when they first met.

1, don't be too partial to your children.

When two in-laws meet for the first time, don't always be partial to their children and put pressure on each other. It is best to pretend that your child is slightly inadequate and hope that the other party can forgive you. But to grasp a degree and emphasize one's own shortcomings will bring misunderstanding to the other party. The other person will think that you want to make your in-laws forgive you more by expressing your child's shortcomings. For example, if you can't cook and don't do housework well, it's easy for your in-laws to mistake you for conniving at their shortcomings.

2. Don't belittle and criticize each other's children.

If you have any questions about your daughter-in-law or son-in-law, you can communicate with them directly and sincerely. If you and your in-laws express their opinions too much, your original intention is to hope that your in-laws will talk about their children later, but in fact this will make your in-laws misunderstand that you are biased against their children. They will even relay your comments to their children, which will make young people feel sued. Not only will it not help solve the problem, but it will also put the two sides in an antagonistic relationship. In the eyes of parents, children are always excellent.

3. Take the initiative to care about each other's family situation. Especially if the elder in-laws are still alive, we should ask more questions to show our attention and respect.

A gift prepared by parents when they first met.

1, the most traditional gift: alcohol, tobacco, ham, oil, fish and sugar ham has always been a good gift for guests, especially in our traditional dowry.

2, the smallest gift: excellent tea or coffee Some parents with petty bourgeoisie complex like to drink coffee and taste tea, so it is most appropriate to choose some excellent tea or coffee gifts.

3, the most affordable gift: supermarket convenience card, afraid that the other party does not like loose gifts, you can attach a supermarket convenience card, which is both affordable and not as direct as money.

4, the most colorful gift: flowers, many parents who pursue quality life like flowers, bright colors and fresh fragrance can make them fondle admiringly, and they will feel at home.

5, the most intimate gift: warm sweater, pay attention to keep warm in late winter and early spring, send a sweater or wool scarf, let them feel their sincerity at all times.

6, the safest gift: health care products and fruits, if you don't know the preferences of your in-laws, sending health care products and fruits is the least likely to make mistakes, the key lies in your mind.

7, the most collectible gift: jewelry, buy an elegant pearl necklace or jade bracelet for your mother, not only the atmosphere, but also set off the noble temperament of women, which is a treasure worth collecting.

8, the most beautiful gift: skin care products, skin care products for the other parents is one of the more affordable practices, choose pearl powder, suitable skin care products or cosmetics.

Introduction of parent-teacher conference

1, get ready early-it is best for newlyweds to meet and get together with their parents as early as the date, and keep a good relationship all the time, so that it is easier to discuss and go smoothly when planning the wedding.

2. Adhere to etiquette-the elders pay special attention to etiquette and require a full set of wedding etiquette. The wedding banquet uses a Chinese banquet. Newcomers should patiently explain to them and try to simplify traditional etiquette and wedding banquet.

3. Negotiate the gift money and the wedding budget-the couple should be frank and clear about their financial ability, negotiate the gift money and the wedding budget, and then explain to their parents separately and discuss with them, so that both sides will feel embarrassed when they exceed the budget.

4. Discuss the details of the wedding-when discussing with their families, the couple should make all the details clear as far as possible, including the banquet that needs to be held, whether the wine and gifts are owned by the woman's family, whether they will be given to the woman's family after marriage, the expenses that both parties are willing to bear, and special wedding ceremonies and customs.

5. Reach a consensus-after discussion with family members, if you find that you disagree, you should negotiate with your family members separately so as to reach a consensus before the meeting.

6. Avoid conflicts-If parents are not speculative or even have conflicts when they meet, both husband and wife should mediate in real time, ease the atmosphere and seek solutions calmly.