Common chat topics (1000 essential chat topics)

Everyone says that love, love, love is what is talked about.

Through chatting, the two constantly exchanged information, gradually deepened their connection with each other, and learned more about both parties. Finally, they judged whether the other party had a channel with themselves, and then chose whether to upgrade. relation.

Therefore, chatting is very important.

However, many children who want to fall in love often fall into chatting. I provide emotional counseling to some students and look at their chat records. Sometimes I really worry about them and feel that they have missed out. Lots of good opportunities.

It was obvious that he could start the topic very well, but he interrupted him with one sentence;

It was obvious that the other party took the initiative to throw out a joke, but he responded abruptly;

And many times the whole chat atmosphere is very tense. If I were the other party, I would feel very embarrassed and not want to continue chatting...

How should we chat to better express ourselves? Understand each other and make two people become closer?

I’m going to tell you some practical information today. Are you ready?

1.

What exactly do you want to talk about?

Many people don’t know how to find topics when chatting. They feel that every day is very dull and there is nothing interesting to say. Or they don’t know whether it is appropriate to talk about some topics at the current stage or whether it will make the other party feel cheated. offend.

So, I would like to talk to you about these two points.

First, chatting is not about being a critic and letting the other person think that your life is wonderful and that you are a great person, so they will like you.

Most people's lives are not all ordinary, some are just a small part of ordinary life.

You meet different people and experience different things every day, from leaders and colleagues around you, to meeting strangers, to eating one meal a day. These can actually become material for chatting.

Even if you only stay at home to eat and sleep, we still have past experiences, and we can still talk about future ideals!

Second, chat must be timely.

For example, can we talk about a short joke? The answer is yes!

But if you make short jokes to someone you have just met, you are likely to be blocked or even scolded. However, if you make some short jokes during the ambiguous period, it will make the other person blush. , let the relationship between the two quietly heat up.

Therefore, it is very important to grasp the time stage.

When they first met, their main purpose was to understand each other through information exchange.

At that time, when choosing a topic, you needed to choose some topics with strong universality. Most people could say a few words, such as weather, environment, hometown, school, profession, travel, food, pets, music, and movies. , hot news, etc., these topics can be discussed.

If you are talking to a girl, you can also talk about zodiac signs, tests, gossip news that girls are generally interested in, and talk to boys about some football stars, games, fitness, etc.

This stage does not have to be too deep. As long as you find something that the other party is interested in, it is mainly to let the two people get familiar with each other.

If two people have been chatting for more than a week and have become familiar with each other, they have probably understood each other’s interests and hobbies, and have found some common points, they can continue to explore based on these common points. Continuously expand new topics.

For example, if a girl likes online shopping, you can ask her to recommend some good things to you. If a boy likes to play that kind of game, you can ask him to take you to play, or to share with you some interesting things from the past, or Exchange your views on something to see if the two people's views are consistent and how to resolve them if they are inconsistent.

Through these, the chat becomes more in-depth and the relationship between the two parties is deepened.

When the relationship between two people becomes closer in the later stage, they can find some more unique and private topics. Occasionally, they can flirt with earthy love words to add some ambiguity to the relationship between the two people. Find the right time to upgrade the relationship.

2.

How to ask a question?

The above briefly mentioned what topics can be discussed in the chat. What I am most afraid of is that some children use it directly and turn the chat into a questionnaire/household check/interview...

Straightforward Ask "Where did you study? What is your major? Do you like traveling? What kind of pets do you like? What do you think of the recent events?

If you ask a question, don't mention too much For big questions, I feel like I have to write a 1,000-word essay to answer them. Try to ask questions that are easy to answer. If you can give multiple-choice questions, don’t ask questions.

For example, you want to know whether the other party is there. If you like pets, you can say that you just saw a fat puppy downstairs. It was very cute. Do you prefer kittens or puppies?

The conversation should start naturally, and after the other party answers, if If there is a possibility of continuing the conversation, don't change the topic at will, thinking that the topic is over. Try to change the topic as naturally as possible.

For example, if the other party says that he prefers kittens, you can talk about your experience of raising cats, or It’s an interesting thing about raising other pets.

I also want to tell you a little trick. Don’t ask directly what you can see from each other’s friends.

Learn from each other’s friends. Obtaining information and then asking targeted questions will make the other party feel your intention and surprise.

The atmosphere of the conversation is very important.

In fact, a very important and critical point in chatting is to create an atmosphere of chatting.

You must be relaxed during the conversation and do not show obvious aggression.

If you are like a bully, you want to refute everything others say, but in the end you still feel that you are awesome and think that the other person’s emoji saying “You are right” is an affirmation of yourself;

It feels like the other person must be marveling at my logical thinking and being conquered by my charisma, but your road to getting out of singles is still very bumpy and long

You know, compared to talking with colleagues or leaders. , why do we prefer chatting with friends?

In addition to friends who are familiar with you and have the same hobbies, the key is that when chatting with friends, the whole person is relaxed and don’t think too much. When chatting with colleagues and leaders, you will be nervous and alert intentionally or unintentionally.

The same is true when chatting with the opposite sex. It is said that opposite sex attracts. In addition, you will always be cautious about the other person before you are particularly familiar with it. A hint of mystery and curiosity makes us willing to chat with him more, which is actually an advantage.

When chatting, as long as we pay attention, make the atmosphere more relaxed, express ourselves sincerely, and say something from time to time. Jokes, occasional self-deprecation, occasionally digging holes for the other person, teasing him, will make the other person unable to help but like chatting with you.

I remembered a video I saw of a girl two days ago. She was chatting with a blind date, and her best friend helped her talk. Finally, the girl threw the phone to her best friend and said, "You two, let's talk until when we can get married. ”

Some people really think that chatting is so troublesome, and falling in love is so troublesome!

But many times, relationships are in a life-and-death trial, a push-and-pull confrontation, you laugh. It grows and deepens slowly in my relationship. This is actually the joy of love!

If you are not willing to experience these "troubles", it means you are not ready to love yet.

If during the chat, you find that the other person always avoids the jokes you throw out, and your chat never goes deep,

In fact, maybe it is not what you said that is wrong, but what you said is wrong. If you don't have enough skills, it's just because the person doesn't want to talk to you.

When encountering this situation, don't rush to talk, and don't be sad to give up.

Maybe you can take a step back, calm down temporarily, build your own image, improve yourself, and start again. Maybe you will have different gains!