How to make a joke correctly?

The bullying I have seen in the name of joking

My colleague Xiao Zhao is fat, but she is cute and has a lively personality.

But since the new colleague Xiao Li joined the company, Xiao Zhao has become taciturn and no longer chats with everyone. The reason is because Xiao Li often 'jokes' about Xiao Zhao's physical shortcomings.

For example, when everyone is eating, Xiao Li will suddenly say to Xiao Zhao, "Don't eat, your eyes are almost fat." After saying this, he will laugh to himself. A few people who played well with Xiao Li would also agree.

If Xiao Zhao is angry, then he will say: "It's just a joke, you can't take a joke, right?"

This is a typical way to treat others in the name of joking Ridiculing is an insult, not a joke. It is a very uncultured behavior.

A joke is called a joke if it makes the other person feel funny. If it brings harm to others, then it is ridicule.

Some people may also laugh at themselves based on their own shortcomings, but others' self-deprecation does not mean that you can speak freely.

Especially between good friends, you should pay more attention. You can't say whatever you want just because you think the relationship is good. What often brings harm to the other party is what you think is an inadvertent joke.

No matter when, what the situation, or what the relationship is, joking is not an excuse for you to laugh at other people's shortcomings.

2. Make fun of your shortcomings

This reminds me of a classmate in high school who was born lacking the ‘athletic gene’.

What impressed me deeply was that during the military training, no matter how the instructor taught or changed, he was always on the same page, which made a lot of jokes.

Whenever he takes a break, he always practices silently on the sidelines, just because he doesn’t want to hold back the class anymore, but there are always a few classmates who think they are very humorous running up to him and laughing at him. His shortcomings.

After being discovered by the instructor, he would pretend to be familiar with the classmate and say, "We were joking." And the classmate who was being 'joked' could only smile awkwardly.

It is very common for people to make fun of other people's shortcomings, whether in the workplace or on campus.

They may not have any shortcomings, but when faced with other people's shortcomings, they will develop an inexplicable sense of superiority, and then magnify the other person's shortcomings and expose them verbally to satisfy themselves. vanity.

You may say it as a joke, but in your heart you are full of vitriol and extremely disrespectful.

3. In the name of joking, I will poke your pain points

Two days ago, I heard someone quarreling downstairs. The quarrel was very fierce, and finally the police came.

Unable to hold back my curiosity, I followed along to join in the fun and learn about the causes and consequences.

Qian’s wife from Unit 6 passed away due to cancer. Qian and Tian from Unit 3 were old acquaintances. Some time ago, Qian had been busy with his wife’s funeral, so they hadn’t seen each other for a long time. Originally, this In the evening, Qian wanted to ask Tian to have a drink together to relax his mood.

But who would have thought that Tian would say, "What a blessing. When I reach middle age, my wife is gone. When I get promoted and make a fortune, my wife dies. You take up two of the three major happy events in life."

Now Qian was so angry that they started to quarrel, and Tian kept saying, "I'm joking with him, just a joke!"

That's right! How many people without empathy would make fun of other people's pain points?

People with empathy will know how to respect and understand the situation of others and will not make inappropriate jokes.