The boss invited two colleagues to dinner. How can I balance my mind?

In fact, this is just the low emotional intelligence of leaders. No matter what they think inside, they should do enough superficial work. As a leader, at least on the surface, we can see that everyone is fair and consistent, and there is no specialization. The leader treated all the employees to a meal. Even if there is a temporary task to be completed, arrange subordinates to stay and complete the task. At the very least, you need a word of comfort!

"Xiao Li, don't catch up, just received a temporary task from the superior, today is the day to eat. In order not to delay both sides, please stay and finish the task. After all, you are the backbone of the business. I missed dinner this time. I'll treat you to dinner alone next time to show my gratitude. Do you think so? "

Obviously, the leader has given you enough face and returned you down the steps. Why don't you thank the wise leader SHEN WOO quickly? What else do you want?

I have three views on this matter:

1, you care too much about these trifles. I don't know your position in the company at ordinary times. According to my years of work experience, if this kind of thing is not the core event, the leaders will mostly arrange "unimportant" people to stay in their posts.

The so-called "unimportant" here does not mean that you are unimportant, but that you may be a marginalized employee in your daily work and rarely deal with leaders, so you are dispensable for leaders to eat, so you will be arranged to stay on duty.

The same thing happened when I was working in a state-owned enterprise. There was a quarterly award, and the leader invited me to dinner. While eating, the leader suddenly told me that there would be a regular meeting of supervisors tomorrow. There is a very important document that has not been written or printed, and someone needs to stay and finish it.

None of the people present spoke, so the leader looked around and assigned me to stay. I was really a little lost and indignant at that time. Why am I staying, not them? But in retrospect, there were either middle-level leaders or technical leaders present. Only I am Ronaldinho. If I am not assigned, who will I be assigned to?

Therefore, for this matter, my advice is not to pay too much attention. Come to think of it, it's just a meal. When did you have a good meal with the leader? Since when have you no conscience to kiss up to the leaders? Why ask for unhappiness? What's more, it may be 12 o'clock when they go home to eat and sing. It may be only 7 o'clock to finish this task, and there is no need to drink. How comfortable it is to order a barbecue and watch a TV series.

In life, you only need to be responsible for yourself and live comfortably, and the rest should be treated with a normal heart.

2. If necessary, drill into the inner circle of leadership. Just now I talked about looking at this matter with a normal heart. Now I want to drill into the inner circle of leadership. It looks contradictory before and after. Actually, it's not. It is right to look at this matter with a normal heart. The past is the past. It's no big deal. But for personal development, we can't treat it with a normal heart, and we must pay 120% efforts to get into the core circle of leadership.

What are we working for?

Isn't our job a promotion and a raise? I don't want to say too much about the workplace crisis. I just want to talk about money. Looking at the salary increase in the workplace, it is generally only accompanied by the promotion of the position, and the authority for promotion is in the hands of the leaders. If you don't get into the inner circle of leaders at this time, what other ways can you get promoted?

3. The way to get into the inner circle of leadership is not just flattering. I don't know how many friends are like me, unwilling to flatter leaders and introverted. They are usually too lazy to get in touch with the leaders. Entering the inner circle of leaders is simply more difficult.

But flattering leaders is not the only way to enter the inner circle. Different people have different ways, but no matter which way they use, they must have enough advantages.

For example, although I am introverted, I am still the first in the department to do data for the time being. This is a bright spot in my work, and others can't catch up for the time being. Therefore, once the leader has done something about data, he always tells the manager "Let me do the data quickly", which is beyond the task assigned by the manager. My data ability has occupied a very important position in the minds of leaders. In the future, I can rely on this advantage to successfully enter the leadership core circle.

Some people will say that there is no bright spot in their work. What should I do?

Hearing this sentence, I was extremely angry. Isn't it just that mud can't help the wall? I know there is no bright spot in my work. Why don't I know how to improve myself? Well, today's topic is not self-improvement. For those friends whose jobs are mediocre, I believe everyone must have advantages in other places, right?

My brother department does have a mediocre employee, who often makes mistakes in his work, but people get along well with leaders. Why? Just because the glory of the king played so well, our leaders did a good job. At this time, the advantages of employees can be brought into play. I take the leader as king every day, and I have a close personal relationship with the leader. Recently, my working ability has also made great progress.

So, take a good look at what hobbies the leaders have. If they can't find a breakthrough in their work, they will look for hobbies. General leaders like sports, cars, games and the like, and explore for themselves.

To sum up, when there is no competition, accept it frankly, but don't forget that your purpose is promotion and salary increase, and the authority for promotion and salary increase is in the hands of the leaders, so you need to get into the inner circle of the leaders. In addition to the advantages of work, the hobby of leadership is also a breakthrough!